How soon is too soon

LoisGriffin

I am with my new boyfriend for just a few months. I feel quite certain he is my life partner.
Before I met him I would’ve sceptical (and cynical) that it was possible to feel like this especially so early on so I know it may well sound a bit mad.

I would get married tommorow - and I know that he would ask me in time. No need yet. But is it a bit crazy to feel like that so early on- I don’t normally when I have dated people before - but is this a normal thing that everyone feels at the beginning and then it goes away?

I don’t date a lot. Single for about 6 years. Never really been bothered about meeting “the one” and kind of thought that a lot of people settle because a big connection is a rare thing. A lot of my friends relationships aren’t really an advertisement for partners so I wasn’t looking and didn’t expect it. I am early 30s.

Would love to hear from people who had quick weddings. It’s a tough thing to talk about in real life.
Thank you.

ognum

Why do you need to get married?

DCFC79

Been with him a few months, how certajn are you he wont just up and leave ?

Have you asked him how he feels, possibly roo eaely to ask this though.

onwards&upwards

I think it’s your new boyfriend you should be talking to about this.

People do move in together and/or get married really soon and it sometimes works, both of you need to feel the same and want the same things though. Talk about the practical stuff, kids, careers, where you will live, how you see the future as far as old age etc.

Mrs_Ryan

Not a quick wedding but I moved in with my fiance after 2.5 months- although it’s taken us 13 years to get to the wedding stage

JIL

Why not just enjoy the moment and see what happens?

seven-day-weekend

LoisGriffin wrote: »

I am with my new boyfriend for just a few months. I feel quite certain he is my life partner.
Before I met him I would’ve sceptical (and cynical) that it was possible to feel like this especially so early on so I know it may well sound a bit mad.

I would get married tommorow - and I know that he would ask me in time. No need yet. But is it a bit crazy to feel like that so early on- I don’t normally when I have dated people before - but is this a normal thing that everyone feels at the beginning and then it goes away?

I don’t date a lot. Single for about 6 years. Never really been bothered about meeting “the one” and kind of thought that a lot of people settle because a big connection is a rare thing. A lot of my friends relationships aren’t really an advertisement for partners so I wasn’t looking and didn’t expect it. I am early 30s.

Would love to hear from people who had quick weddings. It’s a tough thing to talk about in real life.
Thank you.

We met on a blind date in June 1971. Got married in October 1971. We were aged 21 and 22.

Still married now, still each other's soul mate and best friend.

Such a blessing.

[Deleted User]

Moved in together after a month in 2008, married a year later after being engaged for 10 months. Still happily married, if it's right it's right but talk to him.doesnt have to be a formal thing just chat.

Kim_kim

Why in 2019 do women still think they have to wait to be asked?
Why is it the man that drives the pace of a relationship?
I’m 51, I think it’s old fashioned for a woman to feel she has to wait for the man to ask.

Pollycat

OP
You want to hear about quick weddings?

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

We met on a blind date in June 1971. Got married in October 1971. We were aged 21 and 22.

My experience was similar to the one above, albeit a couple of years later, similar ages, similar timescales.

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Still married now, still each other's soul mate and best friend.

Such a blessing.

Lasted 10 years.
Been married to someone else for many years.
That's a blessing.

In this instance, other people's experiences are not of much help to you.
You feel as you do, he feels as he does.
It may work. It may not.

Kim_kim wrote: »

Why in 2019 do women still think they have to wait to be asked?
Why is it the man that drives the pace of a relationship?
I’m 51, I think it’s old fashioned for a woman to feel she has to wait for the man to ask.

Well, I'm 65 and I think it's old-fashioned.

I read a thread titled something like 'Waiting for a proposal. How did you stay sane?' and couldn't believe it!

Primrose

He proposed on our third date after three weeks and I accepted without hesitation. But we didn't get married for two years until we could afford to buy a humble home in which to start off married life and during that time we had many serious conversations about our life philosophies and expectations which merely confirmed our initial instincts were totally correct.
Good luck. Hope it works out for you.