Crazy Cat Lady Chapter 3 - A New Beginning

SpekySquarehead

Morning CCL,

Hope your neck and shoulder pain eases up. Sorry to hear you're being bothered by ex's in a non-direct way. I think you're doing the right thing in keeping it close to your chest for the time being as there's no point in involving the kids at this early stage.

f0xh0les

Hugs.

(Apparently Hugs is too short to be a message)

So Hugs again.

crazy_cat_lady

Morning :hello:
Police rang me back at half nine last night to say that they'd found him and he was 'safe and well' and returned him home. I asked where they'd found him but apparently I'm not entitled to know that any more. Fair enough - I am pleased that he's safe but I do wish he'd get on with trying to sort himself out.
I slept well but feel quite tired today, and still grumpy so I'm not very refreshed by all accounts.
I'll be back on properly later to check in. It's payday today so I am rich just for one day, which is quite exciting.

joeyjimbles

Hope you have a calm day

beanielou

Al least you know he is safe!

foxgloves

Hi CCL,
Oh dear, what a worry. Glad he was found safe & well, anyway. You are sounding remarkably together these days, so go you! We all get tired, fed-up, irritable & stressed at times, the difference is having the ability to "keep on b*ggering on", as I think Churchill said, & I definitely get the impression that you are managing a good deal more than that.
F x

crazy_cat_lady

Well.
Quarter to three my phone rings - same number as yesterday from ex's work. So I answered. Do I know where he is? 'No. The police rang last night and said he was home safe and well.' 'Well he hasn't come into work again and isn't answering his phone or the door, and we've been round twice because we're worried, and he also has a works van, but that is nowhere to be seen.' I'm afraid I told the man that he should contact the police and report the van stolen, because when ex did that to me he took my car and it turned up in the North of Scotland the next afternoon. I literally have no clue what has happened this time but I wouldn't be surprised if he's run away in the work van somewhere.
Fast forward an hour while I'm running a revision class and the phone rings again. This time it's the police. Do I know where my ex husband is? Still no. Just because his boss from work is at the station and is worried for his welfare and needs the van. Explained again that I haven't seen him for months, and am not speaking to him and have not for weeks. Seriously. What a stresser. Hopefully it'll get sorted - I feel a bit bad leaving them to it but it's really no concern of mine any more and it's exactly the reason I couldn't be married to him any more. Thankfully the kids are still completely in the dark about the whole thing.
That has kind of spoilt my afternoon and evening if I'm being honest - I'm not worried, but a bit annoyed that he's still behaving like this.

GlendaSugarbean

Honestly? Being annoyed about this rather than worried and scared is a massive step forward. He is responsible for sorting his ... stuff ... out and that is not your job any more (thank goodness!).

Buffythedebtslayer

GlendaSugarbean wrote: »

Honestly? Being annoyed about this rather than worried and scared is a massive step forward. He is responsible for sorting his ... stuff ... out and that is not your job any more (thank goodness!).

I agree with this, it must be hard at times but he is absolutely not your issue now. It is a pain people even ring to say they can't find him! Especially when they can't say where he is.

I am mess re work. Hope yours is doing ok XXX

Honeysucklelou2

Does the ex have any other family member who could be contacted as his next of kin?