Moved in with boyfriend

Mojisola

AnnabelleLB said:

its a big thing to do for someone.
The thing is, I'm really good with money,

All this debt was accrued by my ex, who took these cards and accounts in my name.
I'm not used to anyone being nice to me.

Which probably makes it even easier for your lovely new partner to help you out - the debt isn't your fault.

Won't it be great to be able to get used to someone being nice to you!

AnnabelleLB

Mojisola said:

AnnabelleLB said:

its a big thing to do for someone.
The thing is, I'm really good with money,

All this debt was accrued by my ex, who took these cards and accounts in my name.
I'm not used to anyone being nice to me.

Which probably makes it even easier for your lovely new partner to help you out - the debt isn't your fault.

Won't it be great to be able to get used to someone being nice to you!

Thank you 
I just don't get why he is being so helpful. Its nice he is!

Mojisola

AnnabelleLB said:

Thank you 
I just don't get why he is being so helpful. Its nice he is!

It can be hard to believe when you've recently had a bad experience but there are more nice people in the world than bad ones. 

AnnabelleLB

Mojisola said:

AnnabelleLB said:

Thank you 
I just don't get why he is being so helpful. Its nice he is!

It can be hard to believe when you've recently had a bad experience but there are more nice people in the world than bad ones. 

 I know, I'm doing him a picnic for when we are on lunch so we can eat it in the garden together and talk.

suki1964

AnnabelleLB said:

Mojisola said:

AnnabelleLB said:

Thank you 
I just don't get why he is being so helpful. Its nice he is!

It can be hard to believe when you've recently had a bad experience but there are more nice people in the world than bad ones. 

 I know, I'm doing him a picnic for when we are on lunch so we can eat it in the garden together and talk.

That sounds lovely and thoughtful

So you have had a few relationships that haven't been good, and I understand how you feel, but don't ever forget that you are worth loving and respect

Fireflyaway

That's a really nice gesture from him and really nice of you that you want to ensure he knows how much you appreciate what he has done. I'd say thanks which I'm sure you have already done and then ensure you keep to the payments. On top of that do what your boyfriend suggested. Treat the two of you to a take away. It's a great time for it! Buy some groceries or petrol or cleaning supplies etc now and again. I'm really pleased you found someone so considerate. 

AnnabelleLB

My Ex has been on the phone to me today, 
He is saying that I owe him money because one bill he put in his name is chasing him for money. he says my "half" is £350. He won't say what the bill is, I've told him to go away.  Was that right? My boyfriend said to have to got a copy of the bill emailed over. I just think he wants money out of me, boyfriend says if its a legitimate bill he would settle it directly.

suki1964 said:

AnnabelleLB said:

Mojisola said:

AnnabelleLB said:

Thank you 
I just don't get why he is being so helpful. Its nice he is!

It can be hard to believe when you've recently had a bad experience but there are more nice people in the world than bad ones. 

 I know, I'm doing him a picnic for when we are on lunch so we can eat it in the garden together and talk.

That sounds lovely and thoughtful

So you have had a few relationships that haven't been good, and I understand how you feel, but don't ever forget that you are worth loving and respect

Its the first place I've stayed in other than with my parents I've felt totally safe and secure. Like its ok to not be my happy cheery self or if I just want to cuddle up and watch tv, nothing more is expected of me. Last night, I fell asleep on the sofa cuddled up with my boyfriend and I've never done that ever.

Fireflyaway said:

That's a really nice gesture from him and really nice of you that you want to ensure he knows how much you appreciate what he has done. I'd say thanks which I'm sure you have already done and then ensure you keep to the payments. On top of that do what your boyfriend suggested. Treat the two of you to a take away. It's a great time for it! Buy some groceries or petrol or cleaning supplies etc now and again. I'm really pleased you found someone so considerate. 

I said I would get us take away tonight, and I want to cook for us Saturday, I try buying petrol but keep finding when my boyfriend has borrowed my car its always full or when I use his its always full. He even fixed a few things on my car when I had to go to work the other day and he washed it for me.
He just said "Busy day at work doing nothing"
It was so sweet of him.

AnnabelleLB

He rang again just having a go at me

*max*

Your ex? Just stop picking up when he calls, or even better - block his number. He's just annoyed he doesn't have a hold on you anymore and he's pitifully trying to get that back. Ignore him. You don't owe him anything, not even talking to him or picking up his calls - nothing. You are your own person. Enjoy your new relationship with your new man who seems absolutely lovely.  

CRANKY40

Block the ex and as for your boyfriend if he sees a future with you then it's in both your interests to get the debt paid off. My husband did the same for me. It meant that further down the line, when we had a baby I could work part time without worrying about paying debts.