Suicide Inheritance - no will

peachyprice

Turmoilat37 wrote: »

My mum's brother sadly committed suicide last year. He left no will.

Turmoilat37 wrote: »

we were my Uncle's children, and were treated as such, as he had none of his own.
He took care of us financially as children, I think he would have wanted us to have benefitted now too. That's how he was.

Turmoilat37 wrote: »

If you had a wheelchair-bound close relative who was unable to work due to a serious health condition, who struggled to pay for their weekly food out of their benefits ..and you came into a significant amount of money - would you help them out? Take the words will and inheritance out of the equation - how many would sit on a large sum of money and watch a relative struggle? Is there a right thing to do?

It seems your uncle's wishes were quite clear. He chose to commit suicide without making provisions for you even though he knew you were wheelchair-bound, unable to work due to a serious health condition and struggled to pay for food out of benefits.

Had he felt any financial obligation towards you he could have given financial assistance while amassing his not insubstantial wealth and he could have, a long time prior to being suicidal, made a will with a provision for you. He did neither. His intentions are clear.

happyandcontented

A suicide leaves everyone in turmoil thinking they could have done more to help the person concerned perhaps that is where your mum is at? You said she has significant funds herself so why assume that the holidays are being bought from the inheritance? Perhaps this death has brought her up sharp and she has realised that she needs to live life to the full.

Maybe she believes that children should only inherit on the death of the parent and not before?

If she is well provided for has she not helped you financially prior to this inheritance? Her attitude to doing that should inform you how she views giving money to children.

Margot123

Well, here goes, I couldn't keep quiet......

Perhaps the OP's Mum was planning on waiting till all the money was in before making a large and kind gift to those she thought were deserving.

Talking in the past tense just in case she reads these forums and has had a revelation.

SevenOfNine

brewthebear wrote: »

One word I want !! Greedy.... or what just because someone who is related to you has inherited you feel unjust and think its your right to get some of it.
The Uncle obviously knew what he was doing and would have been aware who would benefit, y ou not being one of them Just get on with your life and stop whingeing. All you see is ££££ signs

Here's another word just for you....JUDGEMENTAL.

I can't even begin to find the words to describe the poster who wrote the words "he chose to commit suicide without making provisions for you", ignorant just doesn't fit even marginally near enough, I'm stunned.

OP, I'm sorry this thread turned so vile. Sadly, though I believe if your Uncle had been of sound mind he would have provided for you, if he had been of sound mind he would have not made the terribly sad choice to end his life.

Perhaps your mother's own mental health issues mean she thinks & functions in unexpected or different ways? Who knows what she may choose to do once all of her inheritance has been received.

I'd like to think that a person suddenly finding themselves with a hefty sum would, indeed, want to secure their future comfort, then have the pleasure of sharing some of the rest of it with loved ones.

Maybe in time that may be the case for & your sibling, must seem somewhat hurtful that your cousins are benefitting via their respective parents.

Turmoilat37

SevenOfNine wrote: »

Here's another word just for you....JUDGEMENTAL.

I can't even begin to find the words to describe the poster who wrote the words "he chose to commit suicide without making provisions for you", ignorant just doesn't fit even marginally near enough, I'm stunned.

OP, I'm sorry this thread turned so vile. Sadly, though I believe if your Uncle had been of sound mind he would have provided for you, if he had been of sound mind he would have not made the terribly sad choice to end his life.

Perhaps your mother's own mental health issues mean she thinks & functions in unexpected or different ways? Who knows what she may choose to do once all of her inheritance has been received.

I'd like to think that a person suddenly finding themselves with a hefty sum would, indeed, want to secure their future comfort, then have the pleasure of sharing some of the rest of it with loved ones.

Maybe in time that may be the case for & your sibling, must seem somewhat hurtful that your cousins are benefitting via their respective parents.

Thank you for viewing things clearly and fairly.
I have been absolutely stunned by the nasty comments and (false) insinuations and misjudgement. People can hide behind a computer screen twist my words, make false accusations and think it's OK to speak to somebody in a manner they never would in person.
It was a sensitive situation, losing a relative is horrific and painful under any circumstances and in the manner we did is especially hard. Some of the blunt comments referring to the suicide were beyond belief - again, it's easy to troll and bully behind a computer screen.

The mistake I made was use the word 'contest'. I never meant I was planning a trip to court, or anything of that sort, I meant could it be queried or questioned. I used the wrong word and didn't express myself well. I am a little disappointed with my mum's behaviour, and I would have done differently. I don't think she's greedy - I never said that in spite of what some posters claimed, I merely quoted another poster's words. My mum is scared of parting with money (the two recent holidays booked are an rare exception) and I think this is the problem rather than conscious greed.

Thank you again for rebalancing the thread and providing a little logic. I wouldn't want anybody else to view this post and be afraid of posting about a similar situation for fear of being trolled, judged, insulted and ripped apart over what was a perfectly valid question.

ViolaLass

Turmoilat37 wrote: »

For those who have children and would not share unexpected inheritance - looking after your children is looking after yourself. It's a little shortsighted to think otherwise. If we are lucky we will live to be in our 70s, 80s and that's when the role reverses and you need your children. You are entitled to believe you have no financial responsibility over your children - but if you're smart, you'll set your children up if you have the opportunity and give them the chance to be in a position to support you when it's needed. Let's look at the bigger picture.

Equally, your mother could choose to keep the money and not be dependent on you anyway. Wouldn't that solve the problem too?

Turmoilat37

ViolaLass wrote: »

Equally, your mother could choose to keep the money and not be dependent on you anyway. Wouldn't that solve the problem too?

If you'd rather be supported by cold hard cash than your own family, yep sure would solve the problem that way.

marliepanda

Turmoilat37 wrote: »

If you'd rather be supported by cold hard cash than your own family, yep sure would solve the problem that way.

The irony. It hurts.

DairyQueen

OP: a few seconds googling 'law of intestacy' would have provided the info you sought in your opening post. I therefore conclude that you sought something else.... sympathy? somewhere to vent? If so, you have fulfilled both objectives to some degree. This forum only has information provided by you on which to base opinions and the ethics of the situation that you have described are somewhat conflicted. Therefore, it's not surprising that posters engaged you in a moral debate.

marliepanda

Turmoilat37 wrote: »

@Dox The first sums of money have already come in. She's already received £300, 000. It's his shares in the office/business which are more complex to sort out.

She has already started to book expensive holidays and spend the money - this is why I'm not sure she plans to distribute any of the money. As has already been pointed it, it's her money. It does seem greedy, but greed isn't illegal!

don't think she's greedy - I never said that in spite of what some posters claimed, I merely quoted another poster's words.

Also, because I hate when people downright create falsehoods in a thread, you absolutely did call her greedy and you were not quoting anyone. Cheeky monkey referenced ~apparent greed~, but you said the above of your own volition.