Pay daughter for doing ironing?

st999

A friend of mine has been recently widowed and prior to this he and his wife were paying someone to do the ironing, I think it was £15 a time.

Now that he is on his own there is of course less ironing to do and he suggested to his only daughter that she could do the ironing instead of paying someone to do it.

She is married with 3 teenage children and doesn't work.

She replied with "OK I will do it for what you were paying ironing lady, it will give me some extra spending money"

He, of course, thinks she should do it for nothing.

What do others think?

tizerbelle

I think if he is physically capable, he should do his own ironing.

barbarawright

Why can't he do his own ironing? Or buy shirts that don't need it?

DUTR

st999 wrote: »

A friend of mine has been recently widowed and prior to this he and his wife were paying someone to do the ironing, I think it was £15 a time.

Now that he is on his own there is of course less ironing to do and he suggested to his only daughter that she could do the ironing instead of paying someone to do it.

She is married with 3 teenage children and doesn't work.

She replied with "OK I will do it for what you were paying ironing lady, it will give me some extra spending money"

He, of course, thinks she should do it for nothing.

What do others think?

It doesn't matter what other think as they won't be affected.
The daughter is married and has her own family, the father unless physically incapable should be doing his own ironing.
Ironing is one of those things that are irrationally hated (like washing a car) both are no bother really.

HampshireH

I believe if he was and is happy to pay someone then why not pay the daughter.

If he thought she would do if for free then surely they would have asked her way back when rather than employ somone in the 1st place

Pollycat

If he doesn't want to pay his daughter, he can always continue with the arrangement he and his wife had.

I'm (usually) happy to do anything for anybody but when expectations come into it, they can go whistle Dixie.

Of course, he could have negotiated her down by pointing out that there would obviously be less ironing.

And if she wants extra spending money, she could always look for a job.

System

I think he ought to continue to pay his ironing lady.

seven-day-weekend

I think he should carry on paying his ironing lady too.

Loz01

Surely he can iron himself? If not, no better time to learn. I dont see why his daughter should do it for free just because she's a woman.

74jax

I have a cleaner, last summer I asked DD if she fancied doing it for extra money and she said yes but stopped after a couple of weeks. So wouldn't bother me at all to have DD iron for me.

But it's not me. He can iron himself, pay the original person or pay his DD. Any is fine. I certainly don't think his DD should do it for free.

Robisere

How old is dad? I am 73 and always help my wife with ironing, usually doing my own clothes but if she is unwell I do the lot. Since April, OH has had a new hip and shortly afterwards I had a serious (Pancreatic cancer) Op. I am in chemotherapy for 6 months, but still doing whatever I can to help. Whilst my wife recovered, I did everything domestic. When I first went into recovery, my wife did everything.

As I got better, I began sharing chores again. It's sad that this man has lost his wife, but he must have had a wife who did everything for him, and he cannot change. I have always been able to wash, iron, shop, clean house and do everything that I consider I should help with. It's called sharing and it's part of a good relationship.

Why doesn't DD teach dad how to iron?