i need a secret santa idea for a young, misguided person

jackieb

I think that's a bit horrible. Maybe she senses nobody likes her. I'm not sure humiliating her will make her behaviour improve. I'm not excusing her - she may well be rude. Maybe she has no manners because she's never been taught any. I just don't think it's in the spirit of Christmas.

3plus1

To be honest, if she really is horrible, I think you'd be better off getting her something nice, to guilt her into behaving better around you all. If she gets a nice secret santa present, she won't know which one of her colleagues bothered to pick it out, but that at least one of them put some thought into making her happy, and it might improve her attitude? She might just be being rude and cheeky because she genuinely thinks you all hate her already, and there's nothing she can do to change that. A nice gesture might be all it takes to turn things around?

Of course, could be completely wrong, and she could just be a downright nasty person!!

jackieb

^^^ You said what I wanted to say.

PasturesNew

Funniest secret santa I ever saw was a girl at work who was throwing herself at the office stud. The plan was to all go out down town one night, then the next day we'd have the big Xmas Carvery Lunch all in one room. And we'd all open our secret santas. Now, the office stud had pulled her name out of the hat - and gone off to get her present.

During the night out she'd thrown herself at this chap; actually she'd left him in the club, got a cab to his and waited for him at his front door, having found out his address from his lodger. So, inevitable happened there.

Next day, everybody sat round lunch (30 of us?). Opening secret santas ... she knew he'd picked hers .... made a big scene out of what he'd bought her... feeling all smug at having pulled the office lothario/cutie (aka male tart)

Pair of MASSIVE old lady pants and a pack of M&S Percy Pig foam sweets.

If looks could kill!

LouBlue

Cliff Richard's new Love Album.

That'll teach her.

foxxymynx

i'd get her something nice and rise above it all, she may be being like that for a million reasons, but if you're nice to her, maybe she'll be nice back....

chocolates or smellies or whatever she's into

MrsTinks

As someone who once got a less than nice secret santa (guess as the boss I should have known better than to take part in a secret santa where my staff took part... especially when 2 of them were on written warnings...) then it's so horrible and soul destroying to get a nasty present in front of everyone else. Mine was a horrid purple floating hippo bath plug thing from the £-shop (great when the limit is £5... and I know they spent less than £1) - not very nice when everyone knows I'm not confident about my weight (well I wasn't at the time) and I opened it in front of the whole office. Took some effort to look unphased and make a comment to make everyone laugh. Put me off joining the secret santa's for life... Especially because I made huge efforts to find a present that the recipients would appreciate.

So even if she is nasty then I wouldn't recommend giving her anything nasty. If she's that horrid then try to find something that might lead by example?

culpepper

She's only 16.
What might seem rude to us oldies is often just awkwardness and lack of confidence.
Added to 11 years of being in school where you are sometimes treated abysmally by adults (and kids) for no apparent reason,it can take a while to get your real self back.
Getting something mean would only prove to her that everyone really is as she sees them.
Everyone deserves a happy christmas.

Doozergirl

At 16 she is still a child What you are suggesting is spiteful.

If she's really that horrible, then why lower yourself to her level? I'm sorry OP, you might be lovely, but your post isn't exactly giving me that impression.

mirandamayhem

tine wrote: »

As someone who once got a less than nice secret santa (guess as the boss I should have known better than to take part in a secret santa where my staff took part... especially when 2 of them were on written warnings...) then it's so horrible and soul destroying to get a nasty present in front of everyone else. Mine was a horrid purple floating hippo bath plug thing from the £-shop (great when the limit is £5... and I know they spent less than £1) - not very nice when everyone knows I'm not confident about my weight (well I wasn't at the time) and I opened it in front of the whole office. Took some effort to look unphased and make a comment to make everyone laugh. Put me off joining the secret santa's for life... Especially because I made huge efforts to find a present that the recipients would appreciate.

So even if she is nasty then I wouldn't recommend giving her anything nasty. If she's that horrid then try to find something that might lead by example?

That is horrid, poor you.
I did a secret santa with people on a message board once, and got something lovely, and the person i gave to loved theirs too. I think if you're going to give something spiteful you're kind of missing the whole point of Christmas. There are funny presents and then there are nasty presents