forgotten birthday

Savvy_Sue

avogadro wrote: »

I presume they would be equally happy if they didn't receive any 'useless pieces of cardboard' on their own birthday? Possibly the younger generation do things via the cloud, rather than on paper, and this is what he means.

Oh absolutely! And as this particular one is nomadic, I don't usually have an address to which I can post things anyway!

Pollycat wrote: »

I have a so-called 'significant' birthday coming up and we're on holiday. I was saying to the OH that I hope the hotel doesn't make a fuss.

I'm almost with you there. We spent my last zero birthday in a very nice hotel, much more 'exclusive' than we usually frequent. We told them the visit was for my birthday so they made me a small cake.

That was lovely. What was not so lovely was that they decided to deliver it to our room, with no prior warning, while we were 'relaxing' with the 'do not disturb' sign on the door. :rotfl:

I think I'd have preferred candles and singing in the middle of the restaurant! :rotfl:

Spendless

How do you know when it's a milestone birthday on your DH's side of the family? Who keeps track so you know when a gift/more of a fuss, is expected?

What I'm wondering is, who was expected to remind your DH's side that it was your special birthday?

I think they didn't realise from what you've written.

Guineapigsqueaks

I really don't get adults who do the whole "everyone must make a fuss of me because it's my birthday" thing. I find it a bit childish, but perhaps they are just more enthusiastic about birthdays than I am. I certainly wouldn't expect people to remember how old I am. I struggle to remember sometimes! They didn't forget, they all sent cards didn't they, just not of the correct type apparently.

thorsoak

I'm sad for you that you feel that your special birthday was not celebrated by your extended family - as long as those who are close to you cele brated,thatis what matters. And as for your relative's special birthday - just apologise and say that you'd love to be there - but finances preclude it. Send a lovely card - and spend the time with your own family.

peachyprice

toomuchmess wrote: »

I'll try and keep it short, but i had a special birthday last year but all dh family forgot it was special apart from one who sort of realised.
i had a card from them all but no reference to age or gift.
we had agreed that we would only buy for special birthdays and children upto 21.

So last year before mine, i sent card/gift and went to family member special birthday,this year we have another family member special birthday and to be honest im still feeling peeved off about it.
we've been asked out for a meal with family but i don't want to go,we also can't afford it and i certainly don't feel like giving a gift. I have brought a card to send with age on it!
what are your thoughts, am i being mean/childish about this?!

toomuchmess wrote: »

hubby said nothing really,its his side so i understand.
we went out just as a family as we have found in the past that they have said they don't like price or choice of meals so easier just us. we didn't ask them. But only one said something to dh after the event. so i never even had oh we forgot, and by the way happy ......th
we cannot afford to go as would have to pay for 5 of us.
i'm just sending card and leave it at that,thanks

So you had a 'special' birthday but didn't invite them, now one of them is having a 'special' birthday that they have invited you to but you don't want to go because they didn't make a fuss over your birthday that you didn't invite them to?

Do you really need to ask if you're being childish?

System

thank you all for your varied replies, we all have different ways we like to celebrate our birthdays or not if wished.
I also don't round with balloons/sashes etc either.
As a family cards are sent, often along with a text/call on the day too.
if dh wishes to go for meal he will,but finances mean we won't all be able to go.

Primrose

I think birthday cards with ages on them are naff. It may have been a special day for you but an ordinary day of the week for everybody else.
Presumably youre old enough to have had a few birthdays by now so whats just one more. As long as your own family remembered that,s really all that should have mattered. Anyway it was a year ago now. Surely you're not still bearing a grudge about it ? Life's too short!

If you don,t want to go out for somebody else's birthday meal just make a polite excuse and don't go.

DrivingMissDaisy

This is one of the situation where you can be passive aggressive to send a message to the family. Send a card but don't sign it, cancel family dinner closer to time, get a very cheap gift like a used scarf from a charity shop or a hat, etc

lincroft1710

I'm sorry but I'm now of an age where another birthday is another year nearer my coffin. Made even more poignant with the passing of OH's cousin (younger than me) last week.

DrivingMissDaisy

lincroft1710 wrote: »

I'm sorry but I'm now of an age where another birthday is another year nearer my coffin. Made even more poignant with the passing of OH's cousin (younger than me) last week.

Just because you have one foot in the grave doesnt mean everyone else is in the same boat. The OP said it was a significant birthday and wanted it to be a special one.