Deressed and feeling of little worth.

Larumbelle

Good luck LE :beer:

Zazen999

Eh Up London from here in Derby.

Being an Ex-southerner myself; my goodness what a difference it makes. I came from a very social group of friends when I was promoted and given a job in the midlands; and for a while lived in Huntingdon; as well as Daventry, Northampton and then Nottingham and now South Derbyshire; by the canal. Nottingham and my present location are fine, but the others!!!

The difference not having good solid friends around makes life unbearable; and for a good while, was desperate to move back somewhere where people knew a bit about me!!! Then, I met the love of my life and never looked back; but for a while it was awful. I ended up doing a degree in my spare time just to fill the aching evenings and weekends.

However, my comments are about your need to work and find a job; I do wish you well with the application; but what I have noticed is that your comments always involve the civil service and IT; I would recommend separating those of your skills that directly relate to those jobs [and of course promote those at every opportunity]; and those that are transferrable to other jobs/roles/sectors. Transferrable skills are a job applicant's best friend; as they show not only that they are there, but that the candidate has objectively analysed what will work in other roles and if you can map those across to the particular role you are applying for, then all the better.
eg; Project Management is Project Management; people may have only project managed projects in their sectors [eg IT], but the skills OF project management [planning, procurement, people skills, finance, time management, customer service, budgets, service level agreements - the list goes on], can very easily be applied and mapped to pretty much any sector.

Not sure whether you ever did post your CV; I am sure that people would be happy to look at it if you did. On another point; if you are going for IT jobs where it is not a specialist area; and thus you are up against a load of other people; you really need to stand out from the rest. Alot of getting a job is about how you say it not what you say; and there are various tricks to getting the message across in a positive style to outstrip the competition. NLP is the best place to look into this if you can.

Hope it goes well with the application.

Take Care

London_Exile

Zazen, thanks for that post. It was very objective! Just have one question though, whats NLP?

dearbarbie

hey just seen your post. hope you're feeling okay today. how comprehensive is your jobhunt, and do you have a killer cv and covering letter to match? im looking for work atm (well no problems temping but want perm and what i want/need is quite niche) but refuse to get the Jobseekers. have you thought about temping? are you registered on various websites and do you update your details weekly to keep yourself in the CV search? are you with agencies and do you chase them?

LizD_2

NLP is Neuro Linguistic Programming.

It's a little like the things Paul McKenna does - training your brain to react differently to negative situations by using visualisation and stimuli. It's very much more in depth than that, but might be worth mentioning to your GP when you go to see him/her next.

As you replied to my similar thread, I thought I would add a few words of support.

I know how you are feeling, although I haven't developed depression yet, I do get very down about things. Money, self esteem etc.

It is hard to stay positive, but as another poster said try to have a routine as far as possible. I don't know if you have any hobbies, but you could take some time to concentrate on any you do, or start a new one. Maybe teach yourself an instrument, if you're that way inclined - try asking on freecycle for one, you never know!

I know you don't want to take an minimum wage job, but perhaps a few hours a week would get you out of the house and talking to people, which might make you feel a bit better? Alternatively, volunteer work would do the same.

Please feel free to PM me if you want a chat.

London_Exile

Hi Liz,

Thanks for explaining the TLA (Three Letter Acronym) for NLP! I'm due to see the Dr this week - not for how I'm feeling just an annual MOT, so will raise it with him then.

Well, I'm in a routine - I'm decorating like a man possessed now! House is going on the market as soon as it's finished. We're off house hunting, or rather to check out the market in the area's we want to move to. So there are signs of forward movement.

DB touched upon it in their post, I've finally got my CV working for me. And it's getting me the interviews. At last! Trouble is just as it's starting to work, everyone is going off on their Christmas holidays! I'm registered with so many agencies it's unreal. For the moment I'm probably going to do contract work; tech support, helpdesk, desktop support. It's not WHAT I want to do, but it's better than JSA. My aim, is to get back into the Civil Service in London (Whitehall).

As far as my well being, mentally, at least, well it's tough. I seem to be overwhelmed at times with insecurities; Do my friends still like me, is there something wrong with me, etc, etc. And I'm not sleeping at the moment, which is making things worse and becomes a vicious circle. And I have got pretty much no sense of self worth right now. I can say this though; If it wasn't for the unbreakable belief that the OH has in me, I don't think I would have got this far. I think that I go on, because of her.

Phirefly

London_Exile wrote: »

Trouble is just as it's starting to work, everyone is going off on their Christmas holidays! I'm registered with so many agencies it's unreal.

I'm having the same problem, that and people holding out for their end of year bonuses before they hand in their notices, its a really slow time for jobhunting. Sit tight with me for 2008, I've got a feeling its going to be a good year.

London_Exile

It needs to be. I'm barely holding on right now.

Zazen999

Hi.
Yes, NLP is neuro linguistic programming; Paul McKenna does use it intensitvely [ I believe he works closely with the guy that 'invented' it], but don't hold that against it.
It is really a way of programming your mind to be positive instead of negative; of turning every thing possible into a positive statement/situation and promoting yourself positively and not negatively.

Next time you have nothing to do with the day [sounds like you are very busy] google it and see if it takes your fancy.

The best thing I like about NLP is it gives you tools to understand other people and you can then think about your response in the way that they want to hear it, not the way that you want to say it...if that makes sense.

London_Exile

just reading up on it now. Would that be available on the NHS?