Man trouble advice please :(

Stephb1986_2

I dont care how much money he's got ive just got paid out a hell of alot of money from a car crash i had 2 years ago. Im just gonna have to put up with it, it was just that working on saturday was just the cherry on the cake that set me off its like he's taking the mick.

I love spending time with him and now its like 2 days is all i get to spend with him

Stephb xx

hobo28

Stephb1986 wrote: »

He's the one that agreed to doing nights when he knows i dont like him doing them i'll reschedule it if he talks to me again

Stephb xx

So he's doing something you don't like. So what? Does he have to do everything you want? This is his job.

Personally I think he's made a lucky escape.

Stephb1986 wrote: »

Im just gonna have to put up with it, it was just that working on saturday was just the cherry on the cake that set me off its like he's taking the mick.

People generally do things for a reason. Why would he want to take the mick out of you by working???

lulu650

What's this got to do with moneysaving??

No offence to Stephb but I've forgotten how insular and selfish I was at 21.
Happy Days!

southernscouser

lynzpower wrote: »

Jeez. hes only working its not like hes hanging out at strip clubs or the like.

He could be a doorman at Stringfellows.


Steph if you want to push him away carry on as you are. No sane person will take earache off someone for having to work! :rolleyes:

Running_Horse

miserly_mum wrote: »

My suggestion is ..............GROVEL

I disagree. Hold your nerve and let him make the first move. I'm working 12 hour nights and sleeping all day, but still make time for the wife and baby. If he doesn't text, he is playing the same mind games as you, and you both need to meet halfway, or accept this relationship is not for you.

Dan2007

mind games! Its his job, give him a break. I know most on these posts love to give men a hard time but this goes too far. If you was my girlfriend I'd be looking for a weekend job ASAP.
Sound unsympathetic but it sounds like you're stamping your feet and he isnt listening.

Rupa

Ah bless! Perhaps it wouldn't seem so bad if he had got you four or five goldfish? Two is a bit miserly in my opinion.











Lightbulb moment.......perhaps that is why he's doing nights - to get you some more goldfish?

Avoriaz

Stephb1986 wrote: »

…what should i do….

You could start by growing up a bit and stop acting like a 14 year old schoolgirl.

You did ask.

reehsetin

Stephb1986 wrote: »

I dont care how much money he's got ive just got paid out a hell of alot of money from a car crash i had 2 years ago. Im just gonna have to put up with it, it was just that working on saturday was just the cherry on the cake that set me off its like he's taking the mick.

I love spending time with him and now its like 2 days is all i get to spend with him

Stephb xx

for years i only saw my boyfriend for 1 day a month...if i was lucky - if you love each other you just get on with it, even now once a week for lunch at least and im happy helps i have lots of free minutes

3plus1

To be honest, if you really loved each other, I don't think you'd be playing these games with text... Who should text first, how long you should wait to reply, etc, etc.

But that's besides the point.

You're within your rights to feel disappointed that you won't get to spend as much time with your boyfriend as you would like, but if you throw a tantrum like this, he's not going to want to spend the little free time that he does have, with you.

Do you think he enjoys working nights? I don't think anyone honestly does - it's the sort of thing that people do for the money, rather than for the love. Sounds to me as if he either has a few money woes, or he's saving up to buy something special.

Forget the games - call him. Not right now, obviously, it's late, but call him tomorrow and say you're sorry. If you text him, you'll both fall back into the game playing, so just call - it's more direct. You're in the wrong, so recognise that, apologise and if he loves you, he'll forgive you. And you can both figure out when's best to see each other now that his working pattern has changed.