Girl friend seperating & wants half my money

System

You're not married so she's not entitled to anything. Get on the child support calculator and give her the absolute bare minimum based on your wages. Tell her you'll give her a little more than statuory if she sees sense and doesn't involve a costly solicitor. Tell her you'll go full custody as well if she starts to get silly. Any assets between yourselves?

MEM62

Keep_pedalling wrote: »

you are going to need a formal one through the courts.

I doubt it. The only financial consideration will for provision for the child and there a precedents set for that. Nothing else to discuss / resolve.

Mojisola

LeviX133 wrote: »

On around January of 2016 i met my current girl friend who i have since had 1 kid with . We are not married but we have lived together.

Any suggestions ? like i want to do right things but if i cant get access to my son then i have simply nothing to lose.

MEM62 wrote: »

The only financial consideration will for provision for the child and there a precedents set for that. Nothing else to discuss / resolve.

The financial side is straightforward but Levi might end up in court if his ex causes problems over access/shared care of their child.

Keep_pedalling

MEM62 wrote: »

I doubt it. The only financial consideration will for provision for the child and there a precedents set for that. Nothing else to discuss / resolve.

I was thinking more on the child custardy / access front. If she refuses access then the OP is going to have to pursue it.

Mojisola

LeviX133 wrote: »

She has refused that offer and his demanding half of my £227k cash and also a monthly payment of around 2k.

I would keep any records you have of these demands - emails, texts, etc.

Children aren't 'pay-for-view' and it will go against her in court if there is evidence that she is withholding contact in order to get more money out of you.

username12345678

Christ you've had a lucky break.

Imagine if you'd married it.

MEM62

Keep_pedalling wrote: »

I was thinking more on the child custardy / access front. If she refuses access then the OP is going to have to pursue it.

Fair point.

gizmo111

I would apply for a Child Arrangements order so it is clearly set out when you will spend time with your child.
the finance has been addressed above.

onwards&upwards

LeviX133 wrote: »

Hi

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Also my savings she has contributed literally 0 too . Neither has she even paid rent or any of the utility bills in fact anything of monetary value.

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Utter tripe.

How much of a hit would your finances have taken if you’d had to raise your child without her?

LeviX133

Utter tripe ? Think what you want onward&upwards. Just because she is mother of my child does not mean she is entitled to a golden ticket for the rest of her life.

Firstly what right does she have more than me to have access to our son ? Aside of what the court can think I can %100 provide him a better and more stable life. What happens when she gets bored with her next partner and then decides to leave him for someone else ? Constant chopping and changing which is not a good environment for anyone and secondly i doubt she would be leaving unless there was someone equally able to bank roll her expenses. So not only would she have my money she would have his money as well. I am not a chump and will avoid this situation with full contempt

Also, I have never once demanded her to do strenuous house work or chores that she didn't want to do. Anything she has done has certainly not contributed to my cash money / savings. If hadn't met her I would be exactly where I would be right now just without my son i would still have exact same amount of money.

My hard work what she has benefitted from .