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Deeply troubled (╯-╰)

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  • zehua
    zehua Posts: 38 Forumite
    DCFC79 wrote: »
    Give her a break.

    Not sure where your from but chasing a girl is frowned upon in my book.
    Okay,thanks
    You can tell a lot about somebody,looking him in the eyes.
  • zehua
    zehua Posts: 38 Forumite
    MovingForwards wrote: »
    She isn't interested, stop messaging her.

    If you work with her, it's in your best interests not to contact her outside of work.

    Two or three messages each time, every day, is too much!
    Okay thanks
    You can tell a lot about somebody,looking him in the eyes.
  • Barny1979
    Barny1979 Posts: 7,921 Forumite
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    zehua wrote: »
    Every time I send two or three messages, if she does not reply. I will not send it anymore. Until the next day

    Have you met her in real life? Either way, I would take a step back now and wait to see if she replies or ghosts you.
  • Robisere
    Robisere Posts: 3,237 Forumite
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    Imagine that girl posting a message here about some guy harassing and stalking her. That guy is you and she would get advice here to go to the police about you, because it is a criminal offence. You would get a visit from the police and at least an official warning. Is that the result you want? No?

    Good, then leave her alone.
    I think this job really needs
    a much bigger hammer.
  • zehua
    zehua Posts: 38 Forumite
    Robisere wrote: »
    Imagine that girl posting a message here about some guy harassing and stalking her. That guy is you and she would get advice here to go to the police about you, because it is a criminal offence. You would get a visit from the police and at least an official warning. Is that the result you want? No?

    Good, then leave her alone.
    Thanks for reminding.
    Only occasionally send 2-3 messages to her.Did not harass her.
    You can tell a lot about somebody,looking him in the eyes.
  • zehua
    zehua Posts: 38 Forumite
    Barny1979 wrote: »
    Have you met her in real life? Either way, I would take a step back now and wait to see if she replies or ghosts you.
    She is my colleague.
    You can tell a lot about somebody,looking him in the eyes.
  • badmemory
    badmemory Posts: 10,064 Forumite
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    She is a work friend nothing more at present. If you want to stay a work friend then be careful. She needs boundaries, if you are aware you MAY strike lucky eventually.
  • Pollycat
    Pollycat Posts: 35,946 Forumite
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    zehua wrote: »
    She is my colleague.
    If you persist with these messages, you may have more to worry about than her not replying to you.

    Reference to 'chasing' and 'pursuing' her are very wrong.
  • Sea_Shell
    Sea_Shell Posts: 10,089 Forumite
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    zehua wrote: »
    Thanks for reminding.
    Only occasionally send 2-3 messages to her.Did not harass her.

    Out of interest, HOW are you messaging her?

    Is it via Facebook etc, or via text to her mobile.
    Are you "friends" on FB, and if text, how did you get her number?
    How's it going, AKA, Nutwatch? - 12 month spends to date = 2.60% of current retirement "pot" (as at end May 2025)
  • General_Grant
    General_Grant Posts: 5,343 Forumite
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    zehua wrote: »
    Telling you something, recently met a girl. I think she is very good and would like to chase her. But after a period of contact, I found that she didn't seem to be willing to reply to my message at night. I don't know if I should pursue her. Because I don't know what she meant...


    Sounds as though she meant to be friendly in a work colleague kind of way.

    Not responding at "night" suggests to me that she has a life away from work which includes other people (possibly a boyfriend) which she doesn't want to share with you.

    There will be other good people for you to meet.
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