Being charged double the dig money since boyfriend moved in

WibblyGirly

@kim Kim (my phone is won't show me the buttons to quote) why should the OP pay towards house insurance? It's not her house? Also they may not have white goods insurance or a green bin as they live in a flat.

I feel the comments here have been way harsh. The OP is 23, if they went to uni then that will have only finished a year or 2 ago, jobs are awful out there even as a graduate.

The godmother also suggested the bf move in, it was not the OPs idea! So many assumptions and I hate the word entitled!
From what OPs posted about her family situation, i feel there is a lot that people don't know and if they knew, the assumptions my be different. This is one small snapshot into a person's life and yet posters feels they know everything about a person to call them entitled etc

duchy

My opinion ......it's odd an independent working woman and her working boyfriend are not paying a woman who has provided for the woman for years at below economic rate full rent and apparently only cook for themselves and not her .
The boyfriend was saving £200 a month before the supposed new arrangement on previous rent (and now gets food thrown in too even if sometimes it's not good enough for him)
Seems to me Godmother needs to stop been a pushover (even if she feels a responsibility passed on from the Grandmother) and the twenty somethings need to grow up and either pay market rent or get out and rent their own place. They sound very entitled and selfish.

Poor_Single_lady

Why would you argue she isn’t entitled. She is living in someone else’s house, paying very little rent, moves boyfriend in and she wants to dictate how much rent she pays whilst moaning that it isn’t fair.
If that wasn’t enough she is going to lecture the lady offering her this very good deal about about where to spend her own money.

What part of that is not entitled.
Nobody is saying life is easy, but sometimes people need to recognise when they have it good and stop looking for injustice where there isn’t any.

Kim_kim

WibblyGirly wrote: »

@kim Kim (my phone is won't show me the buttons to quote) why should the OP pay towards house insurance? It's not her house? Also they may not have white goods insurance or a green bin as they live in a flat.

Because her contents are covered in the event of a claim.
If they don’t have white goods insurance then they are adding twice as much wear and tear to the white goods (With the exception of the fridge/freezer) as the god mother.
Running a home is far more than food, gas and electric as the OP will find out when she moves out

ska_lover

WibblyGirly wrote: »

I hate the word entitled!

Holy Moly - so do I.

'Entitled' has become the new buzzword. It is a bit like how the word 'Random' was overused a couple of years ago - and in both cases, most of the time incorrectly used.

It is sheep talk for people who have few thoughts themselves

I do think a lot of these phrases are overused by people who have zero idea of how hard life is these days, how few opportunities there really are. Life is nothing like it was twenty years ago - it is literally like comparing an Elephant to a piece of cake.

I do think that when people post on situations like this, they should forget all they think they know / or how it was for them - whether they were in the same situation last year or twenty years ago.

Life is not alike for any two of us - not all of us get the same opportunities

Not sure why people are still arguing amongst themselves, after the OP has long since solved her issue

svain

ska_lover wrote: »

Holy Moly - so do I.

'Entitled' has become the new buzzword. It is a bit like how the word 'Random' was overused a couple of years ago - and in both cases, most of the time incorrectly used.

It is sheep talk for people who have few thoughts themselves

..... or they are people that are just bitter/jealous when someone else has it little easier than themselves .... Its not an attractive trait!

Poor_Single_lady

Who is arguing? It’s a discussion board to discuss which is what people were doing.

The last 2 posts are really the most argumentative whilst at the same time telling people not to argue.

Takmon

lexington013 wrote: »

I charge my son £320 a month. That includes all bills apart from food (he buys his own). I think your doing ok for £544 a month for the two of you.
He is shortly moving out as is buying his first put.
Mortgage is £440 a month for a 25 year term.
He will now have Council tax, house insurance, utility bills, furniture to buy etc etc etc.......I'm pleased to see him getting on the property ladder. He is under no illusion about the jump in costs for himself but is budgeting accordingly.

Personally i think that's a ridiculous amount to charge your own son. I would never charge my family any more than the extra costs i incur on my bills due to them living here.
My bills for my entire house are less than £320 a month and that includes council tax, gas, electric, water, house insurance, TV Licence and even Netflix + Amazon Prime.

peachyprice

You have to wonder how OP managed to rack up so much credit card debt while only paying £250 all-in!

ska_lover

Poor_Single_lady wrote: »

Who is arguing? It’s a discussion board to discuss which is what people were doing.

The last 2 posts are really the most argumentative whilst at the same time telling people not to argue.

Hmm..

Could you quote the actual post, where someone is telling people not to argue?

I can't seem to see that.....

Repeatedly bandying around the latest buzzwords which have negative connotations such as 'Entitled'...... or ripping apart the imagined minutiae of a strangers life - it is not 'discussing' as you say, that is online bullying. An attempt to have the OP respond. Well done OP for showing dignity

She solved her issue a while back.