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Marriage issue, in laws

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  • Pollycat
    Pollycat Posts: 36,210 Forumite
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    Well, I read most of the responses on the mumsnet forum and my view differs markedly from those.

    I've been in your wife's shoes and endured years of thinly veiled hostility, bare faced rudeness and great unhappiness from a relative by marriage. It caused untold trouble and distress.

    On the other forum, you describe your parents as "fiery" with strong inferences that they are/have been difficult, unreasonable, stubborn, unkind, domineering etc towards you, your wife and your own family unit. I strongly suspect that she has good grounds to feel contempt towards them and if you add to that the exhaustion of caring for her baby and the possible PND, her view doesn't seem anywhere near so clear-cut and poisonous, does it?

    As for your comment(above) would there be more justice in suggesting that you are both 'in the wrong'? Someone neutral needs to step in here and I'm with many others who have suggested your GP as the first port of call.

    I wish all of you good luck and a happier future.
    If the bit in bold is true (and I've no reason to think it isn't true) I think it's pretty poor of the OP to not only pretend to be his wife in his original post on this forum but also to deliberately paint his wife in a poor light.

    In fact, I think if she ever finds this thread I predict that this really will be on the cards:
    mam906 wrote: »
    Is the only way to sort this being divorce.
    If my OH ever pulled a stunt like this, he would be history.
  • paddy's_mum
    paddy's_mum Posts: 3,977 Forumite
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    Oh, it's true!

    Come on then, Mr Original Poster, put up the name under which you wrote on Mumsnet so that my integrity is not targeted in the way your wife's was!

    :eek::eek::eek:
  • Pollycat
    Pollycat Posts: 36,210 Forumite
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    Oh, it's true!

    Come on then, Mr Original Poster, put up the name under which you wrote on Mumsnet so that my integrity is not targeted in the way your wife's was!

    :eek::eek::eek:
    I wasn't 'targeting your integrity':
    Pollycat wrote: »
    If the bit in bold is true (and I've no reason to think it isn't true) I think it's pretty poor of the OP to not only pretend to be his wife in his original post on this forum but also to deliberately paint his wife in a poor light.
    Apologies if this was the way it came across. :)
  • mam906 wrote: »
    I hope one day your relationship doesn't get to a desperate point where you'd try anything to fix it, sorry if this has offended you but some times in life, desperation can often lead to doing the most silliest of things, and this is desperation. Desperation to repair a broken marriage
    He's my suggestion.
    Buy yourself a mirror love and take a long hard look.
    The world, nor his family revolve around YOU!
    Stop acting like a toddler.
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    If it walks like a Duck, quacks like a Duck, it's a Duck.
  • Pollycat
    Pollycat Posts: 36,210 Forumite
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    He's my suggestion.
    Buy yourself a mirror love and take a long hard look.
    The world, nor his family revolve around YOU!
    Stop acting like a toddler.
    The OP - although originally purporting to be a woman - is actually a man.

    And tbh, if his family are anywhere near as duplicitous as he has shown himself to be on this forum, no wonder his wife has issues with them.
    mam906 wrote: »
    The only way to get this sorted is to take the feedback back to my wife and make her realise she is wrong. She won't go to a counselor so in time we can look back at these responses and try and make it work from a third party
    The arrant arrogance in this ^^^^ beggars belief.
  • paddy's_mum
    paddy's_mum Posts: 3,977 Forumite
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    Pollycat wrote: »
    I wasn't 'targeting your integrity':

    Apologies if this was the way it came across. :)

    Not at all. Nothing offensive in any of what you wrote.

    What I am pointing out to the OP is that the many, many responses to his post on Mumsnet (which annoyingly I can't now find and haven't time to search further) did elicit harsh and unfair comments, most of them aiming the vitriol at the wife. Had the OP been fair from the beginning on MSE, the wife's honesty would not have been brought into question.

    I'm just challenging him now to reveal the other conversation with the much greater information that thread gave as to what has actually been going on.
  • pearl123
    pearl123 Posts: 2,083 Forumite
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    Are you jealous of his family and his relationship with his family?
  • Pollycat
    Pollycat Posts: 36,210 Forumite
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    pearl123 wrote: »
    Are you jealous of his family and his relationship with his family?
    I suggest you read post #13
    Pollycat wrote: »
    The OP - although originally purporting to be a woman - is actually a man.

    The poor woman in all of this sorry mess has never posted on here.
  • Marvel1
    Marvel1 Posts: 7,507 Forumite
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    mam906 wrote: »
    We got married in 2015, his sister was a bridesmaid, her husband was usher.
    Cut a long story short, my sister in law recently got married and only my husband was usher.
    I wasn’t bridesmaid, my own children weren’t ushers. .

    What ever happened to being just guests?!
  • hollydays
    hollydays Posts: 19,812 Forumite
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    It's one of the things abusers do is to say" look. Everyone else thinks your wrong"
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