Girl friend seperating & wants half my money

LeviX133

Hi

I am a successful salesman and have accumulated wealth of around £227k cash in the bank this has been generated from my own business activities over the last 5 years no inheritance or handouts i have worked really hard to get to where i am today . On around January of 2016 i met my current girl friend who i have since had 1 kid with . We are not married but we have lived together and generally things were really good between us as a family.

Since about 2 months ago she has been acting really out of character and secretive and after further probing the situation i have found out she talking with another guy and wants to leave me and start a life with him instead. I agreed if she wanted to go separate way then i would have no issue for that as long stay looking after my son as i could easily provide for him and she does not have any income .

She has refused that offer and his demanding half of my £227k cash and also a monthly payment of around 2k.

This makes me very angry she is expecting to deny me access of my son . Also my savings she has contributed literally 0 too . Neither has she even paid rent or any of the utility bills in fact anything of monetary value.

She said she will be putting it with a solicitor and law court to get what she is entitled too .

After some careful consideration I have decided that if she puts it with a solicitor i will be emptying my bank account either into an offshore or crypto currency and possibly move abroad.

I absolutely refuse to have my son taken from me and get my financial resources taken from me in the process . I would sooner bankrupt myself then bank roll her to be with another guy on my dime.

Any suggestions ? like i want to do right things but if i cant get access to my son then i have simply nothing to lose.

surveyqueenuk

Don't panic - the solicitor will tell her that she CANNOT prevent access. She will also be advised that you can go to the CMS and they will calculate the correct amount of maintenance, based on your earnings. NOT your savings.

So call her bluff and tell her you'll be happy to go to court.

[Deleted User]

Hi,


the above sounds good advice.


Here's a wee calculator might give you an idea what you will have to pay.

unholyangel

She has no claim to the money in your bank account. She'll be entitled to maintenance for your child if she's going to be the primary carer. She could potentially have a claim of equity in the house if shes been contributing to the mortgage or home improvements/maintenance.

But the only person who you have a ongoing financial commitment to is your child in the way of child maintenance.

MEM62

LeviX133 wrote: »

She said she will be putting it with a solicitor and law court to get what she is entitled too .

This will work in your favour as a solicitor will shatter her illusion within the first five minutes of any conversation.

Keep_pedalling

Hopefully you have been reassured by the replies you have received so for, so rather than due anything silly like shift your money offshore you need to spend a little of it on a solicitor as it sounds highly unlikely that you are going to come to any sort of mutual arrangement, so you are going to need a formal one through the courts.

DigForVictory

I give it minutes before she realises she’s made a huge mistake.

Require contact & smile - you never married her & many of her delusions will be scrumpled...

Seanymph

She gets no maintenance because she isn't a wife. So you will pay her nothing for her - and she has no right to anything you have.

Your child you will need to financially support - but not her.

So, breathe in and out - get yourself lawyered up - and let her deal with them so the nastiness doesn't affect your seeing your child. (is it your child? Have you had DNA tested? - I know that's not nice, but the percentages of men who are raising other guys children is higher than you think - and it may just call her bluff in other ways if you demand a test).....

She doesn't have a leg to stand on, you'll be fine.

caprikid1

"So, breathe in and out - get yourself lawyered up "


Until she sends you any kind of legal correspondence I would not bother, there is likely to be no great rush even if she does send you something.


I would draft a clear precise letter to her stating the obvious, you are not entitled to my hard earned, you are not entitled to my house or any part of it (But not send it yet).


I am happy to pay the calculated amount in maintenance for our child, you chose to leave can we now focus on bringing up our child.

Pollycat

Just curious - has she actually moved out of your house?

tacpot12

If you have any joint accounts with her, I would move the money to an account under your sole control.