Child Maintenance

Marvel1

I'd be making sure the child is mine before paying anything.

If the child is mine, then I start paying as required.

The mothers wishes to cut all contact with father and child can Foxtrot Oscar, I would be fighting all the way.

Marvel1

Comms69 said:

Skeptical_Saver wrote: »

Wow, again, I am staggered of how harsh people on this forum can be. We don't know every detail, but from what he's told us, she's done him dirty more than once and now left with his child to a severely comfortable life at her parents in another city, which makes seeing the kid really hard.

What he's saying is that £75 is pitiful to her situation and probably won't be spent on the child anyway, as he's stated along with her probably turning the child against him.

The guy is looking for any help on how to get the payment lowered or cancelled and to get some access, he doesn't need you lot giving it the "grow up" ensemble.

I would say, if the child turns out to be yours, go to the courts and do what you can to get access and spend money on the child when you get access. Join facebook groups like fathers4justice who, despite their publicity stunts, have a lot of info on this subject.

What about? Cancelling child maintenance payments?! pathetic

Mother stopping contact is ok?

Comms69

Marvel1 said:

Comms69 said:

Skeptical_Saver wrote: »

Wow, again, I am staggered of how harsh people on this forum can be. We don't know every detail, but from what he's told us, she's done him dirty more than once and now left with his child to a severely comfortable life at her parents in another city, which makes seeing the kid really hard.

What he's saying is that £75 is pitiful to her situation and probably won't be spent on the child anyway, as he's stated along with her probably turning the child against him.

The guy is looking for any help on how to get the payment lowered or cancelled and to get some access, he doesn't need you lot giving it the "grow up" ensemble.

I would say, if the child turns out to be yours, go to the courts and do what you can to get access and spend money on the child when you get access. Join facebook groups like fathers4justice who, despite their publicity stunts, have a lot of info on this subject.

What about? Cancelling child maintenance payments?! pathetic

Mother stopping contact is ok?

Literally where did i say that??...

Mr_GoldMine

We all know fighting for lawful rights is a very long and tough journey. Even if it means fighting for justice, recompense after exoneration and even found innocent.

yes the child is mine, did a paternity test back in Sept 2018, before i started paying, been paying ever since.

certain people will manipulate situations and law to their own advantage even it means losing self morals, using their vulnerable position as a mother/female in the eyes of our family courts, civil courts, crown prosecution magistrates, i have various examples (where there was no basis whatsoever incriminating me as an individual) where I have faced allegations and suffered being arrested, interviewed under caution, kept in a cell overnight, defended myself in police station, defended myself in a family court... all because someone 'said so'..... WTFFFFFFF!.

whats the point in asking for reform, this has probably been going way before I was even born? or is it a recent thing.....

watch the BBC program, search for it

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/tv/2020/09/10/not-rapist-review-bold-move-hear-falsely-accused-rape/

i was accused of something else although i had heard stories of how women were easily getting their ex's jailed, so i was expecting that actually.... instead it was something different, something someone can easily fabricate to place as their basis for accusation.

i don't want to digress but the ex i am dealing with here is a representation of the devil manifesting themselves.... without my intervention on the kid.... my daughter could have the same upbringing as the ex did....

on top of all that I#ve been a victim of vehicle arson, multiple counts of anonymous threatening calls, 5 counts of property damage of a family home, all at the hands of the ex.... most likely to intimidate...

i hate to influence the readers because this can give ideas to the reader on 'getting one over their opponent' easily depending on who you are....

in UK law, in order to stop someone from seeing the child or even delaying the relationship between parent and child, all the courts need to hear are .... accusations (literally words on a statement, words coming out of a conscious-less guilt free solicitor), forget evidence, then courts want to see what kind of evidence in another hearing 3 months later.... then another 3 months there is finding of facts lasting up to 2 days.... in many cases the accuser doesn't even show up, because out of shame and lack of evidence ... see how time can easily be bought? then order is issued. Want to vary an order? apply again and go through the whole cycle again!

the worst scenario is parental alienation. where in majority of cases, mother sensitize the children against the father, then child is in autopilot mode... mother wins.... efforts on mothers part to oppress father is significantly reduced.....

keep fighting until there's no fight left........

what a life!

Comms69

Mr_GoldMine said:

We all know fighting for lawful rights is a very long and tough journey. Even if it means fighting for justice, recompense after exoneration and even found innocent. - No idea what that means

yes the child is mine, did a paternity test back in Sept 2018, before i started paying, been paying ever since.

certain people will manipulate situations and law to their own advantage even it means losing self morals, using their vulnerable position as a mother/female in the eyes of our family courts, civil courts, crown prosecution magistrates, i have various examples (where there was no basis whatsoever incriminating me as an individual) where I have faced allegations and suffered being arrested, interviewed under caution, kept in a cell overnight, defended myself in police station, defended myself in a family court... all because someone 'said so'..... WTFFFFFFF!. - Yes that's how things work. Someone makes an allegation, it's investigated. If you believe your arrest(s) did not meet the required necessity. You can sue 

whats the point in asking for reform, this has probably been going way before I was even born? or is it a recent thing.....

watch the BBC program, search for it

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/tv/2020/09/10/not-rapist-review-bold-move-hear-falsely-accused-rape/

i was accused of something else although i had heard stories of how women were easily getting their ex's jailed, so i was expecting that actually.... instead it was something different, something someone can easily fabricate to place as their basis for accusation. - Convictions rates for Rape are like 5-7%. The number of people falsely convicted on someone's say so are basically and effectively nil. False allegations are bad obviously. 

i don't want to digress but the ex i am dealing with here is a representation of the devil manifesting themselves.... without my intervention on the kid.... my daughter could have the same upbringing as the ex did.... - You chose her...

on top of all that I#ve been a victim of vehicle arson, multiple counts of anonymous threatening calls, 5 counts of property damage of a family home, all at the hands of the ex.... most likely to intimidate... - So report her?

i hate to influence the readers because this can give ideas to the reader on 'getting one over their opponent' easily depending on who you are....

in UK law, in order to stop someone from seeing the child or even delaying the relationship between parent and child, all the courts need to hear are .... accusations (literally words on a statement, words coming out of a conscious-less guilt free solicitor), forget evidence, then courts want to see what kind of evidence in another hearing 3 months later.... then another 3 months there is finding of facts lasting up to 2 days.... in many cases the accuser doesn't even show up, because out of shame and lack of evidence ... see how time can easily be bought? then order is issued. Want to vary an order? apply again and go through the whole cycle again! - Yes that's how courts work. 

the worst scenario is parental alienation. where in majority of cases, mother sensitize the children against the father, then child is in autopilot mode... mother wins.... efforts on mothers part to oppress father is significantly reduced.....

keep fighting until there's no fight left........

what a life!

I do tend to agree, but you seem to blame the system, whereas the reality is, it's just your ex. 

Aranyani

You sound quite unstable I'm afraid, are you getting any help with your mental health?

Mr_GoldMine

Aranyani said:

You sound quite unstable I'm afraid, are you getting any help with your mental health?

Unstable is an understatement, suffering from anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, taking pills, meditating, trying to stay focused, praying, resisting intimidation... Its too much. 

Aranyani

So are you seeing anybody or taking any meds?

Mr_GoldMine

Aranyani said:

So are you seeing anybody or taking any meds?

yes taking meds.

no not seeing anybody.

Aranyani

Mr_GoldMine said:

Aranyani said:

So are you seeing anybody or taking any meds?

yes taking meds.

no not seeing anybody.

Ok, you need to see somebody, urgently.  Go to your GP today, tell them everything, including the fact that you think your ex is a manifestation of the devil.