Should i or should i not?

dmg24

MonkeySaving? wrote: »

Yep i'll add that you should ask her first before you "do her hard" to satisfy the above posters non understanding of a joke. :rolleyes:

Would you be making such a joke if the OP was girlfriend upset because her boyfriend was cheating on her?

MonkeySaving?

dmg24 wrote: »

Would you be making such a joke if the OP was girlfriend upset because her boyfriend was cheating on her?

Yep, equal rights and all that :money:

dmg24

MonkeySaving? wrote: »

Yep, equal rights and all that :money:

Go away troll.

maka_2

dmg24 wrote: »

No, they do not have to stay single. They will have a life outside of work where they can meet people.

As a medical professional, I am sure that they would see a massive difference between a patient asking them out, and a member of the public asking out a staff member at McDonalds!

I am a Trainee Teacher. Some of my pupils are not much younger than me (and above the legal age of consent). If they asked me out, do you think it would be ok for me to accept?!

but i can become a member of the public and ask her out, outside of her job. not really getting ur point here if your pupils are above legal consent and you were out one night and bumped into one of them thats i would say is fine you are 2 adults that have meet and get on then dont see the problem

Are you saying if we had meet outside of her work it would have been fine to tell her?
but just becasue she is in work its not?

MonkeySaving?

dmg24 wrote: »

Go away troll.

You go away, are you a woman??? If so then stop trying to preach to blokes on here, we have a COMPLETELY different mindset to you as you should know (if indeed you are a woman) :rolleyes:

outrageous_monkey

maka wrote: »

like i said myself and partner have tried to sort things out for yr and only reason we are together is for the little one.

i agree i am playing with fire however is it not best to be honest with yourself rather than having regrets later?

If you are only staying together for the little one, then I would say that is wrong. I guess you're both pretty unhappy individuals and your little one will pick up on that...which isnt healthy for him to see.

But I am not going to say, maybe its time for you and your OH to split up just so you can have a crack at her boss!!

outrageous_monkey

MonkeySaving? wrote: »

You go away, are you a woman??? If so then stop trying to preach to blokes on here, we have a COMPLETELY different mindset to you as you should know (if indeed you are a woman) :rolleyes:

I'm sorry, I think I missed the part in the first post about women not needing to 'preach' just knob heads only apply....

I didnt mean to hit the thanks button either!!

maka_2

outrageous_monkey wrote: »

If you are only staying together for the little one, then I would say that is wrong. I guess you're both pretty unhappy individuals and your little one will pick up on that...which isnt healthy for him to see.

But I am not going to say, maybe its time for you and your OH to split up just so you can have a crack at her boss!!

if i left it would not be for that im not that sort of person. and your ight its not fair on the little one but none of us can bare to leave him.

dmg24

maka wrote: »

but i can become a member of the public and ask her out, outside of her job. not really getting ur point here if your pupils are above legal consent and you were out one night and bumped into one of them thats i would say is fine you are 2 adults that have meet and get on then dont see the problem

Are you saying if we had meet outside of her work it would have been fine to tell her?
but just becasue she is in work its not?

maka, many professions have codes of moral conduct, dentistry and teaching being two of them. These include standards of personal conduct, and relationships with patients/ pupils. They would also apply to ex patients, if you chose to go to another dentist.

With the exception of post 18 education, an intimate relationship with a pupil will lead to you being sacked, and never teaching again. It could also lead to criminal charges being brought. Even in post 18 education, it is highly frowned upon.

If your relationship is not worth working on, then you need to decide what to do about that, before thinking about moving on to a new one. Even when the relationship is over, and putting the professional conduct issues aside, is it fair on your ex to ask out one of her colleagues?

gremlin

Hi Maka

I say dont. You've heard of the saying 'dont p*ss on your own doorstep'?

It may be that you and your OH dont have feelings for each other any more and she may possibly be able to deal with you seeing someone else. But to do it (assuming that your dentist is interested) in front of her face with someone she knows would be too much I think.

It just smells of rubbing her nose in it IYSWIM.

I know that you probably wouldn't want to cause her pain, but i think that seeing someone that she works with would just be too much to expect anyone to put up with.

You say you are staying together for the little un but the chaos this could cause would be far more damaging to him in the long run. Imho.

Hope things worl out for you

Jane