Illegal or just morally horrid?

LilElvis

Comms69 said:

janedoedoe said:

A close friend of mine was cheated on by his wife and she up and left him. She's now taking most of the money from the house sale and generally is a nasty piece of work. Shes moved city and has set up a new life with the guy she cheated on my friend with. She's recently got a new job and it makes me wonder if her new company knows about her dodgy past.... Years ago she was involved in a big scandal that made it's way into many newspapers.
I know I shouldn't get involved and it's not my place to do this... but I'd love to email her employer anonymously with some of the articles written about her disgusting  behaviour. I feel that she married my friend to get his last name and as soon as she'd got bored of him, she took his name, money, car and buggered off. 
Is it illegal to send an email to her boss with just links to a few articles revealing her true nature? Or is it just morally terrible? I'm ok with morally terrible... just don't want to yet in trouble with the police!

Not illegal to share anything with anyone. Especially if it's links to information. 

That said, why is she taking so much, are there kids involved? If not divorce should be 50/50

The post only says that she is taking most of the cash from the house sale. The overall split might be totally equitable when savings, pensions, debts, furniture and cars are factored in. I doubt the OP has knowledge of the full details of their friend's agreement.

Comms69

LilElvis said:

Comms69 said:

janedoedoe said:

A close friend of mine was cheated on by his wife and she up and left him. She's now taking most of the money from the house sale and generally is a nasty piece of work. Shes moved city and has set up a new life with the guy she cheated on my friend with. She's recently got a new job and it makes me wonder if her new company knows about her dodgy past.... Years ago she was involved in a big scandal that made it's way into many newspapers.
I know I shouldn't get involved and it's not my place to do this... but I'd love to email her employer anonymously with some of the articles written about her disgusting  behaviour. I feel that she married my friend to get his last name and as soon as she'd got bored of him, she took his name, money, car and buggered off. 
Is it illegal to send an email to her boss with just links to a few articles revealing her true nature? Or is it just morally terrible? I'm ok with morally terrible... just don't want to yet in trouble with the police!

Not illegal to share anything with anyone. Especially if it's links to information. 

That said, why is she taking so much, are there kids involved? If not divorce should be 50/50

The post only says that she is taking most of the cash from the house sale. The overall split might be totally equitable when savings, pensions, debts, furniture and cars are factored in. I doubt the OP has knowledge of the full details of their friend's agreement.

Agreed, it was more of a clarifying point. 

(sometimes people agree to stupid stuff at points of heartbreak)

HRH_MUngo

janedoedoe said:

A close friend of mine was cheated on by his wife and she up and left him. She's now taking most of the money from the house sale and generally is a nasty piece of work. Shes moved city and has set up a new life with the guy she cheated on my friend with. She's recently got a new job and it makes me wonder if her new company knows about her dodgy past.... Years ago she was involved in a big scandal that made it's way into many newspapers.
I know I shouldn't get involved and it's not my place to do this... but I'd love to email her employer anonymously with some of the articles written about her disgusting  behaviour. I feel that she married my friend to get his last name and as soon as she'd got bored of him, she took his name, money, car and buggered off. 
Is it illegal to send an email to her boss with just links to a few articles revealing her true nature? Or is it just morally terrible? I'm ok with morally terrible... just don't want to yet in trouble with the police!

I think such action is just spiteful and vengeful.  Keep out of it.  

sheramber

 Any sensible employer will ignore anonymous  email.
 

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Socajam said:

I always believe that karma is a b and life is a circle - things always return when we least expect it.
Stay out of it.

People often say this but what if the horrible situation you find yourself in is your karma?

hazyjo

Can't believe you'd even consider.

I always advise a wronged party to walk away with their head held high and their dignity intact. As for advising their friends what to do? Shouldn't even be a question!

My first husband cheated on me. If any of my friends had decided to take revenge on him (when I'd decided not to), I would have been furious and punched in the face all over again. By all means listen, moan, ignore her if you see her, but revenge? Absolutely not your place!!

lulu650

What are you trying to achieve and what does your friend think of your idea? 

Morbier

Don't do it, it's nothing to do with you!  Whatever has happened in the past, these two are now living separate lives, which seems like the best outcome.  Your proposed action will only make you feel better, not your friend. 

Think of something constructive to do to help. 

MissSunshine

Legality and morals aside, the ex-wife may not have informed many people about her new employer so may not take much to work out who the anonymous emailer is - depends whether you want to cause your close friend that hassle?

TripleH

Pollycat said:

Shouldn't that be the friend's focus, rather than the OP's focus?

I can't see anywhere that the friend has asked the OP to get involved.

I would be absolutely furious if a friend of mine chose to get involved with the life of my ex, her new employer or my finances unless I'd expressly requested them to do so.

I may have misinterpreted the post. I had it in my head that the Op was looking for ways and advice to help their friend. I was trying to refocus thoughts on more productive matters. I'll put it down to a little cabin fever 
Agree that it is wrong to go off and do things behind someone's back particularly if not in possession of all the facts.