Money Moral Dilemma: Should I charge my mum for using my gift card to buy present for my kids?

Pollycat

Hannimal wrote: »

Wouldn't dare to make my mum pay - if I pay when we are out, I don't let her pay back. She has paid enough for me over the years

Sounds like the lyrics to ' No charge'.
Ah bless. :cool:
So should me and my Mum sit and work out how much I owe her for 'what's she's paid enough over the years' versus what I've done for her over later years?
Including sorting her (and Dad's) finances out, helping them to move 3 times, sorting out their benefit, fighting their corner with the local council et al?
:think:

pixiebel81

devil_tez wrote: »

If you really feel this is a dilemma then you shouldn't have used the gift card and kept if for yourself. If you weren't likely to use the gift card yourself then you should have let your mother use it and deducted it from what she owed. A gift card that you were given for free is a nice gesture to help out your mother over the Christmas period. I would definitely let my mother use any gift cards I have lying around to help with her Christmas shopping and if you were shopping with her and ensuring she bought things for your kids that they actually wanted then she was helping you to reduce the size of your kids wish lists and any way you can help her out will be helping to ensure your kids get what they want for Christmas.

She wasn't given it for free. She worked for it!

pixiebel81

devil_tez wrote: »

If you really feel this is a dilemma then you shouldn't have used the gift card and kept if for yourself. If you weren't likely to use the gift card yourself then you should have let your mother use it and deducted it from what she owed. A gift card that you were given for free is a nice gesture to help out your mother over the Christmas period. I would definitely let my mother use any gift cards I have lying around to help with her Christmas shopping and if you were shopping with her and ensuring she bought things for your kids that they actually wanted then she was helping you to reduce the size of your kids wish lists and any way you can help her out will be helping to ensure your kids get what they want for Christmas.

She wasn't given it for free. She worked for it!

rorelain

If it was a gift card, and sent to you to use on YourSelf.. then I wouldn't have given it to mum to help pay for the goods anyway.
But I ask this Question...
why didn't she have any money to pay for the gifts in the first place??
Doesn't she have a bank account with a debit card attached to it?
If so, then mum shuld have used that, not used your bank card Or your gift card.... or did you offer to pay it all on yours and ''sort it out later'' as one does, in which case, mum probably expects you to give her the Full amount owed including any gift cards etc, so she can say they were from her and not half paid by you or anyone else.. so yes.. give her the full amount owed.. you mum would probably be upset if you left out the gift card amount, as would I, if it were me. I want gifts from me to be from ME not with the help of my (daughter or son).

JGB1955

Absolutely....

Why shouldn't she pay for a present she has bought?

bertiewhite

Only if it was a Thursday

Zero_Sum

Hannimal wrote: »

Wouldn't dare to make my mum pay - if I pay when we are out, I don't let her pay back. She has paid enough for me over the years

Where do you draw the line?
So do you just buy xmas gifts for yourself on her behalf. Do you buy all of your kids prezzies that are supposed to be from her on her behalf? Cos thats what you're arguing in favour of

badmemory

From what I have seen of normal parent, children & grandchildren the conversation usually goes - I have no idea what to buy a ? year old these days, so spend up to £? and wrap it & let me know what you bought & how much I owe you.


Grandparent doesn't care if the presents are paid for by credit card, cash or gift card. Perhaps if the presents are paid for by credit card the repayment could be delayed for a month until the bill came in! Either way it should be repaid.

happyinflorida

You got a free gift card from work but you decided to claim the full amount from your mum who is buying toys for your kids Christmas presents, geez you are tight fisted as hell

What a rotten son you are

Pollycat

happyinflorida wrote: »

You got a free gift card from work but you decided to claim the full amount from your mum who is buying toys for your kids Christmas presents, geez you are tight fisted as hell

What a rotten son you are

The gift card was earned from work.
The Mother was buying the gifts anyway so why do you think she should benefit from the earned gift card?
If the originator of the dilemma hadn't had the gift card, the Mother would have paid for the gifts in full.
Why do you think the originator of the dilemma should part fund the cost of her children's Christmas presents that are from their grandma?

Where does it say the originator of the dilemma is male?