Son in trouble - advice appreciated

DrivingMissDaisy

OP - don't worry about all the posters with their holier than though attitude. If you are comfortable letting your 5 year old.go to the park, that's perfectly fine. Enough of nanny state parenting. If you are perfectly confident in your parenting techniques the social services nor the police will do anything regarding letting him walk to the park alone. Don't let others question your methods.

As for the car damage,.wait and see what the CCTV (if there is one) footage shows.

DrivingMissDaisy

Kim_kim wrote: »

I expect if the OP doesn’t pay up the car owners will be forced to go to the police in order to get a crime number for their insurance.

I expect the police and social services (social services are always involved when the police are involved in cases to do with children and families) will want to discuss parenting with the OP.

And there is nothing wrong with that discussion. If the OP is confident in her parenting techniques, the social services won't be bothered

SweetPotatoPie

OP - don't worry about all the posters with their holier than though attitude.

This is the biggest load of tosh I have ever read. Not letting a 5 year old loose is nothing to do with being holier than thou, it’s about being a responsible parent.

DrivingMissDaisy

SweetPotatoPie wrote: »

OP - don't worry about all the posters with their holier than though attitude.

This is the biggest load of tosh I have ever read. Not letting a 5 year old loose is nothing to do with being holier than thou, it’s about being a responsible parent.

Of course it's holier than though attitude. How can you call a parent irresponsible just because they let their 5 year old play out alone. It was very common in the 80's. It's also common in many countries as well. The crime rates are lower than 80's. What's increased is the media coverage.over isolated incidents and blasted.over all forms of social media.

SweetPotatoPie

Again, not a holier than thou attitude. Just good old fashioned common sense.
Absolutely ridiculous statement.

svain

DrivingMissDaisy wrote: »

OP - don't worry about all the posters with their holier than though attitude. If you are comfortable letting your 5 year old.go to the park, that's perfectly fine. Enough of nanny state parenting. If you are perfectly confident in your parenting techniques the social services nor the police will do anything regarding letting him walk to the park alone. Don't let others question your methods.

As for the car damage,.wait and see what the CCTV (if there is one) footage shows.

DrivingMissDaisy wrote: »

Of course it's holier than though attitude. How can you call a parent irresponsible just because they let their 5 year old play out alone. It was very common in the 80's. It's also common in many countries as well. The crime rates are lower than 80's. What's increased is the media coverage.over isolated incidents and blasted.over all forms of social media.

at last somebody talking sense

Pollycat

svain wrote: »

at last somebody talking sense

You mean "at last a poster who agrees with me" :rotfl:

It's not a case of 'playing out alone' as per DrivingMissDaisy.
It's not a case of 'playing out in a quiet cul-de-sac or park in a village setting'.

This is a parent who has decided to allow his 5 year old to cross a small road, go round a corner and play with childen twice his age.
And children that he does not know.

"Holier than thou'?
Really? <shakes head in disbelief>

POPPYOSCAR

I can honestly say I have never seen a 5 year old out on their own.

svain

Pollycat wrote: »

You mean "at last a poster who agrees with me" :rotfl:

It's not a case of 'playing out alone' as per DrivingMissDaisy.
It's not a case of 'playing out in a quiet cul-de-sac or park in a village setting'.

This is a parent who has decided to allow his 5 year old to cross a small road, go round a corner and play with childen twice his age.
And children that he does not know.

"Holier than thou'?
Really? <shakes head in disbelief>

Nope ... i really mean "talking sense" .... Kids are underestimated these days, partly because of the incessant peddling of responses like those in this thread. Parents scared to let the kids develop, preferring to wrap them in cotton wool instead. It is an insecurity in the parents that is detrimental to the children development.

If kids were still empowered and encouraged to have some independence at a young age then we would have a far more resilient younger generation with much better coping mechanisms of living life, problem solving, dealing with adversity and the anxiety that comes with it, all without having a meltdown and the resulting medication dished out at the first sign.

The fact that you think a 5 year old is not capable of crossing a small road is ridiculous

The fact you think children can only play/spend time with their own age group is also ridiculous

Rainbowgirl84

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I can honestly say I have never seen a 5 year old out on their own.

They're up and down our cul-de-sac all day long on their scooters.