Keeping Going For My Furbabies

StartingAgainAt29

Back at work today Saturday was a NSD, Sunday I went to take my Dad shopping, I spent £7~ on some cat food and a hot chocolate. I'll have to buy some cat treats on the way home today, but other than that shouldn't need to spend.

Wrapped all my presents last night, I hate wrapping so kept putting it off. Had a bottle of bucks fizz in the fridge from last year that we never drank, so I opened it and had a wrapping party by myself :rotfl: Did have to chuck Cat2 out of the room though as he was sliding around on the wrapping paper. Still haven't watched any xmas films, maybe tonight, still not in the festive mood though!

StartingAgainAt29

Morning, I hope everyone had a lovely Christmas! Got some updating to do...
Monday night I got a letter from the management company for the flat to say we have to pay £1700 on 1st Jan. Considering they've done nothing they're meant to (ie fixing vital things), and they gave me/us only 12 days to find that money it's pretty safe to say I'm p'ed off over it. I will be sending them a strongly worded email tomorrow to tell them they're not getting it in a lump sum like they've demanded, we paid our last lot monthly and haven't agreed to do the year upfront. Plus, considering we won't own the flat for the whole of next year I don't know if we'd even get a refund. If anyone has dealt with a management company with a flat they own I'd love to hear from you.

Xmas Eve I had a half day at work, so came home to get some bits done and have a nap. I'd emailed the ex about the letter, and he emailed on xmas eve to reply to that, but also to tell me that he's taking "the furniture" as his parents put some money towards it (in fact they only gave us money to wards the sofa). It's again his attitude of telling me what's happening, rather than having a discussion. I don't know what he means by the furniture, if that's just the sofa or what. So I'm going to have to send HIM a strongly worded email to say that this isn't something he can just decide for himself, as these are items in a communal area purchased with joint money. He's also tried to tell me how to live in the flat, which I'm ignoring. If he wanted control so bad he shouldn't have moved out!

Anyway!
I went out xmas eve and had a really lovely time. Ex didn't turn up which was good (not sure if he got wind that I was going), got a lift there and shared an uber home, I didn't spend much as I didn't drink too much but got some drinks in rounds, so need to return the favour at some point. I still have £35 in my monzo which is more than enough considering I have no plans now until new year's. I had some good chats with people while I was out, especially about how I'm trying to make my mindset so that I have a posititve attitude for next year. There was also a guy in the group who took an extreme liking to me :rotfl:we've only met once before as he's always been quite peripheral in the friendship group, but he was very obviously trying it on with me. It's flattering, but his circumstances are similar to my ex relationship-wise and I'm not trying to get a bf right now!! :rotfl:

Yesterday I went round my mum's and had a lovely day, a big meal which I didn't pay for or cook which is always a bonus Got some lovely gifts, some useful gifts, and just generally been spoilt. The good thing is I should have enough of most skincare, toiletries and makeup to last me for a while. I'm going a replacement-only no buy in 2020, mostly because I don't have the money, but also because I have stuff to use up and I don't want to be carting piles of coloured dust and scented goo when I have to move!

I'm waiting for my dad to come over this morning as he's desperate to see the cats, and then back to my mum's later for more food, and to see my other brother and my nephew. Then back to work tomorrow:( should be quiet so I'm going to use the time to write my angry emails :T

StartingAgainAt29

Yesterday was good, my dad came round with a gift from my nan, and he gave me some money for xmas as he forgot to buy me a gift :rotfl: I dropped him off at the station as the rain was horrible, and then got a lift to my mum's for Boxing Day dinner. She forgot to give me a bolster for yoga which I'm really pleased with, will be good for relaxing routines and I want to get into doing that nightly if I can as my sleep hasn't been great. Was lovely to see my brother and nephew, came home around 8, had a bath then bed!

Went to the docs today for a checkup, he's happy I'm feeling a bit better so I'll keep taking the tablets for now and have a follow up appointment in 4 weeks. I mentioned I feel exhausted, like everything in me is tired, so he's given me a blood test form so I'll try and get that done next week. He thinks it's probably the stress but wants to rule out vitamin deficiencies etc.

After work I'm going to Aldi and maybe do some yoga. I just feel so exhausted I don't feel like doing anything, especially not work which is why I'm skiving on here for a bit! :rotfl: My mum gave me some portions of cottage pie last night so that's 3 dinners sorted.

I'm so glad to have Christmas out the way, I'm wondering if that's why I'm tired because I felt like the build-up just made me feel weird, and then now it's over it's like a release. I wanted to bring in all my lunches from home this month but bought a meal deal today as I just did not fancy a baked potato today. £3 I didn't mean to spend but I'm not going to feel bad!

