Any advice please

worried123

I wonder whether anybody can advise me please.

Driving home last night down a main road just off my street i clipped a wing mirror of an obviously parked car. I was in the flow of traffic so couldnt stop or pull over and it sounded like a very minor clip (my car has been clipped many a time and you feel its part of life and no major damage done).

This morning there was an envelope under my wing screen wiper. It had a registration number on the front of it and what i feel to be a very rude and threatening note inside. However, absolutely no name, telephone number or address. terrible writing that isnt even joined up and to my mind appalling manners. (had this person said these are my contact details and i would appreciate you contacting me to discuss this i would not have minded.

The note reads, `I`ve looked at my CCTV and its your car what has struck mine and broken my wing mirror. I will give you just one opportunity to come and do the right thing or I will be forced to go the police`.....And thats it... no contact details and just a threatening letter.

(in the grand scheme i cannot help but feel this persons car could have been parked badly and certainly he/she should have pushed their wing mirror in (mine was literally smashed off before i learned to remember to push it in like everyone else when i park outside my house). Certainly i have never clipped anybodies mirror before and driven down that road thousands of times and didnt clip any of the other parked cars....(if wing mirrors didnt get clipped nobody would push theirs in and everybody does).

I am annoyed at this persons rudeness and the fact they have simply threatened me......also how did they know where i live.

I rang my local neighbourhood police station today...only an answerphone but explained that i accidently clipped somebodies wing mirror and that i had received a threatening note left on my car but no contact details and could they please advise me.
I have not heard back from them.

(apologies - female....never had to deal with anything like this before...i am also concerned that if i do finally manage to track down this person they will rip me off concerning their wing mirror because they sound very hostile and rude anyway.....

I dont know where to go from here.......any advice would be much appreciated. thank you.

dacouch

Irrespective of whether their car was badly parked or not you hit their mirror and are responsible.

I strongly recommend you contact them and deal with their claim .

Whleaving the scene of an accident without passing over your details or giving them in within 24 hours is likely to end up with you receiving a conviction for leaving the scene of an accident.

Many forces will also add on a careless driving conviction.

loskie

you are completely in the wrong here and due to equality why does it matter if you are female, male or whatever other categories there are nowadays?

Ivrytwr3

Absolutely hilarious (or not). You hit another persons car and think it's ok to not do anything about it and then have the gall to complain the owner has left you a 'nasty' note?

Grow up and pay up.

worried123 wrote: »

(apologies - female....never had to deal with anything like this before...i am also concerned that if i do finally manage to track down this person they will rip me off concerning their wing mirror because they sound very hostile and rude anyway......

Ask him to get a couple of quotes and if you think the quote is too expensive, go through your insurance and let them deal.

angrycrow

You may not be bothered by any damage to your car but the other owner may not feel the same about theirs.

I have had someone do this to me. The replacement part may have only been £15 from a scrap yard but I lost a days holiday driving round scrap yards to source one and then fitting it. Real cost was closer to £100.

The letter as described is not threatening it is giving you a chance to do what you should have done in the first place. Grow up, accept responsibility for your actions, stop trying to be the victim here you aren't. Return to the scene and offer to pay repairs or provide insurance details.

Car_54

worried123 wrote: »

I am annoyed at this persons rudeness and the fact they have simply threatened me......also how did they know where i live.

They didn't. That's why the note was on the car, not through your letterbox.

Deastons

worried123 wrote: »

I was in the flow of traffic so couldnt stop or pull over

Yes, you could. You indicate to warn other drivers and pull over.

Being in "the flow of traffic" doesn't mean you're somehow unable to stop.

worried123 wrote: »

(apologies - female....never had to deal with anything like this before..

What on Earth does your sex have to do with this?!

You damaged someone else's property. Regardless of your various excuses (you're female, they should have pushed their mirror in, they "could have been parked badly", the note was rude and badly written etc. etc.) you should pay to repair it.

TonyMMM

worried123 wrote: »

apologies - female....never had to deal with anything like this before...

Not sure what being female has to do with anything - but as a driver you should be aware of your legal responsibilities under the Road Traffic Act when you are involved in an accident.

alan_d

[quote=[Deleted User];74905852]They didn't. That's why the note was on the car, not through your letterbox.[/QUOTE]
I assume you must have been parked near (and therefore live very near) the car you hit?
Otherwise they would have had little chance of finding you.

I'd suggest (as you have no contact details) that you put a note on their car, apologising for the damage, and offer to cover the repair cost if they could get some quotes. Give your mobile number.

wgl2014

Is this a wind up?

There is nothing threatening or rude in that note.

If the note said:

"what I do have are a very particular set of skills; skills I have acquired over a very long career. Skills that make me a nightmare for people like you. If you pay for my wing mirror now, that'll be the end of it."

That would be a threat.

Other threats can be found here: https://www.esquire.com/uk/culture/film/news/a6951/the-best-movie-threats-of-all-time/

(For the avoidance of doubt, go and pay for the mirror or pass your insurance details over)

CardinalWolsey

1. You clipped their wing mirror, you need to rectify.
2. They reviewed their CCTV footage? So they have domestic CCTV that covers the public highway, sufficiently to identify a vehicle clipping their own vehicle's wing mirror? That is hardly likely to be GDPR compliant...