Neighbor expects me to be quiet at 7pm

heartbreak_star

Organza_Lace wrote: »

When i started having my Grandchildren whilst their Mummy was at work i'd put them to bed for their morning and afternoon naps and within seconds of one of our dogs barking downstairs they would be awake and miserable - obviously not used to the noise of a dog barking but within months they got used to it and now can sleep through any amount of barking the dogs do.... Kids get used to noise. My own kids did and so have my Grandchildren.

Just do your best after 7pm and if your neighbour moans, then tough!

My mum took a similar stance - I grew up in a house opposite a working port, so I got put in the front bedroom nearest the road.

I can sleep through ANYTHING these days - including a minor earthquake!

HBS x

Hillwalker11

When I was young I was a very much wanted baby (only child) When put down for a sleep my parents used to pin notes on the front door asking people not to knock as I was sleeping! Consequently as an adult I can only sleep in absolute silence. Any noise wakes me up. With my own children they slept through anything, music,hoovering etc.
Your neighbour is setting her child up for a very poor sleeping regime. My parents thought they were doing the right thing. Unfortunately they were not.

pinkshoes

8.30pm is quite late for 6 year olds.

My 8 year old goes at 7.30pm and light out and 8.15pm. My 2 year old twins at 7pm. The twins just ignore all the noise the older ones make! One wakes up every night but they are both great at going to bed.

If your neighbours hate noise, they need a detached house. Ignore any future texts. You have every right to make normal noise.

Perhaps suggest a white noise teddy for their 5 year old if he is that sensitive to noise?

You shouldn't have to go downstairs in the night. One of my twins always ends up sleeping in my bed, and she now goes back to sleep. If she refused to sleep I put her back in her room and let her have a good scream!!

Ergates

pinkshoes wrote: »

8.30pm is quite late for 6 year olds.

My 8 year old goes at 7.30pm and light out and 8.15pm. My 2 year old twins at 7pm.

Well that's nice, but not everyone's lives will have the same schedule as yours.

Fireflyaway

I live in a modern terrace with thin walls. There are kids both sides and I never hear them. What I do hear is the mum on one side telling at her kids. It's disturbing because of the way it makes me feel, not the actual level of noise. I never hear music or the TV.
This leads me to think either you are louder than you think or the neighbour is mega sensitive and just become fixated on any noise.
If you are behaving normally then you shouldn't have to live your life around someone's schedule. There is bound to be some noise when you live close to others. Right now I can hear someone out there trimming a hedge. As another poster mentioned, if any noise whatsoever is unacceptable to your neighbour she needs to move to a detached house in the woods!
I'd stop answering texts. Don't feel guilty for living a normal life.

Red-Squirrel_2

I would nip this in the bud.

Something along the lines of "We have tried our best to be as quiet as possible when we realised that you were bothered by sounds from our home, however this has led to us practically tiptoeing around our home speaking in whispers and has had a really negative impact on us. As its become clear that even this hasn't been enough to stop you being bothered by the sounds we make we have to suggest that maybe you are particularly sensitive. We are going to carry on being a normal family, being as considerate as possible but not causing ourselves stress about the noise we are making. I would suggest you look at other options such as sounfproofing so that we can continue to have a good relationship as neighbours."

PasturesNew

The reality is, nobody here can tell you.

Some people are really noisy - but don't know they are. They think they're "normal" and it's "normal noise". They've simply normalised their noisy and chaotic, neighbour-annoying, ways.

Only by having somebody impartial next door .... can anybody actually say "You're noisy" or "The neighbour's wrong".

You can't, however, be noisy and just flounce out "just normal noise", because it's the easy route.

"Just kids" "just a normal family" "just normal noise" are stock phrases. You MIGHT actually be "the noisiest family within 1/4 of a mile", or "the noisiest family in the whole town".... but you've normalised it.

I live next to neighbours where I hear absolutely nothing through the walls, ever. When the previous owners moved in, she told me she'd spent her first night crying herself to sleep because of the noise that came from the previous owners of my house (luckily for her, I bought mine less than a week after she'd moved in and there was zero noise from me).

Deep_In_Debt

I live in a mid terrace and the walls are paper thin. Neither of my current neighbours have children. One neighbour does have a very noisy parrot that I can hear but luckily it is quiet at night.I'm sure they can hear my day to day living noise too so I don't complain.

When I first moved here many years ago, I babysat my then neighbour's little boy. I was next door and could hear my lodger running up and down the stairs so it makes me aware of how much noise I make.

welshmoneylover

Complain to her about her noise.
Tell her you can hear her fart.

scd3scd4

PasturesNew wrote: »

The reality is, nobody here can tell you.

Some people are really noisy - but don't know they are. They think they're "normal" and it's "normal noise". They've simply normalised their noisy and chaotic, neighbour-annoying, ways.

Only by having somebody impartial next door .... can anybody actually say "You're noisy" or "The neighbour's wrong".

You can't, however, be noisy and just flounce out "just normal noise", because it's the easy route.

"Just kids" "just a normal family" "just normal noise" are stock phrases. You MIGHT actually be "the noisiest family within 1/4 of a mile", or "the noisiest family in the whole town".... but you've normalised it.

I live next to neighbours where I hear absolutely nothing through the walls, ever. When the previous owners moved in, she told me she'd spent her first night crying herself to sleep because of the noise that came from the previous owners of my house (luckily for her, I bought mine less than a week after she'd moved in and there was zero noise from me).

You can get a fair idea based on the neighbour the other side and how you get on with them and previous neighbours. That's a pretty fair bench mark. That aside, you are going to be in for a rough time if you buy a detached house and think 7pm is late. Believe me it wont end there with these type of people. Wait till you have a party or some fire works or a dog.


Her number would be blocked.