Possible affair

paye

mate slap yourself not once but three times, You need to stop thinking about your sister inlaw as it will end very very badly.

waamo

Go for it. I mean what could possibly go wrong?

If you have to ask it means you already know the answer.

coolcait

This is like an (even worse) version of the bad old 'joke' about the guy

"whose fianc!e's hot sister tells him that she's always wanted to get frisky with him. The guy turns round straight away and heads for the front door. Before he reaches the door, his fianc!e and all her family burst out of another room (where they've been eavesdropping) and congratulate the guy on having passed the test and showing how faithful he is".

('Punchline' available on the internet for those who don't already know it).

Maybe your wife doesn't want to wait another 18 months, with you in the house, to get a no fault with consent divorce

If you fall into little sister-in-law's honeytrap, you could find yourself helpless, homeless and hated pdq. Much less time than 18 months.

If you can't keep it in your trousers for all the good reasons that have already been given, maybe you can keep it in your trousers so that you don't end up as a punchline.

ItsNotRightButItsOK

Thank you so much for all your comments, it is just what I needed!!

Now whenever I need a reminder of what I should be doing, all I need to do is look at this thread.

FBaby wrote: »

How about you start looking at her with the eyes of a stranger? I'm looking and I'm see a woman, who is prepared to not only betray her husband, but also her sister. She doesn't care about the impact it will have on them, two people she supposedly love, she is selfish. Well, she'd say she care but can't help herself, so really she is a hypocrite and weak. She'll come up with excuses, so she is shallow. She can't say no so she lack control and integrity... I could go on, but without looking at her physically, she comes across as extremely ugly.

Can't you see that ugliness?

This really helped me see her in a completely different light, and you are correct of course, not sure how I didn't see that before.

It also has been a long time since I have felt desired by a member of the opposite sex, so that also really plays a part and I do need to remember how I feel in context with what else is going on and use my BRAIN more..

Thank you for those who have said that I need to avoid spending time with her as well, will defo do that where I can.

fishybusiness wrote:

Nothing wrong with the attraction Itsnot.

Thing is, she is spoken for, regardless of how they may seem to be not getting along.

There are people out there (men and women) that want an affair and suggest to onlookers (those they want to affair with) that their relationship is done for, and then go home and continue their legitimate relationship.

Perhaps one way forward is to go out with someone else - will shake your emotions about and give you a different focus.

You are right in that a going with someone else will shake my emotions and perhaps see me as me a bit more. That is easier said than done of course...


So yes, onwards and upwards. I will avoid her, keep myself busy and focus on making a life outside this family. Focus on my long term happiness.

onomatopoeia99

coolcait wrote: »

Maybe your wife doesn't want to wait another 18 months, with you in the house, to get a no fault with consent divorce

If you fall into little sister-in-law's honeytrap, you could find yourself helpless, homeless and hated pdq. Much less time than 18 months.

Don't follow "homeless" - it's his house too, if the soon-to-be-ex is unhappy with his romantic conquests while they wait for the two years or it to be sold, she can move out. Him committing adultery doesn't change it being his house as well as hers.

I'd avoid the sister, or anyone in a relationship though.

gabriel1980

I would just go for it! She wants it, you want it, just try not to get found out.

fishybusiness

What an archaic phrase to use.

Probably sexist too.

Point is that from a blokes point of view, this lady is part of another relationship, and from a blokes point of view he should leave well alone and walk away.

JReacher1

On the positive side if you nail her sister you will be able to fast track the two year divorce!

Iamadored

Hugely disrespectful to your ex-wife, and the rest of her family. How would you feel if she decided to have a fling with your brother or your father?

We can't help our feelings but we do not have to behave like animals. If it is going to cause harm, don't go there.

If your sister-in-law is willing to hurt her husband and her sister, she will have no qualms about hurting you.

If you can successfully keep it a secret between the two of you, you can have your fun and no-one would know. But the fear of being discovered is going to be stressful. Is it worth it?

To get your mind off it, can you start serial internet dating? Play the field. Sow your wild oats where they can do no harm.

nimbo

My first thought eeeeeeeeeeugh to sleeping with anyone who refers to you as their brother. That always used to be my line when trying to put male friends off.

Also join a dating site. Be honest about you upcoming divorce. You don!!!8217;t need to be looking for a next wife. But go on a few dates with someone who are not related to your WIFE. If you doink her sister You!!!8217;ll end up on Jeremy Kyle. Or she!!!8217;ll boot you out or make living in the house unmanageable. Make sure the big head does the thinking.

Also don!!!8217;t be responsible for ending the sister in laws matriage. If she wants out she needs to be a big girl and tell her husband - you!!!8217;ll end up getting the !!!8216;blame!!!8217; if you go there. You will be the villain for years to come. Sisters falling out. Sister in laws husband hating you. Their parents taking sides. Getting divorced is awful enough already don!!!8217;t completely wreck your WIFE!!!8217;S support network for 7 minutes in heaven.