Partner went to new house without me

rajeshk4u

To me it sounds like there is only one person in this relationship. Where is the 'togetherness'?. Saying that, he may have got over excited about keys to a new home, he may have overcome,but he should have called you at work, to tell you he want going into your new home or put you on video call, so you can share the moment. Or even persuaded you to get the boss to let you go a couple of hours early.

It all depends on what he was thinking at the time, was he thinking about practical things like measuring the curtains and organising the moving van....

EmKnox

I don't think there's anything at all wrong with wanting to go to your new house for the first time together, my partner and I also wanted to do this, so we pre-arranged it with work so it was possible... If it's something you felt so strongly about you should have discussed and organised it before hand.


Too late to get mad about it now if your partner was clueless to how you felt about it.

phill99

I'm no convinced relationships or home ownership are for you.

rajeshk4u

phill99 wrote: »

I'm no convinced relationships or home ownership are for you.

That is a harsh judgement.

seebeeess

Oh god this isn't Mumsnet. Why are you putting your relationship squabbles on here?

Socajam

rajeshk4u wrote: »

To me it sounds like there is only one person in this relationship. Where is the 'togetherness'?. Saying that, he may have got over excited about keys to a new home, he may have overcome,but he should have called you at work, to tell you he want going into your new home or put you on video call, so you can share the moment. Or even persuaded you to get the boss to let you go a couple of hours early.

It all depends on what he was thinking at the time, was he thinking about practical things like measuring the curtains and organising the moving van....

Are you for real. Me think not.
The OP need to grow the hell up and start living in the real world.

shortcrust

rajeshk4u wrote: »

To me it sounds like there is only one person in this relationship. Where is the 'togetherness'?. Saying that, he may have got over excited about keys to a new home, he may have overcome,but he should have called you at work, to tell you he want going into your new home or put you on video call, so you can share the moment. Or even persuaded you to get the boss to let you go a couple of hours early.

It all depends on what he was thinking at the time, was he thinking about practical things like measuring the curtains and organising the moving van....

I hope you know you need an oversized glass of chardonnay in your hand for that kind of stirring.

Hectors_House

I found our house when I spotted the For Sale sign from the taxi taking me to work one weekend.

I didn’t even get to go in there with the EA cus I was at work again.

First time I stepped foot in the place was on the third viewing.

I wasn’t there the day we got the keys either.

Or on most the days work was being done to get it habitable.

It’s just one of those things. I certainly don’t resent my sister for doing all those things without me. besides, she older then me and bigger than me so best not to start a fight.

OP. Let it go. Don’t let tiny crap like that eat at you.

Slithery

This thread belongs on mumsnet...
https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable

G_M

You need to brush up your communication skills if you want the relationship to last.


If this was so important to you, why did you not discuss it with your partner and agree when you would both get the keys?


It's also worrying that you seem to be putting this failure to have done-it-together ahead of the serious business of taking ownership of a multi-hundred-thousand property - your partner did the right thing to check the property asap after Completion.


Now- have you changed the locks yet?