Money Moral Dilemma: Should I charge my mum for using my gift card to buy present for my kids?

JGB1955

She should, absolutely, refund you the whole cost of the presents. Whether or not they were bought on a gift card is totally irrelevant.

REJP

Am I the only one confused here? First it is OP's mother buying presents for the children, then going on to say she paid on her card? Did mother expect to pay for the presents?
I think I belong to the group which says you don't charge her for the gift card. How many times when you were young did she clean your nappy off you, blow your nose for you, get you food and clothes, worry about you when you were out late at night....I could go on.
Just be thankful she cares enough to buy your children presents and forget the gift card.
As someone else has said, WHAT DILEMMA?

darleydame

I hope my children aren't as mean as you.

heladofresa

A bit confused. Does the OP mean that the gift card value is higher than the amount spent on the presents from Granny and any gift card excess is no longer redeemable? As they state “shall I charge her the full amount including the gift card”
I’m not so up on gift cards, however, I would say only charge your mum for what she actually paid for, if she really wants to pay. My mum really wants to pay for stuff and gets great enjoyment out of planning presents etc but everyone is different!

badmemory

If you are buying presents for someone you pay for them you don't have someone subsidise them. If it was £10 off if you spend £50 for example then that would be a little different. The gift card was yours not hers, you deserve recompense for that.

badders82

Maybe you could ask her to just knock it off the £150,000 bill she spent on you up to the age of 18, which is the national average for raising a child nowadays.

Joelle890

It’s your kids she bought it for so no you don’t charge your own mother. She probably spent enough throughout the years on you and your kids

Hodgie

If you don't charge your Mum she might feel that she hasn't really bought the gifts for her grandchildren. From personal experience my mother would be annoyed if that happened so I would definitely take the money off her.
Yes, I would prefer not to charge her but I wouldn't want to hurt her feelings.
There are many other times during the year when you can treat her.

Nettynoo

MSE_Kelvin wrote: »

This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks...
I would dearly love to have the opportunity to go shopping with my mum but that will never happen again as she recently passed away.
When we used to shop together we would share costs, she would pay for some things and I would pay for other things but we balanced it all out at the end of the day and enjoyed each other's company at the same time.
We were always very generous to each other and that makes me so grateful.

pickledonionspaceraider

I can see both sides

It depends on how much it was, and how much I needed the money. If it wasn't a huge amount and I wasn't skint, I would let it go

But I don't know - you do what you think is right on this one, whomever you are