Illegal or just morally horrid?

janedoedoe

A close friend of mine was cheated on by his wife and she up and left him. She's now taking most of the money from the house sale and generally is a nasty piece of work. Shes moved city and has set up a new life with the guy she cheated on my friend with. She's recently got a new job and it makes me wonder if her new company knows about her dodgy past.... Years ago she was involved in a big scandal that made it's way into many newspapers.
I know I shouldn't get involved and it's not my place to do this... but I'd love to email her employer anonymously with some of the articles written about her disgusting  behaviour. I feel that she married my friend to get his last name and as soon as she'd got bored of him, she took his name, money, car and buggered off. 
Is it illegal to send an email to her boss with just links to a few articles revealing her true nature? Or is it just morally terrible? I'm ok with morally terrible... just don't want to yet in trouble with the police!

Socajam

I always believe that karma is a b and life is a circle - things always return when we least expect it.
Stay out of it.

Fireflyaway

My view is if you send info that's been in the media, it's already in the public domain and presumably it was true? Therefore I can't see why it would be illegal. It may or may not be morally wrong. If by the boss knowing you are potentially protecting vulnerable people for example, I'd say that's ok and justified. However I think you are just seeking revenge. The problem with that is, it can't undo what's already happened and even though your friend may be an amazing guy, he might be a rubbish partner. You can never be sure what happens in someone's personal life. My ex seemed like a great bloke to his friends and family but he used to hit me. To this day nobody knows. I'm not really sure there is anything good to be gained. Maybe just focus your energy on being a good friend.

elsien

Third party information is always biased. You only have your friend's version of events which may or may not be accurate - taking most of the money from the house sale (for example) may be entirely reasonable if he's keeping a high proportion of other assets/pension. 

Either way, diving in with a big wooden spoon is vengeful and surely if your friend wanted that course of action he could do it himself. He may be appalled by the thought.
If this is in any way true, all you risk doing is sending your "close friend" running for the hills. 

janedoedoe

Fireflyaway said:

My view is if you send info that's been in the media, it's already in the public domain and presumably it was true? Therefore I can't see why it would be illegal. It may or may not be morally wrong. If by the boss knowing you are potentially protecting vulnerable people for example, I'd say that's ok and justified. However I think you are just seeking revenge. The problem with that is, it can't undo what's already happened and even though your friend may be an amazing guy, he might be a rubbish partner. You can never be sure what happens in someone's personal life. My ex seemed like a great bloke to his friends and family but he used to hit me. To this day nobody knows. I'm not really sure there is anything good to be gained. Maybe just focus your energy on being a good friend.

Very good response, thank you. Food for thought. Sorry about what you went through.
What she did/was involved in caused the death of someone. Her employer knowing wouldn't necessarily save anyone, but I guess I just don't like seeing her keep on getting away with being a rubbish human being- manipulating everyone around her.

janedoedoe

Oh and it's all 100% true and in the public domain- national newspapers infact.
If you googled her maiden name, loads of articles pop up.

elsien

Presumably any police or other action was taken at the time and she should be allowed to move on.
Anything that is just media speculation should be taken with a large pinch of salt. If any of my friends behaved in the way you are suggesting you do,  I would be unfriending them pretty quickly. 

bouicca21

Simple. It's morally horrid.

Marvel1

janedoedoe said:

Years ago she was involved in a big scandal that made it's way into many newspapers.
 I'd love to email her employer anonymously with some of the articles written about her disgusting  behaviour. 

Go for it I say, it's in the media online.

JReacher1

It’s nothing to do with you at all and seems a very unpleasant action to be considering. 

Plus the wife will assume the anonymous email has come from her husband which could make everything kick off and could turn a bad situation into a nasty (potentially violent) situation. 

You’ll get a small bit of satisfaction but you’ll potentially ruin several people’s lives. Not sure it’s really worth it. 

gettingtheresometime

I take the view if you haven't got the courage of your convictions to put your name to the email , you should butt out.