New me New start, Pania's positive Progress!

duchy

Having kept P from her work with a good natter.......sorry Pania.
Was lovely chatting to you and I hope the big piece of paper yields some answers or ideas this afternoon.

In_Search_Of_Me

At the end of the day P it has to be your decision BUT I agree with what the others have said. Why not sit down and do a pro/cons page & write it down - sometimes even when the cons win you can sift your feelings & come to a decision. Works for me with major decisions! As for things he says to you I am flabbergasted and just know that I wouldnt put up with that from anyone - man or friend. Its no way to treat people you apparently love. As for saying he's off if you work that much it shows how little understanding he has of how the debt impats on you. I would go for it & hand him a map on the way out - just to make sure he doesent get lost & make sure he doesent find his way back.:mad: :mad: I know we're only getting your side and am sure youre not perfect but there would have to be an awful lot of good stuff for me to take anywhere near what you do....Seriously what DO you actually get out of this relationship thats worth puttig up with that for? If stuff has gone on ebay he has to pay fees - if he's not prepared to do that then I would (if its in his name) just not send the stuff & let him deal with the consequences...ok I'm going to stop now...getting wound up!

boredofbeingathome

I am so sorry P, I know what you are going through and yet you take everyones problems on board as well:kisses3: I wish i could wave a magic wand for you and solve it all-:o
Hope the eye problems resolve themselves, it may be a good idea about glasses ( well done for money for test) as they can be put under a strain by being on computer a lot.
I have something better than Jaffa cakes- Baldrick's birthday cake (yep baby bob was rechristened:rotfl: )
On its way to you with a nice cuppa and hugs:grouphug: :coffee: :bdaycake: BOBXXX

hypno06

Hi P, re the above "stuff", you know my thoughts........and you know where I am. (I will even get DD to make you tea, as my efforts are so crap).

xxxxx

pania

thanks hon. kinda swallowed it again now. working on other plans shall we say...;)

pania

Hi People,

thanks (again) for your messages... Haven't replied as don't really know what to say and am feeling quite guilty for sounding off this morning, i must remember not to!! Going to take a step back from the boards until such times as i am feeling my perkier self again, I don't like coming on here being moany moany, its not me and i don't like doing it. gimme day or so to straighten myself out and give myself a slap and i'll be around. need to sort out my money raising to as i'm being a bit of a plum with that... was asked today if i had a lidl near me and shame of shames i didn't. i'm a bad little DFW!!!

Anyway guys, I will see you all soon. lots of love and big hugs. xxx

mumoftwins

Hi Pania,

Sorry not been on recently, just caught up with your news and can only echo what everyone else has said - put yourself first and think hard about what you want out of your life. It's never easy ending a relationship but if it means that in the long run you will happier then it will be worth it xx

evab_2

Take care P, hope you're feeling better in a few days and don't feel bad for posting on your own thread! Hope you can resolve things with your oh if that's what you want but don't forget you come first.

Ev x

Snaggles

Pania, if you can't sound off to your friends, who can you???

Please don't stay away because you feel you have said things that you shouldn't. We all just want to support you in whatever way we can.

Have a little break if you must (but only if you REALLY must), but please come back very VERY soon.

In fact, no, sod that.....don't go at all. If you don't want to talk about certain issues then we wont mention them, but stay!

Lemon_Tree

Pania if he won't pay the fees, do i guess this means the payments have arrived at your pay pal account? if that's the case then just give him what you received and tell him to shove it and if he doesn't like it to get of his back side and do it himself.
Sorry in cheesed off mode for absolutely no reason whatsoever.