£50,000 in 3 years diary. Can I do it???

doodledo_2

Morning Roxie, have fun in the sales and spending those vouchers.

I say silver dress for tonight

NickiM

Ohh, I like the sound of a purple dress, just to confuse you :P Have a nice time

RoxieW

Hi all

Well yesterday was a disaster and a complete waste of money :mad::mad: Am mad :mad:

Firstly, the sales were absolute rubbish. Next had absolute tat out for the kids clothes. Stuff from about 5 years ago and not very much of even that! Debenhams had nothing either. But - not too bad, at least I didn't spend anything in them. :rolleyes:
Couldn't find a digital photo frame within our budget - pretty much everywhere had sold out. So ended up getting a ex display model from john lewis which was reduced from £200 to £170. I then bartered them down to £159 but had to buy memory card too so its ended up costing us about£90 once split with brother. Far more than we wanted to spend. But I didn't mind, fair enough its for his mums 50th. But then, Dales loaded a few photos - ones he had on his pc at work from the past 6 months but now cant be arsed to do any more. So i'm (real technophobe!!) struggling to try and figure it out because I think its a complete waste to buy a £200 photo frame on only load about 1% of its capacity of photos on there. I know his mum will never load any on so basically what we load on will be what stays on. Its just pure laziness and so i'm trying to do it :mad:
Then, had an absolutely poo night last night. Never going out with D again where alcohol is concerned because he becomes very insenstive and dont care attitude whereas I become more sensitive which doesn't make a great combo! Basically, a friend commented on dales stag do antics which really upset me at the time (I find out from someone else just before the wedding when OH had sworn nothing had gone on) - this was 6 months ago but it still upsets me to this day. Mostly because I feel it broke the trust and he lied to my face repeatedly. However, when I got upset D's response is 'stop being a morbid b*stard' - get over it basically. And when my friend tried to comfort me -'dont pander to her'. Nice. We then got into a big arguement about it where he said he's glad he did it, doesn't regret it etc etc and was basically being a smug bleep. So I told him his attitude really made me want to do something to hurt him, then of course it wouldn't be 'no big deal' etc. Now he's sulking as of course I'm the one who's done something wrong. I ruined the night. Well sorry but I didn't get upset just for the laugh - it genuinely upsets me when i think about it and i couldn't help it. Perhaps a hug and a 'dont get upset babe' would have been nice but instead I got foul language and a 'whatever'.
Times like that I just think, god, do I even know this person??
So at the minute we're both sulking. I dont want to get into a arguement with him because he'll just shout or clam up and go 'whatever' and I can never win. We've been through it all before as well. But now its going to be a rubbish atmosphere for his mums do tomorrow. I know I'll just end up making friends to keep the peace and save having a rubbish next few days. I just cant stand the attitude he gets when he's had a drink.
So anyway, wasted £60 on a meal plus about the same on drinks/taxi/babysitter - what a waste. But surely I should be able to go out with my husband and have a drink. Unfortunately it doesnt seem to be the case, as I said, we tend to go opposite ways with a drink and it always seems to end in a misunderstanding which leads to an arguement. Sad really.

Anyways, rant over. Off to sort out his mums pressie, wrap it, write the card etc while he plays his damn game...:mad:

RoxieW

ps wore the silver dress - wearing ht epurple tomo as its abit more casual. with black tights and gold shoes. still no bloody cake!

RoxieW

god feel poo looking at that sig too. Have totally overspent by waaaaay too much. miserable...

lilmissmup

Oh hun!

My OH is an idiot when we go out together in a group so we don't go out together very often though hes got better over the years.

I hope you have a lovely meal tomorrow! New year soon, feel positive!

NickiM

Just wanted to send you a big *hug*

RoxieW

Hi guys

Yeah, lilmiss, we have said that in the past. Its just abit sad that we cant go out and have a nice time in a group. He was meant to be designated driver which would have been fine - take alcohol out of the equation and he's lovely. But then we got there and our friend offered to take him to collect the car the next day so he could have a beer/s.

Anyways, apologies yesterday. He realises he did wrong and so all is forgiven. Till next time eh!....

Just off for our dinner now. Ended up just getting a ready made cake Its very nice chocolate with a shoe and posh chocs on top, its not personalised but I dont think she'll mind. Didn't manage to sort out the photo frame, our computer software is too old. D keeps nagging for a new one but as I say, 'its not the money saving way!! '. He's promised to do a disc for her with some more photos on so I'll be holding him to it. Got her some flowers from the boys and just off to get her the biggest '50' balloon possible. I just hope she enjoys herself.

Anyways, will update later. Purple dress looks nice, BTW

RoxieW

Happy new year All!!

2008 eh? Brand new year and all that. Wonder what it will bring?

The meal yesterday was very nice. Although dales sister did exactly what I said she would. Sat, ate the meal and then when it came to paying the bill sat silent while dale and his brother came to pay it. And when d asked her to chip in 'I've got no money'. Of course, Dale dad gave her some.Then said to us 'leave her alone' like we'd done something wrong. Compl;etely winds me up. She's 18, she's got a job and her own place and we made it clear to her that the 'kids' would be splitting the bill between them as a b'day treat for mum but yet we're being horrible for daring to ask the princess to chip in. Grrrrrrr.

Anyway, new year new start. Gonna go have a quick look at the SOA to check there's nothing I can improve...

doodledo_2

Morning Roxie good luck for 2008.

Your SIL sounds a nightmare. How rude to sit down at a meal, eat and then annouce at bill time they have no money. What if none of the others had any spare cash :mad: