Suicide Inheritance - no will

AylesburyDuck

Turmoilat37 wrote: »

You know nothing of the personal relationships within my family, or the complexity of the situation or the history of the situation. Did you know for example that my Uncle was our guardian as my mum has mental health issues and we frequently stayed with him?
I requested practical advice - you have zero grounds to judge me without knowing the full situation..
If you'd also taken the time to read my post more carefully, rather than make a nasty dig about being a gold digger, you would have seen I'd accepted it was my mum's money to do with as she wishes. I don't agree with it, it's very different to how I would have behaved but I'm entitled to that opinion.

I hate to point out the obvious, but someone who has accepted something doesnt then go on to ask if she can contend it.
And contend WHAT exactly, their is no will to contend.
Your financial situation or indeed family circumstances are totally irrelevant, it's a firm no, no you cant do anything about it!

You got their first Marliepanda.:T

Turmoilat37

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

Agreed, only my first thought was Eugh nasty!

You don't know the story of my family or its history, or the relationships within it. If you have nothing constructive to add, don't bother - or perhaps read the whole thread to try to get a slightly better understanding of a complex situation.

Eugh nasty is what I think of people who make ignorant, pointless comments such as yours.

Mojisola

You have no rights to expect a share of the inheritance and maybe your mother is planning to just spend, spend, spend but I couldn't imagine doing the same if I was comfortably off and such a large sum of money came my way but had children who were struggling financially.

AylesburyDuck

Turmoilat37 wrote: »

You don't know the story of my family or its history, or the relationships within it. If you have nothing constructive to add, don't bother - or perhaps read the whole thread to try to get a slightly better understanding of a complex situation.

Eugh nasty is what I think of people who make ignorant, pointless comments such as yours.

I've read the whole thread, you do yourself no favours, and my opinions remains the same.
The complex situation has no bearing on it, no, you may not grasp your mothers money.;)

marliepanda

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

I've read the whole thread, you do yourself no favours, and my opinions remains the same.
The complex situation has no bearing on it, no, you may not grasp your mothers money.;)

'I've accepted it'

Followed by:

would we have grounds to contest it?

I think she's keeping it to live a comfortable retirement.

wow what a horror!

The behaviour is a little strange as my parents are set up for life already with owned property and private pensions. It looks like I'm destined to live out a very different life!!

Note to self, this is acceptance, not bitterness. Must get a new dictionary

She has already started to book expensive holidays and spend the money - this is why I'm not sure she plans to distribute any of the money. As has already been pointed it, it's her money. It does seem greedy, but greed isn't illegal!

calling her greedy...

Perhaps grief is affecting her logic in this instance.

And as I concluded in above posts, it's her choice. You can argue the ethics of it but...

Okay, noted. 100% acceptance showed above!

Turmoilat37

PasturesNew wrote: »

As has been said, without children of his own and with his parents dead, all his full blood siblings would inherit equal amounts. Not their children, not anybody else. Just his siblings.

You .... will have to wait and see if scraps are passed your way.

That's the way it is; that's the law.... and you do seem a bit "money grabbing" to be assuming that you're being shafted over "your money" as you have nothing coming to you from his demise.

Maybe your mother is grieving ... and only once the estate's settled will she feel able to share the information with you as she's a bit beside herself right now.

You've "only" lost an uncle - she's lost a brother, a connection to her deceased parents; she's got a gazillion childhood memories of him and her parents etc going through her mind....

It's not personal.... she's grieving and wants to wait until it's all settled before she can voice the words and know "what's what".

It wasn't 'just' an uncle. He never had children and that's who we were. He was a second dad as well as an uncle. Slightly off point.

Unfortunately it's very difficult to ask about entitlement to money without sounding greedy. That's just the way it is. My uncle would have been appalled at my mum's behaviour - he was a generous man and helped us all financially - he would have helped me with my health problems had he been alive. Perhaps this is the hardest thing to think about - I think he would have wanted us to benefit in some way, especially as my sister and I are both struggling to stay financially afloat.

marliepanda

Turmoilat37 wrote: »

It wasn't 'just' an uncle. He never had children and that's who we were. He was a second dad as well as an uncle. Slightly off point.

Unfortunately it's very difficult to ask about entitlement to money without sounding greedy. That's just the way it is. My uncle would have been appalled at my mum's behaviour - he was a generous man and helped us all financially - he would have helped me with my health problems had he been alive. Perhaps this is the hardest thing to think about - I think he would have wanted us to benefit in some way, especially as my sister and I are both struggling to stay financially afloat.

Then he could have spent some of his £2 MILLION plus and made a will. Costs cherrybobs.

Faith177

Turmoilat37 wrote: »

It wasn't 'just' an uncle. He never had children and that's who we were. He was a second dad as well as an uncle. Slightly off point.

Unfortunately it's very difficult to ask about entitlement to money without sounding greedy. That's just the way it is. My uncle would have been appalled at my mum's behaviour - he was a generous man and helped us all financially - he would have helped me with my health problems had he been alive. Perhaps this is the hardest thing to think about - I think he would have wanted us to benefit in some way, especially as my sister and I are both struggling to stay financially afloat.

Maybe your mum is more clued up than you think



Maybe she knows from past experience that if she helps you and your sister out now it wont do you any favours in the long run and youll be back in the same position in a few years when the money she has given you has long gone. How are we to know we only have your side but from what you have put on seveal comments thats the impression I am getting of you

As someone else said if your uncle was that bothered that you his "surrogate children" be taken care off he would have made arrangements for this

Sorry but I agree with AylesburyDuck you are not painting yourself in a very good light and come across as extremely jealous of the money and thinking of making demands that are not yours to make.



I feel sorry for your mum that you are making comments like this behind her back

honeypop

Was just going to say the same, if you think he'd have wanted you to benefit now, how come he didn't ensure this would happen by making a will?


I love my nieces and nephews very much, and have made sure that they are counted for in my will, because that's the only way to ensure they get what I want them to have.

spadoosh

Turmoilat37 wrote: »

You know nothing of the personal relationships within my family, or the complexity of the situation or the history of the situation. Did you know for example that my Uncle was our guardian as my mum has mental health issues and we frequently stayed with him?
I requested practical advice - you have zero grounds to judge me without knowing the full situation..
If you'd also taken the time to read my post more carefully, rather than make a nasty dig about being a gold digger, you would have seen I'd accepted it was my mum's money to do with as she wishes. I don't agree with it, it's very different to how I would have behaved but I'm entitled to that opinion.

Like i said so many different views....

Some think its greedy to not be given money that isnt theirs, some dont want to share their inherritance, some expect inheritance, some dont.

I think im entitled to my opinion when you post a question on a public forum. No intention for it being a nasty dig (are you having one at your mum when youre calling her greedy?). I was just highlighting what i saw as double standards.