Man trouble advice please :(

Stephb1986_2

Hi all i really need to get this one out as its really doing my head in.

Ive been with my boyfriend 7 months i love him to bits but last week he told me that this monday coming up he's working nights for a month so i would only see him on the weekends i wasnt chuffed about it but managed to get over it after i got 2 gold fish. Then yesterday he told me that he's working this saturday which has really really annoyed me as i was planning something special for the two of us im so gutted. I went off on one and said he didnt love me, and didnt txt him when i got home from his so he txt me at 11ish and i didnt reply till midnight. Now he's not txt me all day i really dont know what to do im so upset i do really love him. what should i do

Stephb xx

miserly_mum

My suggestion is ..............GROVEL

SmileyHappyBeing

Well, glad the goldfish helped you

Sorry but i think your being a bit selfish, hes not purposly going to work to do your head in, I know its hard when you love someone, but it is just for a month, and cant you reschedule the saturday night thing?

Nessa

Surely its better to see him sometimes, even if its only weekends than not at all.

After all, a month isnt that long. It'll fly by once you find yourself other things to do with your time and you'll appreciate each other that much more when you having your evenings together again.

Its not easy getting out of things as far as work in concerned. My boyfriend often has to work late, from home or on the weekend. I just use the time to do other things that need doing that I've been avoiding. It keeps me busy and feel better knowing I've used the time productively!

Hope you manage to work things out.

Horace

It's not his fault that he is having to work nights and working a Saturday might not be convenient for you but he will get paid extra for working on that day. Not wanting to be rude but it sounds to me as though you want to watch him or have him near you 24/7 and both you and he need space to do your own thing.

As you were the one that went off on one then you should apologise to him - not by text either but by actually speaking to him face to face. You also need to grow up a bit too - have you considered that he might be working the Saturday to earn extra money to buy you a sooper dooper Christmas present?

Stop being selfish, grow up and apologise. Sorry if this sounds harsh but you need to get over yourself!

Stephb1986_2

SmileyHappyBeing wrote: »

Well, glad the goldfish helped you

Sorry but i think your being a bit selfish, hes not purposly going to work to do your head in, I know its hard when you love someone, but it is just for a month, and cant you reschedule the saturday night thing?

He's the one that agreed to doing nights when he knows i dont like him doing them i'll reschedule it if he talks to me again

Stephb xx

SmileyHappyBeing

I know its hard but if you come across as to needy it might just do his head in and cause all sorts of problems.. Men like a woman who can look after themselves a bit and not be too clingy. Trust me ive been there and regretted moaning about things after being dumped! Then you put things into perspective and end up thinking maybe the relationship wasnt so bad after looking back and realise that you have over reacted and maybe shouldve of kept your mouth shut.

Reschedule the sat nite thing, and plan something for each weekend with your mates so your not sat in and it'll fly by.. Imagine if your together for the next 10 years, whats 30 days out off that.. Good luck, let us know how you get on..

Oh and when you speak to him, apologise and just say you were upset but you realise hes got to do it.. Im sure he'll be fine x

Stephb1986_2

you've got me wrong he's working monday to friday on nights not the weekends so im seeing im like 12 times out of the whole month so im not really being selfish it just really guts me

im not that needy we see eachother 2-3 times during the week and then i stay his all weekend

Stephb xx

SmileyHappyBeing

Sorry you've just lost my sympathy again :rolleyes:

So you'll still be seeing him on the weekends, I really dont see what the fuss is, and yeah im sorry, but i do think you are being selfish, dont mean to sound nasty but get a grip.. ahh well, i dont know .... I know it guts you, but c'mon x

lynzpower

Have to agree with the others here!

Jeez. hes only working its not like hes hanging out at strip clubs or the like.

Be grateful for the time you DO have together and quit moaning about what you havent got!!

snipzychick

It sounds to me like he's just working these extra hours over the xmas period.

I would just grin and bear it if i were you, and just think of all those lovely christmas pressies he'll be able to afford for you with all his extra money :T