Should i or should i not?

maka_2

I'll keep as quick as poss just in need of advice.

Im a 26yr old male been in a relationship for 6yrs been very unhappy for last 2 yrs i have told my partner this she also says she is unhappy yet we remain together as we have a 4yr old son.

I popped into my partners work a few weeks ago to drop something off and got talking to one of the dentist call her ms x . oh my partner is a dental nurse to make it worse she is this womans nurse to.

Later that day my partner came back and asked me if i found ms x attractive to which i informed her yes. now for a few weeks i have been going back into her work as i have needed some work doing on my own teeth ms x is now my dentist. i had some xrays so while my partner went off to sort them out i got talking some more to ms x and she is great everything i look for.
but now i cant stop thinking about her to be honest i dont want to either.

so i guess im asking do i tell her how i feel or try and ignore my feelings? also swap dentists?

my head is in bits really not sure wot to do

forgot to say my partner told ms x that i find her attractive the day after she asked me

miserly_mum

What makes you think that just because you find her attactive she would feel the same about you?

She is probably being chatty and friendly because you are her Nurses's partner

maka_2

did'nt say she did however no ones knows if someone finds someone else attrctive until someone says something

dmg24

Even if your dentist did have the same feelings as you, it would be highly unprofessional of her to admit to it or do anything about them.

Maybe you should work at your own relationship rather than setting out to ruin your current partner's personal life and working relationships?!

MonkeySaving?

Do her hard, then decide on your feelings.. who decided men should be monogamous? 99% of females on this board probably

dmg24

MonkeySaving? wrote: »

Do her hard, then decide on your feelings.. who decided men should be monogamous? 99% of females on this board probably

It might be practical to ask the dentist first. If not the OP would be committing rape. Maybe you should think about what you are saying before you post.

Is there a prize for most useless post of the month? :rolleyes:

outrageous_monkey

Hi

first off, I think you and should partner should try and make some time for you both to sit down and try and work out what is making you both unhappy and how you can change that.

I think you could be playing with fire and could end up with burnt fingers. Ms x has to be pleasent, polite and chatty with her job, you could have misinterpreted (sp) it.

maka_2

dmg24 wrote: »

Even if your dentist did have the same feelings as you, it would be highly unprofessional of her to admit to it or do anything about them.

Maybe you should work at your own relationship rather than setting out to ruin your current partner's personal life and working relationships?!

we have been working hard at our relationship for yrs.

maybe it would be unprofessional of her to admit but are u saying everybody in this type of role should stay single? there is no difference between that and say someone working at mcdonald and a member of the public asks for their number

maka_2

outrageous_monkey wrote: »

Hi

first off, I think you and should partner should try and make some time for you both to sit down and try and work out what is making you both unhappy and how you can change that.

I think you could be playing with fire and could end up with burnt fingers. Ms x has to be pleasent, polite and chatty with her job, you could have misinterpreted (sp) it.

like i said myself and partner have tried to sort things out for yr and only reason we are together is for the little one.

i agree i am playing with fire however is it not best to be honest with yourself rather than having regrets later?

MonkeySaving?

dmg24 wrote: »

It might be practical to ask the dentist first. If not the OP would be committing rape. Maybe you should think about what you are saying before you post.

Is there a prize for most useless post of the month? :rolleyes:

Yep i'll add that you should ask her first before you "do her hard" to satisfy the above posters non understanding of a joke. :rolleyes:

dmg24

maka wrote: »

we have been working hard at our relationship for yrs.

maybe it would be unprofessional of her to admit but are u saying everybody in this type of role should stay single? there is no difference between that and say someone working at mcdonald and a member of the public asks for their number

No, they do not have to stay single. They will have a life outside of work where they can meet people.

As a medical professional, I am sure that they would see a massive difference between a patient asking them out, and a member of the public asking out a staff member at McDonalds!

I am a Trainee Teacher. Some of my pupils are not much younger than me (and above the legal age of consent). If they asked me out, do you think it would be ok for me to accept?!