Marriage issue, in laws

Kynthia

This post can't be real? Surely no-one would admit to being this unreasonable, even if they were acting this way?

People can choose who they like to be ushers and bridesmaids, and don't have to return the favour. It's not a good reason to cause a massive fallout.

You SIL doesn't have to be your best friend and support you emotionally. They are your husband's sister and you should let him have a good relationship and you should let your child have a relationship with their aunt. Grow up and stop being so cruel.

mam906

Hi all.
Yes, this is a copy of something from another forum I posted (which was my writing, the husband)
Apologies if it's caused any of you heart ache but I wanted to see the responses from the females view.
May sound sad to you but I wanted to see the reaction on the other side of the fence.


The only way to get this sorted is to take the feedback back to my wife and make her realise she is wrong. She won't go to a counselor so in time we can look back at these responses and try and make it work from a third party

mam906

Kate/Bob wrote: »

As a creative writing project I'll give you a 5/10.


Good research on finding the forums most likely to repond, both here and mumsnet, extra points for making a post that whilst guaranteed to wind people up isn't so obviously a troll attempt.


However you let yourself down by failing to stick to a single narative voice and swapping personal pronouns.
Your inability to foresee that users of money saving expert may also be members of mumsnet and would recognise that the same story has been posted simultaneously from both perpectives is also a huge failure.

I hope one day your relationship doesn't get to a desperate point where you'd try anything to fix it, sorry if this has offended you but some times in life, desperation can often lead to doing the most silliest of things, and this is desperation. Desperation to repair a broken marriage

Pollycat

mam906 wrote: »

I hope one day your relationship doesn't get to a desperate point where you'd try anything to fix it, sorry if this has offended you but some times in life, desperation can often lead to doing the most silliest of things, and this is desperation. Desperation to repair a broken marriage

If you'd been honest on here from the outset instead of trying to be clever, you would have had a better response.

Rubik

I'd doubt she really cares what a bunch of random, anonymous people on an internet forum think. She may not want to speak to a counsellor, but you could still go on your own. Perhaps focus on other things for a while, and allow things to settle down for a bit, then broach the subject of seeing a relationship counsellor again.

paddy's_mum

mam906 wrote: »

make her realise she is wrong

Well, I read most of the responses on the mumsnet forum and my view differs markedly from those.

I've been in your wife's shoes and endured years of thinly veiled hostility, bare faced rudeness and great unhappiness from a relative by marriage. It caused untold trouble and distress.

On the other forum, you describe your parents as "fiery" with strong inferences that they are/have been difficult, unreasonable, stubborn, unkind, domineering etc towards you, your wife and your own family unit. I strongly suspect that she has good grounds to feel contempt towards them and if you add to that the exhaustion of caring for her baby and the possible PND, her view doesn't seem anywhere near so clear-cut and poisonous, does it?

As for your comment(above) would there be more justice in suggesting that you are both 'in the wrong'? Someone neutral needs to step in here and I'm with many others who have suggested your GP as the first port of call.

I wish all of you good luck and a happier future.

thorsoak

I suggest you divorce, give up your husband, your home, the children - all of them - and go back to school to learn how to become a real grown-up.

mam906

Kate/Bob wrote: »

As a creative writing project I'll give you a 5/10.


Good research on finding the forums most likely to repond, both here and mumsnet, extra points for making a post that whilst guaranteed to wind people up isn't so obviously a troll attempt.


However you let yourself down by failing to stick to a single narative voice and swapping personal pronouns.
Your inability to foresee that users of money saving expert may also be members of mumsnet and would recognise that the same story has been posted simultaneously from both perpectives is also a huge failure.

paddy's_mum wrote: »

Well, I read most of the responses on the mumsnet forum and my view differs markedly from those.

I've been in your wife's shoes and endured years of thinly veiled hostility, bare faced rudeness and great unhappiness from a relative by marriage. It caused untold trouble and distress.

On the other forum, you describe your parents as "fiery" with strong inferences that they are/have been difficult, unreasonable, stubborn, unkind, domineering etc towards you, your wife and your own family unit. I strongly suspect that she has good grounds to feel contempt towards them and if you add to that the exhaustion of caring for her baby and the possible PND, her view doesn't seem anywhere near so clear-cut and poisonous, does it?

As for your comment(above) would there be more justice in suggesting that you are both 'in the wrong'? Someone neutral needs to step in here and I'm with many others who have suggested your GP as the first port of call.

I wish all of you good luck and a happier future.

Thank you, I don't want to show her the responses to the forums but if she won't see a GP, it's the only way I can start to get her to see sense

Pollycat

mam906 wrote: »

Thank you, I don't want to show her the responses to the forums but if she won't see a GP, it's the only way I can start to get her to see sense

If she won't see a GP, why do you think she'll read responses from random strangers on t'internet?
Especially responses from this forum as you have falsely represented yourself as her.

elsien

mam906 wrote: »

Thank you, I don't want to show her the responses to the forums but if she won't see a GP, it's the only way I can start to get her to see sense

If your first post is missing the relevant information which PaddysMum suggests, with regards to PND and hostility going both ways, then I strongly suggest you don't show her this thread.
Because if anything is guaranteed to send her heading towards the divorce courts, it's the potential misinterpretation of her situation and feelings in your first post.