NST A Gentle Jog Through July

apple_muncher

Today I am grateful for a better night's sleep, for dd enjoying school, for a friend giving me a lift up the road to the shops, and for dh giving me a lift back (he'd gone earlier to do the shopping; I'd gone for bits for teacher presents; he'd been delayed by the delivery lorry so was still there - result!), for getting lots of gifts out of my purchases, for helping a neighbour write a cv, letter and apply for a job, for charities that recycle old footwear.

mothernerd

Today I am grateful for coping with the heat (just about), for lavender oil roll-on to eases my headache, for simple food and a plan for tomorrow.

Deni_debt-free_dreamer

Hi everyone

NSD #3 for me yay!

Have eaten all meals from stores including some YS items; currently making lunch for tomorrow from stores.
Been to exercise class tonight - already paid for in advance - & we were outside so got fresh air too; also had a walk by the canal at lunch.

f0xh0les - thanks for the tip re Monkey World, not too far from me and looks fun!

Gratitudes - hair still curly and got lots of compliments! great exercise class and catch up with friend afterwards; DD1 had a good therapy session; DD2 had a good day in Bristol.

Going to sit in bed and read and have some quiet time before bed.

Nite everyone
Deni x

sashanut

Hi all:j

Just a quick check in tonight as still got to wash hair before bed & am up early for stint in CS...

NSD again today so now 8/12

Much more clearing out today but lots of paintings out (have been stacked against the wall on landing since purchase) in preparation for hanging some of them.. then landing will be cleared.

Outside in garden early on & finished one border...it's like the Forth bridge..

All meals from stores


Won't get much done tomorrow as CS shift then visit from DF. DD already asking what's for supper...


Few bits sorted for CS, every little helps.

mothernerd

Never forget 3 types of people in your life
1 Who helped you in difficult times
2 Who left you in difficult times
3 Who put you in difficult times

Sometimes you just need a break. In a beautiful place. Alone. To figure everything out.

Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve

When you face difficult times, know that challenges are not sent to destroy you. They are sent to promote, increase and strengthen you.

Self Love Club Rules
You must always show yourself respect, love, foregiveness and understanding
You must show others respect, love foregiveness and understanding
You must be kind to your body and look after your mental health

Sometimes when things are falling apart, they may actually be falling into place

mothernerd

I'm okay. Wish I could do more but will listen to my body and take it slowly. Have written a mjnjmal To Do list.

Karmacat

Forgiveness ... its a big topic! In terms of not rehashing something endlessly, yes, absolutely, and not digging yourself a hole that you can't get out of by stewing. But it's also okay not to forgive some things - you can accept the person, but still not accept what they did. I was a psychotherapist in my day, and dealt with everything up to serial abuse and attempted murder, so my take on it may be a little outside what people usually think of.

mothernerd

Karmacat wrote: »

Forgiveness ... its a big topic! In terms of not rehashing something endlessly, yes, absolutely, and not digging yourself a hole that you can't get out of by stewing. But it's also okay not to forgive some things - you can accept the person, but still not accept what they did. I was a psychotherapist in my day, and dealt with everything up to serial abuse and attempted murder, so my take on it may be a little outside what people usually think of.

I agree. It's putting extra pressure on the 'victim', it's up to them whether and in what time frame they 'forgive'. I remember (probably many years ago now) a rape case where the victim's father (a vicar) was all over the papers in days saying he forgave the perpetrator. I felt that not only was it not 'his' injury to forgive but it felt like an absolute betrayal of his daughter.

I actually started with 'tired' quotes, but they were making me feel worse than I already did (although they would be an accurate reflection of some other times in my life). I wanted to put something in to help myself and any other turtles who are 'struggling' or in need of healing.

I am okay but the sun is making me lethargic and demotivated (got bitten twice yesterday but didn't know it at the time). So much of my life is knowing when to push myself to do a bit more and when to take time to 'go slow' in order to recover faster.

Mum had a visitor yesterday (she's a good person but a bit scatty - she refused to wear glasses and has mistakenly jumped into stranger's cars when waiting for one of her children to pick her up). At one point she asked why I didn't just move in with mum. I think my reaction was the same as mum's - mild horror.

We both enjoy the times we are together but it's good to spend time apart and see other people. If I was with mum all the time, I think she would resent the time I spend reading (as essential as breathing for me) and would see the times I withdraw into myself as a rejection, whereas I see it as isolating myself and protecting others from me when my mood is low. We have a good relationship - our bickering and banter is just that, it's never nasty or hurtful.

I will need to spend more time with her as her needs increase but I think we're still a long way off my needing to be there full time - other people visit on the days I'm not there.

Toni'sfriend

At one point she asked why I didn't just move in with mum

My brother once suggested this to me. Mild Horror? Absolute horror and abject terror come to mind.

Toni'sfriend

Still on NSD no 12.

Bought some chillies, lemon grass and spring onions to make soup tonight (using up chicken) and I'll use the rest to make a Thai chicken curry later on this week.

Ironing all done. Haven't done a cupboard today but plans for tomorrow.

I've just been tending to a child whose fallen off her bike. Nasty huge graze on her arm but nothing worse than that. Although it did look bad to begin with. Himself took her bike home for her. We didn't actually know where she lived and some of the others had to take us there. I've never met her parents. Mother didn't even come to the door when I took her home. Himself has been saying to me that we seem to be the first port of call for children around here when anything happens or they need help. I suppose it is what you should do and I should be grateful that they feel that we will always be available to help and they can knock on our door but I must admit I'm beginning to get a bit grumpy that their parents don't seem to be taking enough responsibility. It's just my opinion. of course, and maybe that's the way things are now but it wasn't like that when my son was growing up. Shouldn't feel like that really.

Anyway just of to do some veggie chopping.