Midlife Musings and Measurable Goals

doingitanyway

MovingForwards said:

Perhaps you do want a flat, with a private garden or a house. I think the location could be overcome as could making friends; that naturally happens with hobbies and interests.

Definitely build up a repairs pot, regardless of property type.

Were the other viewings a no?

Thanks MF I think I do want a flat. The garden isn't an issue really as loads of natural spaces nearby (partly why I wanted to move to this part of the world) The terrace will do. 

The repairs pot will be built up regardless but I do think you have less control when someone else states what needs doing, when, and who will do it.  That's work-round-able but there is a difference...

The location is stunning. My friend described it as formal and the other area as informal

The other viewings confirmed the flat as the front runner.  They were not offering anywhere near what the flat does in terms of location, space, views, features, room sizes, quality. Everything really. My friend agrees. 

another_casualty said:

It's good to see that your friend joined you DIA . What does she think.?

I didn't address this earlier. My friend loves the flat, but thought if I became unable to deal with stairs it might be an issue later in life. She didn't like the door to the communal area or the door to the terrace. I would have to accept the communal door and might change the patio door. She is super fussy but the doors whilst not in keeping with the period of the house were not the doors to my flat so I can live with that.

MovingForwards

Unfortunately with old properties when things need replacing, they tend to be done with whatever the current style is. One thing to think about is when you get to know your neighbours, they may have the same views of the front door as you do. A whip round could end it seeing it replaced with something more sympathetic to the age, even if it's a reproduction. If you were to buy it of course. 

I've moved in and my enthusiasm has rubbed off on the owner-occupiers as they can see another person also cares. 

Location and layout is everything. If you had a good feel for it, then you're on the right track for ticking boxes.

another_casualty

More positives than minuses it seems . Location sounds just about right . Not too close to the action , and not deadly quiet . As you are not driving anymore , it may be an idea to check bus routes / times etc. Lots to think about .

doingitanyway

Thanks @another_casualty I think there is too much thinking going on on my part so I am having a break. I doubt anything will be missed by having a rest and reviewing in the new year.

Thanks @MovingForwards I so agree with 'location and layout is everything.'

So I woke with a migraine. It wasn't a surprise as I had aborted a migraine when I was away so one was lurking. I cancelled my osteopathy appointment and took the day slowly until midday when I went for a cycle. I've started cycling to places I used to get the train to. Good for me and saves fares so all good. Picked up veggies in L1dl. All Christmas veggies are 15p a bag including 1.5 kilos of mini potatoes!

I'm going to be leaving everything house related until the New Year so I won't be buying the flat after all the angst. I feel too stressed to make decisions and the market is quietening down anyway.

It was good to go at my own pace. It was sunny and dry too

Hope everyone had a good day.

mark55man

good plan - it wasn't "the one"

MovingForwards

You will know when it's 'the one'.

Shopping trip sounds productive, hopefully the air cleared your head a bit.

moneyonmymindsam

Glad all is good in DIA world and I believe that something positive will find its way to you.
Sounds right not to rush and take the pressure off yourself, there will always be homes but only one you. You are your most important asset so as always you are doing the right thing

X

doingitanyway

mark55man said:

good plan - it wasn't "the one"

Thanks. I agree it wasn't the one...MovingForwards said:

You will know when it's 'the one'.

Shopping trip sounds productive, hopefully the air cleared your head a bit.

The cycle definitely cleared my head. It helped that it was a beautiful sunny day.

moneyonmymindsam said:

Glad all is good in DIA world and I believe that something positive will find its way to you.
Sounds right not to rush and take the pressure off yourself, there will always be homes but only one you. You are your most important asset so as always you are doing the right thing

X

Aw thanks Sam. You have such confidence in my abilities. I wish I did too!

doingitanyway

It's raining and dark today so I am staying in today.  I got up later than usual and I am taking it easy. No goals or targets or 'must' do stuff. I will be cleaning and decluttering and organising my home but without urgency. Some ironing maybe... I made a big pot of veggie soup. I am ignoring the embarrassment of cards arriving in the post when I did not send any this year...There was an urge to rush out to buy some cards so I can return the ones sent but I'm not doing it. 

I know I will need to find a home or i will be stuck when my sells, but it does feel nice to forget about it until after Christmas.

I hope you are having a positive, less frenetic day too

another_casualty

Well , you're obviously entitled to unwind and take your foot off of the pedal DIA .
You are handling everything really well , and if there are any other places to look at you may get a call from estate agents and you can deal with it then . Just enjoy doing things at your pace and do things your way . Have a casual browse now and again , but everything can wait . 

Enjoy the weekend 
I'll leave it there 😼💦