Champagne Lifestyle on a Lemonade Budget.

candygirl

jackieblack wrote: »

Not wanting to get personal, but anxiety is a common (and normal) symptom of menopause ...

It sure is.I've been having terrible anxiety attacks for a while now

kippers

candygirl wrote: »

It sure is.I've been having terrible anxiety attacks for a while now

Im normally a really confident, outgoing person, but i too have been feeling anxious and not wanting to go out. I also ask myself over and over "is this it now"?..... but i keep telling myself it is the menopause doing this ( coupled with empty nest syndrone). The menopause is playing havoc with me and i really dont want HRT unless i really really have to. Youo are doing the right thing by pushing yourself to do things and get out and about...it always helps me XXX

caronc

:wave:Graciefields, like you I had to retire early (though thankfully I did get access to what I had in my pension pot but my income did reduce substatially) and can completely relate to the "Is this it?" feelings which take a while to sink in. (Not sure mine are completely away yet!) Sounds as though you are taking positive steps to establish a new way of living that will work for you I'm sure. Having something to save for is a good incentive for living within budget - mine is paying off my mortgage as soon as I can without depriving myself of the things I enjoy/are important to me. Would the new year be a chance to pursue a new interest or hobby that might help you widen your social circle?


Champagne moment today was paying another chunk off of my mortgage:D. I had set myself a target to save x over the year to add to savings I already had put by for this (I can only over pay so much each year) and was delighted to have met this plus a bit more. I know I couldn't have done it without putting a realistic budget together and tracking my spends through the year. Unless I decide to use some more of my capital (probably not) it will be a smaller lump next year so even more important that I take time in January to sort out my 2019 budget.:)

Hopefuljoy

Hello there. Another panic attack expert here! I've got a form of PTSD from domestic abuse and have had horrid flashbacks since my mammogram and ultrasound exam last Friday. I had severe anxiety from the age of 17 to 30 and depression since 2001. A combination of anti depressants later layered with the Marena coil and HRT has got me through the menopause. Thankfully I very rarely have panics any more but the rest can be a real bother when I'm tired or have to navigate choppy times.

I've just spent two days mostly in bed but am going back to work tomorrow. I didn't put that on my own diary due to a lack of confidence but somehow it seems safer here.

You have my admiration and support!

candygirl

Hopefuljoy wrote: »

Hello there. Another panic attack expert here! I've got a form of PTSD from domestic abuse and have had horrid flashbacks since my mammogram and ultrasound exam last Friday. I had severe anxiety from the age of 17 to 30 and depression since 2001. A combination of anti depressants later layered with the Marena coil and HRT has got me through the menopause. Thankfully I very rarely have panics any more but the rest can be a real bother when I'm tired or have to navigate choppy times.

I've just spent two days mostly in bed but am going back to work tomorrow. I didn't put that on my own diary due to a lack of confidence but somehow it seems safer here.

You have my admiration and support!

Exactly the same as me, but had an early hysterectomy, cos the Mirena wasn't working PTSD flashbacks are horrific xx

suki1964

Oh Lordy, don't get me started on the anxiety and panic when going through the menopause. Im now on meds

Not an ideal situation, but at least now I can function. Before I started them I was actually referred to a memory clinic as I though I had early onset dementia

The anxiety during the menopause is one of those symptoms that no one explains. We all know about the hot flushes, the lack of sex drive, the possible virginal dryness, the mood swings. but why does no one talk about the anxiety ?

janb5

suki1964 wrote: »

Oh Lordy, don't get me started on the anxiety and panic when going through the menopause. Im now on meds

Not an ideal situation, but at least now I can function. Before I started them I was actually referred to a memory clinic as I though I had early onset dementia

The anxiety during the menopause is one of those symptoms that no one explains. We all know about the hot flushes, the lack of sex drive, the possible virginal dryness, the mood swings. but why does no one talk about the anxiety ?

I think you meant ` vaginal` Suki but `virginal` made me laugh!

kippers

suki1964 wrote: »

Oh Lordy, don't get me started on the anxiety and panic when going through the menopause. Im now on meds

Not an ideal situation, but at least now I can function. Before I started them I was actually referred to a memory clinic as I though I had early onset dementia

The anxiety during the menopause is one of those symptoms that no one explains. We all know about the hot flushes, the lack of sex drive, the possible virginal dryness, the mood swings. but why does no one talk about the anxiety ?

Its funny as my memory is terrible now and i honestly thought i was getting alzeimers ( as my grandma had it and now my mum has it )....i knew about menopause memory fog but i never thought it would be like this. So thank you for your post Suki

suki1964

janb5 wrote: »

I think you meant ` vaginal` Suki but `virginal` made me laugh!

See thats the memory away to pot :rotfl:

I know the word I want, but can I get it?

You don't want to know what Im like with names. People Ive known for years and Im often having to ask Mr Suki what their name is

Prinzessilein

Gentle, supportive hugs to all fellow anxiety-sufferers.

In my case, my anxiety is lined to my Autism...my social anxiety is such that I can barely speak to family on the phone - not a hope of answering the phone to a stranger!...in fact I have only had a phone for the last few years as I was so scared of the thing ringing!...and other people freak me out so much I couldn't even drink a coffee in public....

...thankfully I have been prescribed meds that REALLY help...and have the World;s Most Supportive Mum...with the help of meds I can even tolerate short family visits...and last time I even ate a (very small!) piece of cake whilst my sister was in the room!

One luxury for me....Mum and I are planning a visit to a place that serves Posh Afternoon Tea...they do a Christmas Special...AND for a small supplement you can have a private room! (although I HAVE managed to sit in the main room, provided I face the wall and can't see people..and no one can watch me eat!) ...AND they give you a box to take leftovers home, so I will enjoy a cup of tea and whatever small bit I can eat...and the rest can come home and be eaten the next day in my 'safe; home surroundings as a second treat!

Couldn't sleep much last night...so did some laundry...and there is another little luxury...is there anything nicer than slipping between the freshly changed covers????