I paid of my boyfriends debt

TripleH

pollypenny said:

Why would anyone lend £1000 , then more to someone they've only known 'almost'  six months?  

Not credible. 

Young love Causing irrational behaviour? It takes time and experience to become a hardened cynic like me. 
Agree with the comment that blokes like this are low lives. Former colleague had similar issues with her daughter (who was in her 30's). Love doesn't always coexist with rational thought.

silverwhistle

The OP doesn't appear to have come back in the face of such unanimity. There's nothing to be embarrassed about though; a lot of the advice has been based on experience!

Mnd

Has he got a rickshaw, cos he's taking you for a ride. Listen to everyone on here and listen to your own thoughts. Good luck

Claddagh_Noir

OP he sounds like my friend's ex.  He just rode on her coat tails and didn't and wouldn't stand on his won two feet.  He was a deadbeat and she is well rid of him, they only lasted 6 months. 

DCFC79

OP is he now working or not ?

So the pay day loans, pc on finance came after he lost his job ?

OP do you want honest advice ?
If you do then maybe you need to rethink where the relationship is going and cut your losses but treat it as a lesson. 

dan958

Needing to borrow money from a parter you have onnly been with for 6 months is a big red flag. The bigger red flag is borrowing money from someone, and then still buying a luxury item on finance. 

You'll most likely never see the money you lent him again.

sweetsand

I stopped reading after the second page.
When he told you re his debts, credit to him but it was a for sure, a very clear message that he leads a dysfunctional life. A life of
want it now and ... tomorrow.
To be blunt, if you stayed with him and are still with him, you have no one else to blame other than yourself.

It is really as simple as that.

x

sweetsand

mobileron said:

Sounds like the guy that ripped off my daughter for £20k,she thought they were going to California on holiday,till he called her from the airport and told her he was going with his wife.
He got 18 months sentence she never got her money back. There were 3 other girls ripped of as well.
Strangely a month earlier i asked her if he was married,she said no way but had never been to his flat.
dump him now there some great guys out there, looking for a kind lady like you.

Sorry about your daughter and the 20k but it is incredible how easily some people fall for peoples lies.

our daughter has a rental property, a retal that we gifted her - x amount of cash in the bank/etc a v nice car -  our daughter does not trust anyone with her money and years ago dropped a BF when he asked her for 2k i think it was then he went down to 1k - she challenged him about his spending and lies about what he had saved up and guess waht she duped the loser via text - he begged her but our daughter is as stuborn as me and never respsonded she just does not trust anyone at all

We have brought up our kids by saying only lend money you can afford to lose and better still don't as its not worth it unless you want to help someone begging to help them but be prepared to lose your money and the friendship.

They, our children like us have never borrowed a penny on anyhting other than properties and that is a fact - why buy something for 10k and repay 15/17k? Even the mortgages they had were cleared A-sap before the nice cars and hols.

ratechaser

silverwhistle said:

The OP doesn't appear to have come back in the face of such unanimity. There's nothing to be embarrassed about though; a lot of the advice has been based on experience!

Well playing devils advocate here, I was a financial disaster area when I met Mrs RC , and she bailed me out more than once. That said, I like to think I never guilt tripped her into anything, and believe me, she is no pushover at all, emotionally or financially. So it's not impossible, but it does require lots of honest and often very direct communication, plus a genuine willingness to change habits.

Whether your BF has that, who knows. Hard for me to judge from over here. But good luck to the OP whatever she decides...

Sea_Shell

Why resurrect a thread from APRIL??