Partner went to new house without me

PasturesNew

Marky4040 wrote: »

Am I being silly?

Absolutely.
Yes.
100%.
Completely.



Well, you did ask.

lookstraightahead

I would love this to be a problem in my life. Unfortunately, like most people, my partner and I have bigger, more worrying problems.

Lucky you for having the luxury to think this way.

ethank

Owning a home brings many pressures, don't add more by getting upset over something that really does not matter.

AnotherJoe

I give this relationship until Oct 12th when OP comes home, finds partner bought a kitchen spatula thats the wrong colour and goes back home to mum

Wanderingpomm

You clearly didn’t tell him how important this was to you. And yes you are being silly

GaleSF63

PasturesNew wrote: »

Absolutely.
Yes.
100%.
Completely.



Well, you did ask.

99.99%.

I think it does warrant an indignant "You could have waited!".

Davesnave

GaleSF63 wrote: »

I think it does warrant an indignant "You could have waited!".

So do I, unless there was a practical reason for not waiting.

There used to be this tradition of carrying one's beloved over the threshold etc, but all that romantic stuff's vanished now.

Anyway, he/she/they would probably slap your face if you tried that sort of nonsense nowadays. It would be violating his/her/their rights to independent movement....though come to think of it, slapping would be abuse, so if you were really unlucky you could both end up on a charge..


Ridiculous? Read this:

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-oxfordshire-47686844
:rotfl:

[Deleted User]

In an ideal world, yes you would have both picked up the keys and walked into the house at the same time basking in the moment of buying your first home together, not before posing for a photo in front of the house for your latest instagram post.

I would have loved for my other half to have been there when we got the keys to our house but he had to work. Thats life.

dan958

rajeshk4u wrote: »

To me it sounds like there is only one person in this relationship. Where is the 'togetherness'?..

Seriously? You can judge the entire relationship over something as trivial as this?

'Walking into a place together' isn't something that everyone cares about, or even thinks about. If OP wanted it to be a special occasion that they do together, then OP should have had this conversation with their partner first.

Gareth1980s

I don't need to even ask my partner to know she would be upset with me in these circumstances, and I would probably be a bit miffed if the shoe was on the other foot too, so I can see why this has got under your skin. However as others have said, you have to let it drop. You say it's been bugging you for days, but have you actually discussed it? If you can't let it go on your own (which after 4 days I'm guessing you can't), have a brief "I'm a bit miffed" convo and then put it behind you - it's not good to let things fester.


Don't forget, it was only a house when he went with out you - you'll be making it a home together and that's what really matters.