Halloween: What are you giving Trick or Treaters?

tain

SuperPikachu wrote: »

Nope, weird assumption you make here.

You life somewhere where you cant predict the acts of the youths during the night. Millions of people live in places where that is not the case.

This is simple deduction, not assumptions.

Pollycat

tain wrote: »

Write it big then for goodness sake :rotfl:

This is precisely what I'm talking about. Everything is an excuse and too much effort. If you have a miserable night, look at your own inaction rather than trying to ruin it for everyone else.

Who said I'm going to have a miserable night?

I'm not.
I'm going out for dinner. :dance:

Why should kids ruin other people"s night?
Why should people who don't want an endless queue of kids traipsing to their door have to 'make an effort' and 'take action'?

bugslet

There will be a note on the gate and on the door saying no halloween callers, thank you.

It's worked every other year.

gardner1

Well after reading all previous posts I've decided to go with the man traps up driveway and brussels sprouts or shallots dipped in chocolate

tain

Pollycat wrote: »

No.
I live in a country where my property is my property and hordes of kids - accompanied or not - do not have the right to wander down my drive uninvited.

Who mentioned rights? Are you actually getting into legal rights here? :rotfl:

I'm talking about reasonable, measured adult responses to predictable events.

If you're unwilling to help yourself in any way or form, then why should anyone else care enough to take action?

tain

Pollycat wrote: »

Who said I'm going to have a miserable night?

I'm not.
I'm going out for dinner. :dance:

Why should kids ruin other people"s night?
Why should people who don't want an endless queue of kids traipsing to their door have to 'make an effort' and 'take action'?

It's like complaining that the shopping centre is too busy, or that you can't get the car parked on Christmas weekend, or that the music festival has closed a few local roads and your journey is now far longer than planned.

Your life WILL be affected by other people. That is what life is. People who live happy lives do the best they can to make sure they enjoy it at all times. 1 minute effort now means 4 hours of peace tonight. Getting up 3 hours early to go shopping means getting a car parking spot and no queues at the tills.

But, of course, if expecting everyone else to stop what they're doing because you demand to live your life how you want to live it, is how you want to live, then by all means carry on. I guarantee you will not be happier for it.

As is always the case though - most people who shout the loudest about 'why should I have to do that?' are also the ones that like to complain and be upset by things. Being proactive takes that away, so why be proactive?

PasturesNew

tain wrote: »

... if expecting everyone else to stop what they're doing because you demand to live your life how you want to live it, is how you want to live, then by all means carry on. I guarantee you will not be happier for it.

But that's precisely what some people with children are expecting the rest of the country to do .... they're doing the "demanding"... again.

It's not something everybody's done, it's not something everybody does, there are lots of local variations on what people do/don't do ... pumpkins, lights, posters..... who knows what goes on out there, in any one area. Nor could anybody outside of "the local yummy mummy clique" possibly know what this year's "Trend" to do is!

Those who want to drag their kids out in the cold/dark, begging, are "expecting everyone else to stop what they're doing" ... to hide away, turn lights off, lock doors/gates etc ... just because a few want to live differently.

Pollycat

tain wrote: »

Who mentioned rights? Are you actually getting into legal rights here?

I'm talking about reasonable, measured adult responses to predictable events.

If you're unwilling to help yourself in any way or form, then why should anyone else care enough to take action?

I did.
And yes, I am.

Why do you think that people who don't want to participate should opt out?
The sensible way would be to opt in if you wish to.

Pollycat

tain wrote: »

It's like complaining that the shopping centre is too busy, or that you can't get the car parked on Christmas weekend, or that the music festival has closed a few local roads and your journey is now far longer than planned.

Your life WILL be affected by other people. That is what life is. People who live happy lives do the best they can to make sure they enjoy it at all times. 1 minute effort now means 4 hours of peace tonight. Getting up 3 hours early to go shopping means getting a car parking spot and no queues at the tills.

But, of course, if expecting everyone else to stop what they're doing because you demand to live your life how you want to live it, is how you want to live, then by all means carry on. I guarantee you will not be happier for it.

As is always the case though - most people who shout the loudest about 'why should I have to do that?' are also the ones that like to complain and be upset by things. Being proactive takes that away, so why be proactive?

That's a pretty poor analogy. It's nothing like that.

I expect people not to come traipsing to my door unless they are expressly invited.

I really can't see how you think that's wrong.
Because it isn't.

SingleSue

Halloween will be passing us by this year as dad is in hospital awaiting an operation and by tonight, could well be in critical care (he is on the list again today pending the availability of a post operative ITU bed ).

Dad loves Halloween, had already purchased sweets and things to put outside to show they are taking part (they had been upset a couple of years ago when groups were just walking past until I explained about their house knowingly having elderly people living in it and no outward signs of taking part) and he will be gutted to miss it.