New neighbours don't get the etiquette

LADYXXMACBETH

warby68 wrote: »

OP, does it obstruct their drive or not?

If it does its difficult as she is in the right.

If its tight but doable, what you need is for her to put up with a bit of inconvenience for the sake of the neighbours. Her initial reaction was negative but perhaps over time when she realises that someone will always use that space and they will be commuting strangers who she can't ask to move for a delivery etc, she might come to realise its better to have the neighbours there who are at least approachable.

You could just try another chat - explain your parking options are really limited. She might not give a stuff but then again might see reason if you start to get along. If the others did the same, it might be persuasive.

However some people are incredibly territorial and will try to maximise their convenience relative to others just because they can.

No the other day there was a 3.5 tonne Luton truck in the driveway as she was moving in if she can't get her civic out then she needs driving lessons. This is why it's never been an issue before, because it's not an issue. There's nothing vaguely obstructive, illegal about the public parking. She's being inconsiderate by putting her car, that fits on her driveway blocking two spaces for others. So to avoid it becoming parking wars how do I help he become a nicer neighbour like everyone else.
Btw I have a housing association house as my son has a disability. I didn't come with a driveway. Yes I know it's strange it's a disability friendly house with no driveway or disabled parking.

VFR

Park in her drive as she cannot use it, when she protests tell her either she uses it or you will.

angela110660

We all have drives in my road - lucky us but very few of the neighbours reverse in and a couple of them prefer to road park rather than drive in as they can't reverse out again easily either! The road parking could be across their own drive but no! They prefer to park in front of their property to preserve their view presumably or close to our drive entrance. As we have 3 cars regularly moving in and out - their parking can sometimes be less than helpful but what do you do ? Just grumble and keep using our driveway at least.

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LADYXXMACBETH wrote: »

I don't mind this. It's not actually bothering me, but I want to resolve it as best I can because it obviously bothers her.
I can't park anywhere else really. No my landlord doesn't want a driveway and I can't afford to move and I wouldn't anyway.

If it’s free, park there and ignore her, hence the ‘zen’.

If it’s not free, park further away and walk. There’s no way that’s the only space within say, a half a mile radius, where your car could go.

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Mr_Singleton wrote: »

If I could buy you a pint I would!!

I’ll set up one of those ‘send me money’ sites and pop you a pm. :cool:

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Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

Why do people buy houses with no off street parking?

Usually because they can’t afford one with a drive.

Lots of the houses in this country were built before cars were a thing, remember!

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LADYXXMACBETH wrote: »

The parking dispute isn't really the problem. I'll park there if I have to but I wanted advice about how to not annoy the neighbour by doing it.
So I will park on the road, it will and apparently does !!!! her off. I don't want to cause parking wars so how do I approach it so she accepts that it's alright and she should learn to drive properly so she can get out of her driveway. What bothers me is annoying the neighbour not having nowhere to park.

You can’t control how she feels about it. Just stay calm and polite and repeat that it’s a public road and you aren’t blocking her drive ( and make sure you never are blocking her drive!)

If you truly genuinely are more bothere about the neighbour than having a spot to park, the answer is easy, stop parking there! I don’t think that’s really the case though.

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Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

Yes so suitable for people who cannot afford cars :-)

Cars are a lot cheaper than houses.

DCFC79

Sea_Shell wrote: »

This ^^^

When it's P'ing down with rain, she'll want the convenience of her own driveway rather than over the road.

Or snow/ice around, she wont want to be walking far in that weather so I bet she will use the drive.

AdrianC

LADYXXMACBETH wrote: »

They have a driveway for 2 cars.

Which they feel they can't use because of people parking opposite the entrance.

Whether that's an actual obstruction or not, we have no idea. A photo would help.

and I certainly don't want to fall out with a neighbour over something so stupid
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I really don't want to fall out with her over this, it's a harmonious road where everyone gets on.

Then nod, smile, and follow her request.

However, if she is going to be a idiot then what can I do. I'm happy to go into parking wars with her if she wants but I'd rather not, as it's a bit petty.

If one person is an idiot, and another copies them, that doesn't make for two sensible grown-ups. It makes for two idiots.

She has just as much right to park on the road there as you do or as I does.