I'm Adopted

Loanranger21

renegadefm wrote: »

You know its very strange because can accent ie the way we talk be in our blood?

The reason I say that is I grew up in Cornwall with I thought a very strong Cornish accent, but when I have met people all around the country, some say how come I got a Southern Irish accent? I tell them I just dont know.

Can a genetic source affect our accents even if we never visited the country?

No, an accent is learned not inherited.

renegadefm

I cant send anyone for a friend request, I don't have facebook, plus I don't know my birth mothers name. All I know is she called me Paul. But that ended up my middle name.

renegadefm

Loanranger21, so how can you explain, I dont mean you directly, but how can anyone explain numerous times I have been asked what part of Ireland do I come from, even though I have never been there. Even my doctor asked it, and they should know me.

Loanranger21

I can't explain what influences have caused you to speak in the way that you do. But rest assured that accent is not inherited.

Loanranger21

renegadefm wrote: »

I cant send anyone for a friend request, I don't have facebook, plus I don't know my birth mothers name. All I know is she called me Paul. But that ended up my middle name.

Some other poster said their dad had not responded via FB.

LadyDee

My sister-in-law was adopted as a baby. She always knew she was. Her adoptive father did not want her to trace her original family but her adoptive mother said when they were both gone then she should try to find her family. She didn't for years because my brother was worried that things might not work out.

When my brother died she decided it was time to try to find her original family. Sadly, both her birth mum and dad had died, but she now has half-brothers, cousins, aunts and uncles galore! The last couple of years have been wonderful for her and her biggest regret is that she left it so late.

renegadefm

LadyDee, I see what you mean. The only thing in my situation I have never felt ready emotionally or prepared for anything bad, or finding out anything bad until now. Now that I am 50 I feel more mature enough I guess. Maybe deep down I was a bit bitter at being rejected. It even affrcted how I viewed relationships when I was growing up. I felt I never really trusted anyone, probably influenced by the fact I was rejected. Even though I was loved and adored by my adoptive parents.

LadyDee

renegadefm wrote: »

LadyDee, I see what you mean. The only thing in my situation I have never felt ready emotionally or prepared for anything bad, or finding out anything bad until now. Now that I am 50 I feel more mature enough I guess. Maybe deep down I was a bit bitter at being rejected. It even affrcted how I viewed relationships when I was growing up. I felt I never really trusted anyone, probably influenced by the fact I was rejected. Even though I was loved and adored by my adoptive parents.

I haven't read all your posts, but do you know the situation at thee time of your adoption? My sister-in-law was actually more like 70 when she traced all her family, and apparently her birth mum was really young, her parents wanted to bring her up as theirs but she felt they would find it hard to start over with a baby, she was too young to manage, and thought the baby had the best chance in life by being adopted. So it was with the very best of intentions, and she has said that she never felt it was a rejection, more a sacrifice by her mother.

missprice

renegadefm wrote: »

LadyDee, I see what you mean. The only thing in my situation I have never felt ready emotionally or prepared for anything bad, or finding out anything bad until now. Now that I am 50 I feel more mature enough I guess. Maybe deep down I was a bit bitter at being rejected. It even affrcted how I viewed relationships when I was growing up. I felt I never really trusted anyone, probably influenced by the fact I was rejected. Even though I was loved and adored by my adoptive parents.

My sister felt the same.
She was adopted because our mum already had me, was single and unmarried (big no no back then) neither father had stuck around (our mum picked the worst guys to get with) it was easier to have a baby adopted not a one year old, lack of money/no benefits back then, childcare ( I will give our mum her due, she worked always) and probably other reasons that i know nothing about.
My sis was afaik well loved in her adopted family, but she always felt not quite part of the family. She was for a time very bitter that I got to stay and she didnt.

She never got to meet our mum cos she died before I even met my sister. That made her sad, no answers ever. I dont know any either so I couldn't help.