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Help with asking a friend to move out....

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  • kazwookie
    kazwookie Posts: 14,338 Forumite
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    OP stuck your big girls nickers on, sit lodger down with a coffee / tea / cake / wine what ever and have a clear conversation with her over time for her to leave.

    Do not accept any excuses.

    Confirm it is writing to her and make sure she sticks to leaving on the agreed date.

    You need to talk to her.

    If she is still there after time, charge her £500 per month.
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  • MisterP123
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    This one's easy.

    Come April 1st, wake her up at 5AM with party poppers and balloons congratulating her on finding her own place!

    If she starts crying just exclaim "April Fool!!, We're only joking, you can stay as long you need."

    Then walk slowly backwards out of the room for an argument with your partner!
  • datlex
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    Make sure her rent so that it covers the council tax and utilities into the property. That way you are losing out.
    Paid off the last of my unsecured debts in 2016. Then saved up and bought a property. Current aim is to pay off my mortgage as early as possible. Currently over paying every month. Mortgage due to be paid off in 2036 hoping to get it paid off much earlier. Set up my own bespoke spreadsheet to manage my money.
  • kerri_gt
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    Sibz wrote: »
    Sounds like we need to have the OPs friend analyzed professionally.

    OP can we arrange this? I'm dying to know if she's the villainous squatter some people have assumed.
    Whatever she's like I bet she'd love reading this.

    What other than a car has she been spending her undoubtedly ill-gotten gains on? Has she slept with your partner yet? Boiled any beloved household pets?

    This isn't Eastenders, perhaps people should stop assuming the worst of people. She might just be blissfully unaware that she isn't welcome anymore...

    Since OP hasn't been back perhaps it is OP who has been boileddjn the pot :eek::rotfl:
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  • FreeBear
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    kerri_gt wrote: »
    Since OP hasn't been back perhaps it is OP who has been boileddjn the pot :eek::rotfl:


    Oh dear. Not another lodger that wants to cook...
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  • kerri_gt
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    FreeBear wrote: »
    Oh dear. Not another lodger that wants to cook...

    :rotfl::rotfl:
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  • Sibz
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    kerri_gt wrote: »
    :rotfl::rotfl:

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  • ftb_deena
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    I’m back! LOL... some of these replies are... something else.

    Thanks to everyone though. Appreciate your help and given me some laughs!!!

    So I had the dreaded chat. It wasn’t so dreaded after all. She said she is aware April is the cut off and will be out by then. She said she has been looking at house shares rather than flats to help save on money.

    Well that suits me. I’ll just have to ask her/give her a nudge about it every so often to see how she’s getting on I suppose....
  • mdori003
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    ftb_deena wrote: »
    I’m back! LOL... some of these replies are... something else.

    Thanks to everyone though. Appreciate your help and given me some laughs!!!

    So I had the dreaded chat. It wasn’t so dreaded after all. She said she is aware April is the cut off and will be out by then. She said she has been looking at house shares rather than flats to help save on money.

    Well that suits me. I’ll just have to ask her/give her a nudge about it every so often to see how she’s getting on I suppose....

    This is anti-climactic

    Unless...there WAS a huge fight, you ARE the lodger and have assumed the ops identity...

    Either way you win :money:
  • G_M
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    What a let-down.


    Not even a bag for life.
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