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VelvetFreak

I survived Monday!

I cooked my first HelloFresh meal was quite tasty and I have managed to get 4 servings out of it. But I had 3 ingredients missing just from that meal (garlic, spinach and some kind of seasoning), so not very impressed about that

Went for a quick trip to the shops after dinner to get a couple of extra things for my friend’s birthday and ended up spending $54.50! But I used $50 of store points so only cost me $4.50 out of pocket. Got 2 sets of pyjamas and some work shoes among other things, so not too bad really.

Have written out my questions to ask at the job interview on Wednesday, so am feeling quite organised.

Hoping for a good sleep tonight because last night was rubbish!

VelvetFreak

Didn't spend any money today

Have been preparing myself for tomorrow which is quite possibly going to be the most nerve wracking day of my entire life so far. I have a job interview and a first date with a guy I met on the internet . Where's the EEK emoji when you need it?!

In savings news, I have cashed out $20 from a survey site so have added that to the Savings, bringing it to $113.70

VelvetFreak

I think my interview went okay, there were some parts that were a bit strange and hard to answer. It was 3 people interviewing me and they interrupted each others question a couple of times so it was a little difficult to stay on track with my responses. I will hear back from them by the end of the week. I really hope I get it because it seems like it will be a good place for me to work with lots more staff etc

My date with that guy didn't go ahead. He exhibited too many red flag behaviours. It was 6ish hours before the date and he still hadn't told me what time or place we were meeting and I figured he can't have been that keen on me anyway, so I blocked him . Onto the next one

sashybo

Fingers crossed for a job offer for you Velvet. 🤞 

Well done on valuing yourself and your time enough to ditch the date - no need for that nonsense!

Cherryfudge

Probably a good move regarding the date. Job sounds promising, though! Hope they let you know soon.

VelvetFreak

Thanks Sashy and Cherry, no phone call about the job yet, so hopefully I get one today.

Thank god it's Friday, work just seems to be dragging on and on. Have been trying to get some study done but not been overly successful. I can't concentrate very well while waiting for this phone call

I went over to my friend M's house for her "unofficial" birthday dinner last night and to give her her present. Have got her official birthday dinner out tonight and then we are doing something on Saturday as well. I am glad for lots of social things to save me from being at home thinking about things that I don't need to think about

VelvetFreak

Happy Saturday! Just stopping in quickly for an update before I have to go out for the day. I got an email from the recruitment guy yesterday saying that he didn't have an answer about the job yet as they were still discussing internally and they'd get back to me ASAP next week! I am terrified and have no idea what this could mean. I suppose it's better than a straight up rejection but now I have a whole weekend to worry about it. If I have to wait the whole weekend just to be rejected I think I will cry

I went to dinner with friends last night but didn't have to pay as friend's bf paid which I was very appreciative of. But I will pay for her lunch today while we're out so that will make up for it.

I think I'm doing alright with my new budgeting system, I've got just over $200 left to last me the weekend and Monday, which should be do-able but I do have to fill up with petrol and might need a couple of groceries, and am going antique shopping today so we'll see

Cherryfudge

I think the fact the recruitment chap rang you and didn't dismiss you out of hand sounds as though there may be hope! Mean of them to make you wait over the weekend, though.
Happy antique shopping!

VelvetFreak

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sashybo

Aww Velvet, sorry to hear that the issues with your mum are affecting your relationship with your sister. Sending hugs. I would be inclined to tell your sister that you don't want to discuss your mum because you don't want to fall out with her over it. It sounds like your mum has involved your sister to get a reaction from you.

My DH has very emotionally manipulative parents and he actually cut contact with them for  over a year, in fact it was probably nearer 2 years. I got the blame obviously. 🤷‍♀️ He did this after going to counselling for his anger issues and depression about 15 years ago.

The counselling helped him to realise that what his parents were doing/saying and how they treated him was emotionally abusive and that gave him the courage to cut them off until he dealt with it and learned how to set boundaries with them. They still try their best to manipulate him but DH deals with it better now, although he still doesn't enjoy spending too much time in their company as the longer he's around them the more they try to revert to their previous behaviour.

Is counselling an option for you? Even just to talk things through/get some ideas of how to set boundaries with your mum. You're absolutely right to put your own mental health first if your mum won't listen and adjust her behaviour accordingly.