I don't know if I'm expecting too much of my boyfriend

pogofish

Gaslighting was my first thought and there isn’t really any way to excuse it or put-up with it. Esp at only six months-in - this could easily get a lot worse over time and as a relationship solidifies.

There is also the possibility that it could be an insecure attempt to control you by damaging your self-esteem/positive outlook on life.

badmemory

Chilled - I don't think so.  Someone who is chilled wouldn't be bothered to criticise your sister.  Would text back "hey well done" to your good feedback.  Not getting back was his way of saying - well I don't think so!  Move on.

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Sounds like the work feedback thing is a jealousy thing. 
He didn't reply, because he hasn't had such positive feedback from work (assuming based on what you said people think of him). So he was just ignoring it, maybe?
I've been in a relationship like this & after a while, I felt so drained it wasn't worth it.
The bit that concerned me the most was the ' He's not the best communicator and when he's upset about something, I generally have to coax it out of him.' 
He's in his mid-thirties, if he can't communicate now he has no intentions of learning. It would drive me insane, I hate it when someone sulks. 
However, I'm definitely one of those people who jumps ship when I don't like things in relationships... so maybe not the best person to listen to!

littlegreenparrot

Please take a moment to think about what you have written, I know it can be hard when you're in the middle of things. 
He can't bring himself to tolerate your sister, but he's nice to the dog. 
He isn't supportive of you, but he buys you things. I know which way round I would prefer things to be. 
I have siblings, I know they can be idiots, but they are my idiots, and DH has to respect that. 
It seems to me that you are looking for justification for something that you know deep down to be true. If you need permission, please take this as being it.  This is clearly not a fit for you, there will be someone else who is and it won't be so hard. 

Ozzuk

Get a handyman and a dogwalker and dump the boyfriend.
Obviously a flippant response, but from what you've written you are quite needy and he isn't that sensitive and neither of you communicate well - really not a good basis for a strong relationship.  If the love and desire to change is there and you are both emotionally mature enough to do what it takes it could work, but the danger is one of both of you would revert to type.  Maybe try counselling, or set some timeframes (in your head) for positive, sustainable change (with action plan) before giving up.

ElephantBoy57

KatrinaWaves said:

He sounds awful, and you are clearly not suited. The stuff in particular about your sister would be an absolute deal breaker for me,

Some of the behaviour reminds me of one of my married friends; he is really judgemental and chauvinistic, does not get on with in-laws. He can come across as very rude, but if you know him well, he can be really helpful and nice.

I wouldn't like to be married to him, but he has five children, so there is a lot of happiness there.

pearl123

He sounds like a narcissist. A severe one. You've only been with him six months. Escape or read up on narcissism then escape! Just go. 

pollypenny

It's clear that th OP and boyfriend have completely different values and are nit suited. However, it's harsh to call him a narcissist because he's not texting. Could he actually be busy?  

Once_a_Lion

An adult using phrases such as  'Jeez.' or 'Eesh.' Must be riveting.

MrAPJI

There are far too many 'negatives'. My advice would be to 'move on' and find someone who is worthy of you.