Being charged double the dig money since boyfriend moved in

chesky

The OP is the same age as my granddaughter who, I'm delighted to say, does not live with me. Of course, if there was a problem and she needed to, I'd gladly have her stay and enjoy her company. Much less so if she moved a boyfriend in.

And if she insisted on 'sitting me down' to discuss my finances, she'd be out the door. I note her godmother 'sat her down' also - don't any of them stand up?

Doodles

OP your godmother is being exceptionally gracious to you, she obviously cares for you very much.

I would suggest that you (with or without the boyfriend) have a plan to save and move out by a certain timeframe and work towards that. This isn't a permanent arrangement and its best to move out when everyone still has good feeling about each other, rather than when resentment may have built up.

jackieblack

ska_lover wrote: »

It sounds like you have all agreed a way forwards , financially speaking, that you are all happy with. That is great

As long as she, like you say OP, likes the company, etc, its all great. Some people genuinely do like living with others

That is the thing that would bug me (obviously not your godmother), the extra people in the house - especially if it is a small flat, like you say..............................., the inconvenience being woke up by someone having a wee at 3am (light sleeper) / having to take turns in the kitchen / take turns in the bathroom / take turns using the washing machine /not blast music when I feel like it / not walk round naked / all those rules like what food is who's in the cupboard in your own home

For ME, the extra income (you paying the bills) would not be worth giving up living independently for what is now in effect a flat share - I would hate that - but like I say, that is just me. I like doing what I want, when I want, and If i wanted to cook, it would pee me right off if the kitchen, and all the utensils were in use, and I had to wait for someone else to cook their meal and clean up, before i could even start. Obviously I am a massive grump but I would start to feel like an outsider in my own home that there are now two of you, and one of her.

Obviously your godmother has more patience than I do haha

Kim_kim wrote: »

I’m exactly the same. I live alone in a 2 bed house & I love having my own space to do as I please without having to consider others.

Me three.
I love my daughter and son-in-law, but it was quite stressful to have them living here ( 3 bedroom house, 1 bathroom) while they were waiting to move into their own place.

Living with another person/people necessarily involves compromise, whoever they are.

hazyjo

combeferret wrote: »

No, she insists it's only food and bills. She doesn't want to charge any rent since this is to help me build enough money for a house deposit.

So how close are you to having that deposit? 7 years is an awfully long time to save, especially when only paying out £250pm. Are you sure she still expected you to be living there after 7 years? Not saying she doesn't like it, but moving out does sound a bit overdue to me, especially if you now want to live with your BF.

sheramber

Poor_Single_lady wrote: »

It just doesn’t really ring true for me.
I am slightly sceptical of anyone who posts a problem, then another post entitled -update guys, and then a neat solution tying everything up nicely like an A-Team episode.
Anyway it’s not really a problem - live there or don’t - up to you. But at 23 it might be time to dip a toe in the real world.

Especially when the solution is what the OP wanted in the fist place.

silvercar

Run your costs through the calculator:

https://www.moneysupermarket.com/mortgages/hotel-mum-and-dad/

Rachel83

combeferret wrote: »

The £150 covers every single bill. She went through them all.

Including council tax? I need to move to your location... my council tax alone is around £120 a month on the lowest rate!

Something sounds dodgy

DCFC79

OP whats the endgame here ?

Whats the plan, you planning on moving out ?

sammyjammy

FBaby wrote: »

Does she [ay a mortgage? Assuming she does, all the bills associated with the house probably come to more than £750 a month.

Most likely, she was happy for you to pay a much lower amount that half of all the bills because she loves you and wanted to help you. She doesn't have the same affection for your boyfriend, hence charging him the same despite the economy of scale. It would be quite fair.

If she has already paid her mortgage, it could be questionable whether all the bills comes to £750, although likely to with food included.

Perhaps she is short of money and the money she receives balances out the fact she is having to share her small 2 bed flat with two entitled 20 somethings!

lexington013

I charge my son £320 a month. That includes all bills apart from food (he buys his own). I think your doing ok for £544 a month for the two of you.
He is shortly moving out as is buying his first put.
Mortgage is £440 a month for a 25 year term.
He will now have Council tax, house insurance, utility bills, furniture to buy etc etc etc.......I'm pleased to see him getting on the property ladder. He is under no illusion about the jump in costs for himself but is budgeting accordingly.