StartingAgainAt29

Posting while it's all on my mind -

Had a message from my neighbour who spoke to another neighbour (both own like me), they are both withholding money to the management company and telling them they are paying next year as monthly not a lump sum so it can be withheld if necessary, so I don't think I'll need to email them myself. One neighbour is getting his solicitor involved and then letting us all know the plan, which makes me feel better. Still need to email my ex but I feel so tired and out of it I'm going to put it off until I feel clearer headed.

I got £50 from my dad for xmas, and I should be getting a £150 bonus from work. I'm going to split that 3 ways - £50 to spend, £50 to saving, and £50 off my CC. I'm going to use the £100 to replace my running shoes, and any left over I'll put into my January general spending account.

astrocytic_kitten

I’m glad you’re not on your own in dealing with the management company, and that you got spoiled over Christmas - you definitely deserve it with everything you’re dealing with.

StartingAgainAt29

Thanks astrocytic kitten, I hope you've been well, I've been thinking of you!

I spent £22 in Aldi last night, which is the last of this month's food budget but it should easily take me through to January. I felt so exhausted I got into bed at 9, and decided to try my weighted blanket as waking up in the night is what's contributing to feeling so tired. I think it helped as I've woken up feeling a bit better, although not refreshed as I'd hoped. I've written the email to my ex, will ponder it for a few hours and then send. Basically shut the convo down about furniture as it should be a joint decision done when we're sitting down together, and doesn't have to be done for a long while.

Plan today is hospital for my regular app, then into town to take my library books back (never actually read them lol), and put the money my dad gave me into the bank. I need to clean the flat and do the boys' litter tray, hopefully do some yoga, and then see Jumanji later with my mum and brother. I want to fit a nap in there somewhere too

Happy Caturday!

StartingAgainAt29

Happy NYE!

Not much to report spending wise as I've been pretty good. Ended the month with £20, I don't think I've ever done that before! I spent £3.99 in B&M yesterday for some coffee for work and sweets (opps ). Got paid today, moved my money around and adjusted the savings pot in my sig. Haven't received the bonus so don't know if that's going in later today. Hopefully it will!

I'm out tonight at a house party, I'm 99% sure I'm going to drive to avoid a hefty uber spend. It's not easy for me to get home from and no one else will be going my way to share. Ex might be there but if he is I'll just avoid him! So if I do drive that's a NSD today.

My mum brought some food round for me last night, just a couple of bits from Aldi but it will tide me over a bit for evening meals. Think her and my youngest brother will come over tomorrow for a takeaway.

Was like WW3 in my neighbour's flat last night - never usually hear a peep from him but it turned violent between him and his adult daughter, row lasted over 3 hours. Felt too scared to go out there myself, luckily another neighbour stepped in.

I'm going to write another post late with goals for 2020, financial and otherwise. It will be so good to bring in a new month, a new year, a new decade!!

StartingAgainAt29

Happy New Year everyone.

Went to the house party last night, drove so didn't spend, ex wasn't there so was alright. I felt a bit sad getting closer to midnight, and then after midnight felt really flat, so left at 12:30 and came home. I did have a good time but I think everything that's happened lately just came to the forefront of my mind and got a bit much.

Looks like the bonus isn't forthcoming, which is a real downer - I had proper plans for the money, and it makes me feel even more unappreciated and unmotivated to work there. Another reason to get my CV sorted and start applying.

Plan for today is:

• Run
• Do boys' litter tray
• Hoover and mop
• Take down all decorations
• Get mum's help putting it all away into the bed

My mum and brother should be coming round later for a takeaway, which will be my first proper one in ages.

I had some interest in my savings account so I've updated my sig.

lindens

Happy New Year

StartingAgainAt29

Thanks lindens, Happy New Year to you!

I actually did everything on my list yesterday, felt very accomplished Smashed my run which made me feel a lot better as my training had not been going too well, so to do a good one on the 1st Jan made me feel good. Mum and brother came round in the evening, had to collect the pizza as it was so busy they weren't delivering, but had some prosecco and pizza and watched the overly dramatic EastEnders episode (I don't watch it any more and was reminded why!) Oh and my mum paid All the xmas decs are down and away, half sad and half relieved that the "festive season" is over. Now bombarded with Valentine's Gifts in all the shops! I've decided I'm not even going to consider trying to date for at least 6 months, I have so much going on in my life atm and I read about the concept of "dating yourself", which I think sounds weird but I like the sentiment. I basically just want to be selfish for as long as I can as I spent most of my time with my ex pandering to his needs.

I'll be doing the food shopping in Aldi later today so decided to get some bits on my lunch - £4 on a concealer (from toiletry/makeup fund) because my current one ran out; £7.50 on a diary for work and £5 on some lentils and a completely indulgent and unnecessary work snack. I'm hoping in Aldi I'll spend around £15 as I don't need too much mainly some fresh produce. Will try and resist the wine but will see how I feel later