Money Moral Dilemma: Should I charge my mum for using my gift card to buy present for my kids?

Zero_Sum

happyinflorida wrote: »

You got a free gift card from work but you decided to claim the full amount from your mum who is buying toys for your kids Christmas presents, geez you are tight fisted as hell

What a rotten son you are

Err the point is, she isnt buying toys for the kids if she clicks the gift card. You are.

Hannimal

Pollycat wrote: »

Sounds like the lyrics to ' No charge'.
Ah bless. :cool:
So should me and my Mum sit and work out how much I owe her for 'what's she's paid enough over the years' versus what I've done for her over later years?
Including sorting her (and Dad's) finances out, helping them to move 3 times, sorting out their benefit, fighting their corner with the local council et al?
:think:

No. If they were a housemate then sure, but family? Nah, don't be petty. It's a FREE gift card.

Pollycat

Hannimal wrote: »

No. If they were a housemate then sure, but family? Nah, don't be petty. It's a FREE gift card.

I'm not being petty.
The OP earned the gift card.
In my work, that meant going over and above my role.
It wasn't just given to me for FREE.

Hannimal

Pollycat wrote: »

I'm not being petty.
The OP earned the gift card.
In my work, that meant going over and above my role.
It wasn't just given to me for FREE.

I guess that changes it. I don't know. I am probably coming from the wrong place to comment as my family dynamic and cultural heritage are quite different for most people here. My mum's pension is far less than my salary so whenever I can, I chip in.

So I think if I gave her a giftcard or money to use it would be up to her what she'd use it for, and I would not ask back. But then she does not have a lot of money and is a carer for my dad, so it's different. It's an alien thought to me that I would ask for her for money, or accept money back from her, so maybe it's a dynamic wealthier families have I can't relate to.

This might also be a cultural thing, I didn't grow up in the UK and I know it is very common here for adult children to get money from their parents. This is not so common where I grew up, having parents covering mortgage down payments or giving money to adult children is unheard of over there, and feels emotively wrong to me, even though it is undoubtedly the right thing for parents to do here if they can afford to.

So hopefully that explains where my comment was coming from. I understand it was misplaced and it sounds like the general consensus is for mum to pay the gift card back.