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Depressed and unemployed partner.

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  • tealady
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  • Comms69
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    As above and also after 5 months; I’m not clear how any couple can be ‘partners’
  • jackieblack
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    Comms69 wrote: »
    As above and also after 5 months; I’m not clear how any couple can be ‘partners’
    Really?
    I've known people meet and marry in less time - when you know, you know
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  • Comms69
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    jackieblack wrote: »
    Really?
    I've known people meet and marry in less time - when you know, you know



    I don't think this is one of those situations :)
  • cheeky-peach
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    I've been there myself, believing you can "change" someone by trying to help them and I learnt the hard way. I would break this off now before you're in a position where your fully supporting him financially, mentally and emotionally and getting zero support in return. I believe a relationship should be a partnership of similar contribution and this sounds like it's fairly one sided. The resentment will only get worse over time.
  • jackieblack
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    Comms69 wrote: »
    I don't think this is one of those situations :)
    Agreed - but I was responding to your assertion that a couple can't be 'partners' after 'only' 5 months
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  • chelseablue
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    How old is he?

    Also if he doesn't have a job what does he live on? Where does he live?
  • Comms69
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    jackieblack wrote: »
    Agreed - but I was responding to your assertion that a couple can't be 'partners' after 'only' 5 months



    Well it was an opinion, not an assertion.


    IE I think people rush into relationship changes; generally speaking.
  • seven-day-weekend
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    Comms69 wrote: »
    As above and also after 5 months; I’m not clear how any couple can be ‘partners’

    We got married four months after meeting on a blind date and this year will have been married for 48 years :)

    However,I agree the OP's relationship doesn't seem very healthy and he should end it.
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  • SuperPikachu
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    @OP - The way you worded your post makes me think you know what you need/want to do.
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