Suicide Inheritance - no will

theoretica

Turmoilat37 wrote: »

My mum has kept this secret from us and has not gifted or shared the money. We knew that some inheritance was due but didn't know how much. Se has never discussed it with us. We know this information from our cousins, my mum's sister's children, who have been kept in the loop and we believe are recipients of money.

We are, or thought we were, on good terms with our parents. We see them often and help as needed. There is no estrangement or bad relationships.

Have you discussed the matter with your parents? Do you usually talk about finances at all? If it isn't something you usually talk about, then I wouldn't personally count continuing to not talk about it as keeping it a secret. Do you discuss how hard you find your finances with your parents? Let them know things you would love to do or have but can't afford? Or even ask them for help - some people like to be asked rather than offer.

spadoosh

SevenOfNine wrote: »

Here's another word just for you....JUDGEMENTAL.

I can't even begin to find the words to describe the poster who wrote the words "he chose to commit suicide without making provisions for you", ignorant just doesn't fit even marginally near enough, I'm stunned.

OP, I'm sorry this thread turned so vile. Sadly, though I believe if your Uncle had been of sound mind he would have provided for you, if he had been of sound mind he would have not made the terribly sad choice to end his life.

Perhaps your mother's own mental health issues mean she thinks & functions in unexpected or different ways? Who knows what she may choose to do once all of her inheritance has been received.

I'd like to think that a person suddenly finding themselves with a hefty sum would, indeed, want to secure their future comfort, then have the pleasure of sharing some of the rest of it with loved ones.

Maybe in time that may be the case for & your sibling, must seem somewhat hurtful that your cousins are benefitting via their respective parents.

Worth bearing in mind that because someone commits suicide does not mean they have mental health problems or are not of sound mind. There are many reasons why someone might commit suicide whilst mental health issues increases the likelihood of someone committing suicide there is nothing to suggest the mental health issues are the cause of suicides.

You could spend all the money in the world on mental health but you would still find people who want to end their lives for a plethora of reasons.

Its a case of someone holding a different view. Whilst it might be alien to me and you it far from means they are not of sound mine.

It seems hugely offensive to me for someone to make a choice to end their life to be deemed mentally ill because they hold different views.