Money Moral Dilemma: Should my ex-girlfriend come on the holiday we planned together?

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I paid for a Disney holiday for me, my kids, my girlfriend and her kids - we booked back in January and planned to go away just before Christmas. Now she's split up with me - do I have to let her come on the holiday or should she pay me back? We were together (happily) over two years, and were all looking forward to it.

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bertiewhite

Yes she should go. The holiday booking act 1983 specifically says under para 15.1.3.2.5(b) that "once booked, the named people are mandated to go on the holiday, whether the individuals are in a relationship or not". The only exception I can think of is if you booked it on a Thursday where para 15.1.3.2.5(r) may be applicable.

Pollycat

bertiewhite wrote: »

Yes she should go. The holiday booking act 1983 specifically says under para 15.1.3.2.5(b) that "once booked, the named people are mandated to go on the holiday, whether the individuals are in a relationship or not". The only exception I can think of is if you booked it on a Thursday where para 15.1.3.2.5(r) may be applicable.

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Kim_kim

If you paid for her and her kids tickets then your call.

If she paid refund her or allow her to go.

Marvel1

If you paid, then she needs to pay you first her herself if she wants to go, otherwise I would be selling her half.

MovingForwards

And to add to the above:

Depends if it's a villa or a couple of hotel rooms.

Do you really want to spend time with someone you have feelings for but can't have now or will you be trying to get her back? (Villa situation)

Or can you and your kids go off and do your own thing and she does likewise, only dealing with eachother at airport, flying out / in, checking in / out and have two rooms so can split it to one each (hotel).

Also, are the kids even aware the holiday is booked or the destination?

Ah, the joys of these anonymous queries.....

onwards&upwards

Bit harsh to take a Disney holiday away from kids who are looking forward to it.

Be grown ups for them I say, try to find a way to make it work, you don’t actually have to spend time together, maybe she can pay a bit extra to change hotel rooms if needed?

consumers_revenge

this all sounds a bit mickey mouse to me...

herringgull

Yes, not for you or her but for the kids who will be looking forward to it. Step back emotionally and be civillized with her and give her kids a good time, they will be really looking forward to it.

Socajam

onwards&upwards wrote: »

Bit harsh to take a Disney holiday away from kids who are looking forward to it.

Be grown ups for them I say, try to find a way to make it work, you don’t actually have to spend time together, maybe she can pay a bit extra to change hotel rooms if needed?

When did someone else's children have rights to the OP's money.
If the girlfriend is prepared to reimburse you, then yes, give her the tickets, otherwise she can buzz off.

alistair64

It should all be very simple, disregarding all the legal stuff but concentrating on two human beings respecting one another.
If you would like her to go and she wants to, then fair enough - do it for the children's sake.
However, if she doesn't want to and nor do you, assuming she has any sort of a conscience (unlikely in today's society), then she should refund you her share (again, assuming you paid).