Non contributing family

thorsoak

It is good that you feel that you can vent on here - but please, read what has been written here, think what you would be telling a friend who told you the same story - what would you be advising her? It is time for tough love - he and his GF have to learn to be parents - you have to let them be parents - and it is time for them to grow up.

You deserve better - you know you do. And your son has to go out and get a job and they both have to get out of their pit and start bringing up their baby. I do realise how much of a heartbreak it would be to make them leave - but they will have to go at some time - and unless they start to earn some money/budget whatever inheritance eventually comes your son's way will be gone in no time.

Please read Mooloo's threads - she is in the same pickle as you are. And you will see that we give her the same advice.

dawyldthing

You need to be really strict and say ‘look I don’t expect two thirds of the mortgage but I expect two thirds of all the other bills’, will probably amount to I’m guessing around £300 ish but they need to contribute. Nothings free in life. Unless you set an ultimatum they will just keep walking over you. If needed switch the internet off gaming etc, fill the fridge etc so they know they can’t take advantage. Plus allocate yourself a cupboard, tell them ‘this is mine, you hav3 money to feed yourself’, even put a lock on it if needed. Please don’t let them walk over you. He’s 24, he needs to realise bank of mum is closed and he needs to buy his own stuff, pay his way etc