Should i or should i not?

maka_2

even if nothing could happen for a number of reasons is it still not right to tell her how i feel

MonkeySaving?

maka wrote: »

if i left it would not be for that im not that sort of person. and your ight its not fair on the little one but none of us can bare to leave him.

2 years unhappy mate, not good... even if it's not with the dentist it's ultimatley going to be with someone else. Cut the heartache and move out now, then you can pursue the dentist without worry Unfortunatley on this board you're only going to get views from blighted women (or women who look up moral codes of conduct on wikipedia and post them here)

gremlin

......and if you told her? Then what would happen?

a) she wouldnt be interested, but still have to work with your OH - could cause friction at work and at home.

b) she would be interested but then shes put in an awkward position by you having to work with your OH

c) shes interested and you have a mad passionate affair and live happily ever after .

How realistic is it that it will turn out for the best. I really think that it would be totally disrespectful to the mother of your child to do this in front of her. Even if you dont love her, show her some decent respect. This will cause serious turmoil I promise.

I am talking from experience ( I was 'the dentist' when I was young)

I really think you need to look at why you find this woman so attractive. Why her above anyone else. Is it cos she works with your OH (and her boss as well) is she a prize, are making a point.

Just putting a few ideas out for you to mull over

Jane

outrageous_monkey

maka wrote: »

even if nothing could happen for a number of reasons is it still not right to tell her how i feel

If you tell Ms X, she is likely to not want to treat you again, as you would put her in a very difficult position, remembering that she has to work with your OH

As for telling your OH, if you think that you have reached the end of the line and your relationship cant be saved at all, then walk away. But I dont think i would be mentioning that you fancy her boss and cant stop thinking about her.

MonkeySaving?

gremlin wrote: »

I am talking from experience ( I was 'the dentist' when I was young)

We play that game, i am the dentist, i drill her :money:
Just kidding of course

dmg24

maka wrote: »

even if nothing could happen for a number of reasons is it still not right to tell her how i feel

To be honest I think you would make yourself look a bit silly.

My old dentist was hot, and an absolutely lovely man too. But I have no doubt that his manner was purely to make me (and other patients) feel at their ease.

I know it is difficult when you have feelings for someone, I think we've all been there, and the not knowing if the feelings are returned can be even worse than the initial feelings. But I really would try to put it out of your mind x

MonkeySaving, I don't need to use wikipedia to know about codes of conduct. I mix with professional people, so often discuss the issue, and I have studied Ethics as part of my Law degree. I doubt you would have such knowledge, as it is not really needed when you clearly live in the gutter.

gremlin

MonkeySaving? wrote: »

We play that game, i am the dentist, i drill her :money:
Just kidding of course

Well seeing as Im a woman ( not blighted BTW):p

If I tried to drill my OH I dont think he'd enjoy it, in fact he'd run a bleedin mile.

MonkeySaving?

gremlin wrote: »

Well seeing as Im a woman ( not blighted BTW):p

If I tried to drill my OH I dont think he'd enjoy it, in fact he'd run a bleedin mile.

Ya never know unless u try It just takes a sneaky finger!

dmg24

MonkeySaving? wrote: »

Ya never know unless u try It just takes a sneaky finger!

How does this post help the OP?

Mollymop5

Sort your relationship out first.If things aren't right then leave.Your child will be better off with 2 happy parents.I say this from experience.i left an unhappy marriage taking my 2 kids with me.My ex sees them all the time and my kids are very happy.They have 2 happy parents see!

It wouldn't be fair to cheet on your partner.Make the break first then decide what to do about the lady in question.Then you wouldn't be cheating.